Ms. Joolie Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 yeah, i was thinking that "this is going to be perfect to see what we have here". I'm not sure what stopped me. Inexperience, her not doing anything really. I mean, if she just would of sat close, I would of went in for the kill. So you were just being passive... just 'expecting' it all to come together... sigh. I know. I do that to. It's a no-no. We have to do our part in the relationship. You know yours.
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 So you were just being passive... just 'expecting' it all to come together... sigh. I know. I do that to. It's a no-no. We have to do our part in the relationship. You know yours. Game on Joolie!! I know what I have to do. What do I have to lose????
Ms. Joolie Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 What do I have to lose???? Your house, your car, your dog.... jk
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 I'm a little worried though. My intuition is usually right on and I'm thinking this may be a no go. That being said, I'm still going to give it a shot....
alphamale Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Help me judge where I stand with the 4 dater: ok Date #1 and #2 = Nice dinners, great convo's, solid chemistry. At the end of date #2, she grabbed the back of my head and kissed me. Short but sweet. thats good Date #3 = Dinner out. She was clearly sick and stayed home from work, but still kept the date. It went great. Lots of laughs, great convo, etc. Dropped her off and no kiss. I think it was plainly understood she was sick and we didn't want to swap germs. you should have kissed her anyways, even if she was sick. but the fact that she didn't cancel is a good sign... Date #4 = This is the ONE!!. Brought takeout, wine and movies to her place. Ate dinner, watched the movies til 1:30am (from 7pm). We sat 1ft away from each other on the couch, but never got closer during the movies. when a chick invites you over to her crib thats an open invitation to get closer....sometimes it means sex sometimes it doesn't. but you are "in the door" so to speak I was hoping she would cuddle up. its you job to initiate the cuddling and making out stuff Not very manly for a guy to cuddle up there is nothing wrong with cuddling, chicks love it. if you can't cuddle you're in trouble She also thanked me 'for taking this slow' and was genuinely appreciative of it. i don't know what this means. personally i think you should have been a bit more assertive. if she invites you over it means at least a make out session should take place even if you hold off on the sex As we said goodbye, I softly grabbed the back of her head and gave her a soft, quick kiss. Nothing long, nothing too special. borrrrring *snooze* She hasn't contacted me other than a text after I left since date #4 (2 days ago) because she wants you to contact her Do I contact her tonight and try to firm up for this week or let her contact me? yes but keep the call very short and to the point...don't talk with her for more than 5 or 10 minutes. Your help is always appreciated! you're welcome
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 sounds good alpha... I always plan on the phone convo lasting no more than it should. quick and to the point. for some reason, I won't be surprised if I get the voicemail tonight....not sure why I am feeling like I may have blew it here.... Thanks again!!
alphamale Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 ....not sure why I am feeling like I may have blew it here.... no i think you're ok you just need to do some damage control. on the next date you have to be more assertive and take charge. she already likes you.
OnlyJake Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 no i think you're ok you just need to do some damage control. on the next date you have to be more assertive and take charge. she already likes you. Agree! Let us know how it goes
Crazy Magnet Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 It's time for you to lay a big smacker on this girl! Next time you take her out, hold her hand, put your arm around her. Even if you can't really do a lot of touching while sitting down and eating, you can do a lot while walking to and from where ever you are going. But DANG dude, kiss her already! And not a peck. I don't think you've completely blown it, but you're right when you say the next date is make it or break it. You can do it! Good luck!
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 no i think you're ok you just need to do some damage control. on the next date you have to be more assertive and take charge. she already likes you. I hope you are right...
alphamale Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I hope you are right... i know i'm right assuming the info you presented is correct and you didn't leave out anything important
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 i know i'm right assuming the info you presented is correct and you didn't leave out anything important I believe I included everything....
alphamale Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I believe I included everything.... then i think we're good to go
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 then i think we're good to go i'll keep you updated....lets see what happens here...going to call and setup the next date tonight.... thanks again alpha!!
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 Well, I got the dreaded voicemail......dun dun dun..... 75% chance its done I think....
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 thats a shame, what did she say? no...i left one for her
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 got a text back...whatever that means...she doesnt know her schedule for the week supposedly...but will call tomorrow....
New Again Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 got a text back...whatever that means...she doesnt know her schedule for the week supposedly...but will call tomorrow.... If you don't hear from her tomorrow, you'll have your answer I guess. Way to keep you in suspense I sense a blow off. Hope I'm wrong.
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 If you don't hear from her tomorrow, you'll have your answer I guess. Way to keep you in suspense I sense a blow off. Hope I'm wrong. eh...i think you may be right/////on to the next. time wasted
Author stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 whats the update sj1976? I got a text about 30 mins after I called saying that she was with family. She said she didn't know what her week looked like yet and asked if we could talk tomorrow (which is today) about it. She mentioned a complication in her week that she had forgotten about.... i think its a good sign that she textd me back right away...but not to sure about already possibly throwing out excuses. I textd her back this morning telling her its cool, no rush.
alphamale Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 i think its a good sign that she textd me back right away...but not to sure about already possibly throwing out excuses. we'll see how it goes, keep us updated
alphamale Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I got a text about 30 mins after I called saying that she was with family. She said she didn't know what her week looked like yet and asked if we could talk tomorrow (which is today) about it. She mentioned a complication in her week that she had forgotten about.... i think its a good sign that she textd me back right away...but not to sure about already possibly throwing out excuses. I textd her back this morning telling her its cool, no rush. so what happened?
hoping2heal Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 When are we going to get the Chip Windsor dating experience? We could use some comic relief around here.
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