Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 So i broke up with my bf of 3 years a few days ago because lately he wasnt paying much attention to me...it seems as if he had more important things in his life than spent time with me or even talk to me. I know guys need their space from time to time to spend with their friends and hang out, but is it normal for them to be on their phone constantly talking to "friends" while your at their house trying to spend time with them, or when you call at night they ignore you because they are playing video games drinking and smoking with their friends? I was having second thoughts the day after i broke it off, so i called him to talk and he didnt seem like he wanted to talk. He said he was going to find something to eat and then play his video game to call him the next day..and clicked. I kept calling back a thousand times and he didnt want to answer the phone and barely texted me back..seemed like he didnt or wasnt interested in fixing anything. I changed my number the next day so he wouldnt call me or text me in the future and confuse me like usual. I really miss him, but im not going to go back just because i miss him..if i am going to go back to the same crap there is no point of "us" anymore. But, did i do the right thing? Or did i exagerate?
sunrae Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Second thoughts are always natural... Sounds like to me you did the right thing, or thats what I would have done anyway. Sounds like he was ignoring you, even when you were together. I think you did the right thing... Go out and find someone who will pay you some attention that you deserve.
LovelyDaze Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 You did wonderfully. If your ex is really like that, it sounds like he is taking you completely for granted and doesn't care. Your ex feels comfortable in the fact that you have and may still call him to hold the relationship together. What sucks is that he can kick back, play video games, hang with his buddies and do absolutely nothing to contribute to the relationship. It's time to go NC and change things up. Try it for a couple of weeks. This will not only test your strength but prove to your ex that you value yourself and that you are far from being a doormat.
paleblue Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 sounds like you did the right thing to me. it doesnt sound like he is interested in a relationship acting like that. he blows you off for video games? give me a break. iit doesnt sound like it matters to him whether you are around or not. and that is not really a relationship anymore.
gaudi Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 If it's exactly as you've said it is, then it sounds like you didn't have much choice other than to end it. But are you doing it because you really want it to end, or because you want him to realise what he has/had and possibly convince him to change his ways ???
Author Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 WELL, in a way ive always thought that our relationship was over but i kept having hopes that someday everything would get better. But whenever i thought we were over for good and i started to move on without him he always came back in my life and made my feelings for him come back again. I was never the one to contact him he would always call or text and like always i went back.....i always forgave him. Now im just really tired because its beEn like this for 3 years. I know we were just used to each other but why was it that everytime we brokeup he was alredy talking to someone else? its like he always had a back up girl and then when it didnt work for him i was the next option, he took advantage of me. The last 2 times we got back he seemed like he was really sorry and he seemed like he wanted us to be toguether..but since i had no trust every little thing that seemed suspicious to me i would get mad and try to break up, its like i was trying to get out before i got more attached and hurt. It might seemed as if i liked the drama but, some of you might understand the feeling when you want to be with one person but you know deep inside he isnt the right one for you, and specially because you cant trust them and they dont know how to gain your trust back. the reason why i changed my number was because, my mind wants to forget about the past and about him, my heart doesnt want to hurt no more and i dont want to cry no more. i dont want to keep hoping things will get better. i dont want to be the only one putting effort in this relationship. maybe i want to settle even though im young (20), i dont like the whole changing bfs like changing underwear idea. i want to be with just one person. AND my ex even though he said he wanted that with me he never showed it..and probably never wanted that. thats why were at this point........................im not a drama queen or anything but if you guys knew what i have been thorugh with this guy you would say "what the hell have you ben with this guy for? are you an idiot?leave him and dont waste you time looking for advice because you already know whats best for you!"........i just...idk man i feel alone...like i need someone to boost my self esteem, and tell me everything will be fine.....i just want to let everything i have holding in my mind all the anger all the thoughts that run through my head with a stranger because everyone else knows my story and they know we always get back toguether so they dont even pay attention or give me advice no more.
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