kiki30 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Is it normal to be jealous if you have a friend of the opposite sex and they are dating...something that fades, or an indicator of feelings? I found myself crying after finding out my male friend starting to date (a friend of mine) we have always been close, but after today I'm starting to wonder if I have been harbouring feelings for him that I haven't admitted to myself. anyone else experience this?
alphamale Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I found myself crying after finding out my male friend starting to date (a friend of mine) we have always been close, but after today I'm starting to wonder if I have been harbouring feelings for him that I haven't admitted to myself. now that he is technically "off the market" your romantic interest has skyrocketed. don't worry, its common. now you need to start scheming on how you'll get him away from her
Author kiki30 Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 actually if i do remember correctly, last year this time when I was dating this guy I remember this same male friend, getting territorial and acting really weird one time when all three of us ended up at the same coffee shop. So maybe? this is just a matter of wanting what you don't have? I really don't know how to handle this, should I just put some distance between him and and I and my friend and I for a bit? We are all in the same circle of friends and I had a horrible time trying to navigate
alphamale Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 So maybe? this is just a matter of wanting what you don't have? pretty much I really don't know how to handle this, should I just put some distance between him and and I and my friend and I for a bit? We are all in the same circle of friends and I had a horrible time trying to navigate its really up to you and your feelings kiki30
xpaperxcutx Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) Actually the question would be why you guys didn't get together when the both of you were single? I would actually think it'd be more of a friendship territorial thing simply because now that he's with someone else, his attention is more divided. I know that when my friends are in relationships, I feel left out like a third wheel. Edited January 18, 2010 by xpaperxcutx
Author kiki30 Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 thanks paper cutz Maybe you're right, I do feel really close to him but we have never taken things there, for me I think that I was always afraid to ruin our friendship and he is younger than be by 5 years... I hope it is just a territorial friend thing, I generally dont have a problem when he dating other women, but now it's my friend, whom I hang out with on the regular, so its uncomfortable and is creating a wierd dynamic. Anyone else we have space to do our own things, but I don't know how to handle this - it is quite apparent that there is tension when all three of us are around, she seems to get jealous when he talks to me and vice versa. I would rather avoid the whole thing altogether, which means I would have to distance myself from both of them and we have the same circle of friends which is difficult to do since we work together. Awkward doesn't cover it
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