fresh-one Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I dated this girl for 4 years (lived wit her 2), so anyway she broke up with me over 4 months ago. Have had zero contact in those 4 months until i wake up to a text message from her that says "happier now?". wasn't sure if i shoulda answered but i did anyway. She goes on to tell me about her new boyfriend and that shes moving when he comes home from the navy. So i wish her luck and all, then she starts with the wanting to see me and come over so i can hold her. so like a typical guy i takes it as a booty call and tell her to come over. So than after askin me if she can come she tells me she doesn't want to hurt her new boyfriend or hurt his feelings. so i tell her no biggie enjoy your life. so its been a week and i havent heard from her. im curious if any1 knows y she texted me at all. like after 4 months and after she has a new guy that she changing her life for, why bother me about this ****? any1 got ideas?
broncosfrk83 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Most likely just wanted to make sure u were still there for her. She is using u as a back up plan dude. Get out while you can. If you want her back then your best bet is to show her your better off and that your moving on. She will defiently second guess things then.
MySweetie'sGone Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I dated this girl for 4 years (lived wit her 2), so anyway she broke up with me over 4 months ago. Have had zero contact in those 4 months until i wake up to a text message from her that says "happier now?". wasn't sure if i shoulda answered but i did anyway. She goes on to tell me about her new boyfriend and that shes moving when he comes home from the navy. So i wish her luck and all, then she starts with the wanting to see me and come over so i can hold her. so like a typical guy i takes it as a booty call and tell her to come over. So than after askin me if she can come she tells me she doesn't want to hurt her new boyfriend or hurt his feelings. so i tell her no biggie enjoy your life. so its been a week and i havent heard from her. im curious if any1 knows y she texted me at all. like after 4 months and after she has a new guy that she changing her life for, why bother me about this ****? any1 got ideas? Ego boost...
LovelyDaze Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 It's not good that is it. I've had that happen to me before too. She'll probably do it again. Classic Plan B. I think she's probably unsure about this other guy. Ah, perfectly said. Yes, your ex is a classic case...wants to keep you in an emergency glass case because she is not really sure she wants to stay with the new guy at all. BOTH of you guys should run screaming from her. She doesn't have a sincere concern for either one of you. Most exes have a serious problem with their self esteem and must satisfy that by making sure its validated by others, not themselves. The key to confidence and integrity is to find your self worth without people telling you. go NC now and always on this ex. She is not in a good place in her life right now and wants to drag you down in the basement of a disappointed life right with her.
bananaboat11 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I'm sorry man. I honestly don't know how to respond but other than say... be strong. if my ex ever broke NC.. I don't know how I'd respond... and I hope she doesn't.
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