Kristine Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Okay I met this guy on-line, he said it's up to me but he's had a jaded past and I want him to feel comfortable that I'm not seeing some guy on the side. However there's the whole 6 month guarantee thing and removing it means I'd lose out on that guarantee for a guy I'm only semi-sure about. Okay I like him, pretty sure anyway, but I'm not so sure how he feels about me. He's seeing me tomorrow, says he misses me when he doesn't see me, says he likes me more and more, stuff like that but then he has said things like he thought the last girl he was with was the one and she turned out not to be, but he did just get divorced so she could have been the rebound girl KWIM? Or I could be the rebound girl, he is moving kind of fast. Well I need to know, should I hide my profile or not? Thanks.
Art_Critic Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 You do it when you are exclusive... You might want to talk about it with him.. be open and upfront When I met my wife I had just signed up for the 6 month plan and then bam I met her a few weeks after activating my profile.. It was in no way a waste to let the other 5 months expire while my profile was deactivated since I married her and we have a child together today
Author Kristine Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) Well last night we talked about dating only each other, but he included the remark that he only dates one woman at a time and when he is with that person he is with her completely. We haven't had sex yet, I'm not ready, we've had 3 dates in a week. A big part of me thinks I should hide my profile but then I get some iffy signals from him so that's the cheap a$$ part of me. Also I did talk with him and he said it was completely up to me, that he doesn't want to force anything. He also said he's not a jealous type but if someone else enters the picture he's done. Edited January 18, 2010 by Kristine further explain the situation
Art_Critic Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Don't hide it until you either have the talk or he hides his and announces to you that he did that.. If you take it down now before a talk or having sex then you are sending a message to him that he doesn't have to work for it.. Right now you are still on the market ( or at least that is the way you need to make yourself look ). Is his profile still active ?
Author Kristine Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 Thanks for your advice ArtCritic, I'm so not a dater. I just checked and yes his profile is active. So it looks like I'm leaving mine up, you made that so much easier.
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