Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 i got a blow off email....not even a call. got some BS excuse about not being able to call. something along the lines of "busy this week...blah, blah, blah. and blah blah blah...how about next week?"
hoping2heal Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 i got a blow off email....not even a call. got some BS excuse about not being able to call. something along the lines of "busy this week...blah, blah, blah. and blah blah blah...how about next week?" Yeah she isn't interested. She's just trying to be "nice".
alphamale Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 i got a blow off email....not even a call. got some BS excuse about not being able to call. something along the lines of "busy this week...blah, blah, blah. and blah blah blah...how about next week?" well if she offered an alternate time to get together thats still a good sing. tell her you'll see her next week and then go into NC mode for 4 or 5 days
OnlyJake Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 i got a blow off email....not even a call. got some BS excuse about not being able to call. something along the lines of "busy this week...blah, blah, blah. and blah blah blah...how about next week?" So did you ignore the email?
hoping2heal Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 well if she offered an alternate time to get together thats still a good sing. tell her you'll see her next week and then go into NC mode for 4 or 5 days A good sign? No it isn't. She's just trying to be gentle. When a woman is interested in a man, You could call her in north america and she could be on vacation in south america, and she will be there in 2 hours. I have this friend who was CONSTANTLY getting the "Busy life" from girls. He legitimately thought they were so busy they didn't have time to see him. If a woman wants you, there's not much she won't put on hold or compromise with time to be with you.
alphamale Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 If a woman wants you, there's not much she won't put on hold or compromise with time to be with you. yes i understand that but i'm trying to keep sj1976's hopes up. she could be really busy this week and next week is better for her. you never know. but he should still try. if she is evasive next week then i would say its over. but there is still one more shot left.
hoping2heal Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 yes i understand that but i'm trying to keep sj1976's hopes up. she could be really busy this week and next week is better for her. you never know. but he should still try. if she is evasive next week then i would say its over. but there is still one more shot left. Try to keep his hopes up? For what? How long ago DID you get hit in the head by that alarm clock? Anyhow, fair enough. You will be no better or no worse OP to see what happens in the next week. So, I suppose there is no harm in just waiting it out so you can call it official, but at the lean, mean, hope crushing machine of this thread she just honestly doesn't seem into you. In my younger flakier years before I wasn't afraid to say "Let me know when there is a blizzard in hell." I used this same flake-out technique.
Ms. Joolie Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 yes i understand that but i'm trying to keep sj1976's hopes up. she could be really busy this week and next week is better for her. you never know. but he should still try. if she is evasive next week then i would say its over. but there is still one more shot left. Agree. And I never new how awful it could be when females start canceling! No wonder guys came up with that horrible little word... 'flake'. When I would cancel on a guy, I was truly busy. I had other priorities. lol. But, yeah, THAT'S not what you are looking for in your date. The right person will be available and ready for you. Be wary of cancellations on those early dates.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 If I am truly that busy I offer a concrete time and plan. Such as,"This week I am too busy b/c I am doing X, Y and Z, on these dates. I am unbusy on Day C, and I would like to meet at Time G, at Place R. I can't wait to see you!!!!!!!!!" While I smell blow off, I say email her with concrete plans then see what her answer is.
CLC2008 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I don't know guys, his first post said 2 quick kisses and that's really it after 4 dates...? If she's attracted to him, she'll want some sort of physical affection/contact with him during those dates. Even if the roles were reversed, if a woman went out on 4 dates with a guy and he wasn't showing any type of physical affection, she'd conclude he's not interested just the same.
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 I have made it quite clear I am interested....but maybe the lake of physicality did me in. I'm going no contact for good. If she wants to see me, she will get in touch with me. I emailed back saying "Sounds good, let me know about next week". Frankly, I'm not all that interested right now anyway, but was interested in giving it a shot, WHILE dating other people.
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 yes i understand that but i'm trying to keep sj1976's hopes up. she could be really busy this week and next week is better for her. you never know. but he should still try. if she is evasive next week then i would say its over. but there is still one more shot left. she did have legitimate excuses for this week....but not even an offer for the weekend? I dunno, whatever....I truly believe it wasn't going anywhere anyway - she probably sensed that after Saturday night. Frankly, I can do way better.....
alphamale Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I have made it quite clear I am interested....but maybe the lake of physicality did me in. I'm going no contact for good. If she wants to see me, she will get in touch with me. I emailed back saying "Sounds good, let me know about next week". Frankly, I'm not all that interested right now anyway, but was interested in giving it a shot, WHILE dating other people. boy this sounds just like my "no kissy kissy" thread except i did make the move and got blown off. either way i'm going out with that same chick friday nite:lmao:
CLC2008 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 boy this sounds just like my "no kissy kissy" thread except i did make the move and got blown off. either way i'm going out with that same chick friday nite:lmao: Well gee Alpha, seeing all your diff posts on here...does it really matter?
Orchid8 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 i got a blow off email....not even a call. got some BS excuse about not being able to call. something along the lines of "busy this week...blah, blah, blah. and blah blah blah...how about next week?" I'm sorry darlin but this is definitely a blow off. An email?! Oh come on! If a girl was truly interested, she would not email, regardless of what's going on in her life. She would pick up the phone and call. If I am into a guy, it would not take more than half a day for me to respond to his request to meet up. If it takes longer than that, it means that I'm just not that into him. If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time chasing her.
alphamale Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time chasing her. i say give her one more chance for next week
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 i say give her one more chance for next week like I said, I'm going no contact. I told her to let me know about next week. its in her court. im done chasing. i showed enough to let her know i am def. interested. sure, i may have flopped on the physicality, but the vibe wasnt really there anyway. with my last GF, we were in her bed after date #2 or #3 (no sex)....and she pulled me there.
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 I'm sorry darlin but this is definitely a blow off. An email?! Oh come on! If a girl was truly interested, she would not email, regardless of what's going on in her life. She would pick up the phone and call. If I am into a guy, it would not take more than half a day for me to respond to his request to meet up. If it takes longer than that, it means that I'm just not that into him. If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time chasing her. after i saw the email I was like "well thats that". I mean, she couldnt even pick up the phone? lame. i dont want to be with someone like that anyway...though its not the first time she textd or emailed instead of calling.... Also, I took her out to real nice places and treated her very well. I deserved better than that half azzed effort. ALTHOUGH..... She did say "I wanted to make sure you didnt think i was blowing you off"
Orchid8 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Yes, totally agree! You do deserve better than just an email or a text that says "I will call you tomorrow" and ends up emailing you instead. Seems like she may have something else going on and wants to keep you stringing along should that something else doesn't work out. If you have the patience to wait and you are interested, I say give it one more try to meet up but PLEASE don't let her get away with blowing you off again. Be done if she doesn't give you a firm date next week.
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Yes, totally agree! You do deserve better than just an email or a text that says "I will call you tomorrow" and ends up emailing you instead. Seems like she may have something else going on and wants to keep you stringing along should that something else doesn't work out. If you have the patience to wait and you are interested, I say give it one more try to meet up but PLEASE don't let her get away with blowing you off again. Be done if she doesn't give you a firm date next week. thanks sweety;) she actually said "lets talk tomorrow"..not "call", but now I'm just splitting hairs!! Like I said, not a lot of chemistry there. totally cool, but no sparks.
someotherguy Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Time to cut bait and remember not to make the same mistakes with the next one, that's all!
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