Author Jersey Shortie Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 If you come across offline the way you do hear it can be a turnoff to men. - Woggle That's pure bull & you know it - Sharkhunter My feeling is that you probably did something to make these shorter guys feel insecure - cognac Knowing how women are, if I get the hint that a woman thinks she's better than me (you make it obvious in your post that you thought that) and is overconfident, I book. - cognac Made up story. This never happened. - OpenGL I love it. I come on here to share a few recent dating experiences and instead of the men here trying to open their minds. I am blamed, I'm told it's most likely something *I* did and that I am infact making this up. Unbelievable. Of course it could only be something the woman did right? And of coures, if a short guy actually rejected a woman, she could only be making it up right? LOL. But to readdress some of these qoutes: My feeling is that you probably did something to make these shorter guys feel insecure - cognac If you mean by breathing, then quite possilby I did..because I did breath on the date. However, my attention was focused on the person I was with because I make it a point to focus my attention on who is choosing to spend time with me. Which is more then alot of men with wandering eyes can say. And infact, one of these men had a wandering eye. Knowing how women are, if I get the hint that a woman thinks she's better than me (you make it obvious in your post that you thought that) and is overconfident, I book. - I never said I was better then these men. I said I would have been happy to date either one to get to know them. I siad they would been lucky to have me on their arm. I quite possibly would have been lucky to have them on mine. But you never considered that did you. One man was very very gracious. He bought me a cup of coffee..we had an easy flowing conversation..laughed..talked about each other...yada yada yada..a few days later sent me a very polite email saying that he had fun but didn't feel a romantic spark...which I thought was cool. The other guy, I traveled an hour to see him so I could see him play a gig at this bar. He didn't even pay for my drink...we had a decent conversation...and that was it. My standards were not real high here. The second guy I went out with because he wasn't my usual type and I thought that might be a good idea.
lino Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 But I don't. I don't come off the same in real life as I do online. I am quite sweet, personable, smile, laugh and like to joke around alot. I am quite charming. So lets not turn this thread into that. Thanks for the laughs!
GAchasen Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I met this guy online. We ended up dating for 5 months. He was 5'8 and I'm 5'9. I usually don't like to date below 5'9, since I feel a little odd. I'm prone to taller men simply because it makes me feel better:) I'm not saying I wouldn't date shorter, however, I don't go searching for shorter men ever. Mainly, short or tall it really is insignificant in the grand span of things, what is their personality....how do they treat me.....how do they treat others.....???? Now....that is important to me.
Woggle Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Maybe it would benefit you if you listened. No matter what their height might be a man can spot a bitter woman from a mile away and tend to run. You sound like you would bite a man's head off for looking at you the wrong way and that might be the reason they rejected you.
phineas Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Where the hell do you people live? I'm 5'8" & i'd say most of the women I see walking around are shorter than me. A few are very close to my height & I rarely meet women taller than me.
GAchasen Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Where the hell do you people live? I'm 5'8" & i'd say most of the women I see walking around are shorter than me. A few are very close to my height & I rarely meet women taller than me. I live in GA! lol...where do you live?
lino Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Where the hell do you people live? I'm 5'8" & i'd say most of the women I see walking around are shorter than me. A few are very close to my height & I rarely meet women taller than me. Yeah this height problem that some of the guys experience is not something I'm familiar with either. But then again I'm not in the USA.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) Maybe it would benefit you if you listened. No matter what their height might be a man can spot a bitter woman from a mile away and tend to run. You sound like you would bite a man's head off for looking at you the wrong way and that might be the reason they rejected you. First off, you are the last man on this board who should be lecturing about being able to spot a bitter member of the opposite sex and how it turns someone off. You are also the last man on this board that should dare to lecture about listening. Secondly, you've dared to come on my thread and lecture me about no listening about something so completely unrelated to the topic at hand. My openning post is really quite simple. Short men reject too. Simple. Easy pesy. Thirdly, I've already addressed this. Ironically, you talk about "listening" while ignoring the comments that have already addressed your intial and repeated comments. It's your choice to continue to ironically ignore my previous post that addressed this and continue to form your own conclusions that are based on your extremely scewed board-only perception. But please don't sit there and lecture about listening in the next turn. It's a joke. *I* am the one relating a personal experience here. I've had four men tell me I am lying or that it's me. I am not even blaming men anywhere in this thread! My personal experience is to show you that short men reject too and there has been such a ridiculous offensive outcry for relating that very real life experience. I am flabbergasted. This post is a perfect example of the way some male posters here rather blame it all on women then looking inward to themselves about what they can fix within themselves that might be turning off women. My point in this post is to show that short men reject too. It's really that simple. And this thread and broken down into a crap fest of SOME men on one poster that was mearly relating her personal experiences with two shorter-average guys that she was interested in getting to know better. I love it. I really do. There is really no hope for a few of you. If you want to discredit everything a female says, that's your choice. But no female is going to stick around for that kind of degradement. Edited January 18, 2010 by Jersey Shortie
counterman Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Well said, Jersey Shortie. I think your intentions for making this post and the post itself is lovely. I hope it does give hope to other shorter people out there. Sometimes we face experiences that often lead us bitter and disappointed. I, for one, believe that there are positives in every experience. I think a few of you may have been rejected or mistreated by women due to your height and it is very tough and it does hurt when that is the case. But remember, these women aren't worth your time and instead of focusing on those women, and generalising, know that there are others out there who don't care and would love to date shorter men. I wouldn't want to date a girl that is taller than me by more that an inch and there are always girls shorter than me that would be interested. Recently, Jamie Cullum got married to Sophie Dahl! She's like 6 ft and he's 5ft 5. And you know what I love about it? Sophie isn't afraid to go out in front of the media, she doesn't care what her family or friends think and hell she even wears heels! It is always easier to blame others but height is something we have no control over so we all just have to deal with what we have. The things we can work on are inside and sooner some of you realise this, you'll be much happier. Instead of focusing on all these height issues, can't you rejoice in the fact that you can still have fun? Some of these threads just turn upside down and spin way out of control and it gets tiring.
PinkToes Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 No matter what their height might be a man can spot a bitter woman from a mile away and tend to run. OK, explain this to me. When a woman says she can recognize a bitter, angry man from a distance and prefers not to date him because of that, some of the posters on this site say that's nonsense and they're not clairvoyant and that women avoid them only because they're short. So men are able to sleuth out the bitterness, and women are just plain judgmental?
dreamergrl Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Someone explain to me how it is that all the woman who have dated a shorter guy are liars, but all the shorter guys who have been dumped and rejected because of their height only are telling the truth.
ella23 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Someone explain to me how it is that all the woman who have dated a shorter guy are liars, but all the shorter guys who have been dumped and rejected because of their height only are telling the truth. No idea. Maybe I was just imagining those short guys I dated.
dreamergrl Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 No idea. Maybe I was just imagining those short guys I dated. Maybe it was just a dream?
ella23 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Maybe it was just a dream? Yes, that must be it. I mean, I couldn't possibly have dated a short guy! You wouldn't either, would you?
dreamergrl Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Yes, that must be it. I mean, I couldn't possibly have dated a short guy! You wouldn't either, would you? No way! How dare those average guys exist!
Author Jersey Shortie Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 Yeah, and I totally just made up a thread so I could lie about being rejected. Well said, Jersey Shortie. I think your intentions for making this post and the post itself is lovely. I hope it does give hope to other shorter people out there. Thank you counterman! Recently, Jamie Cullum got married to Sophie Dahl! She's like 6 ft and he's 5ft 5. And you know what I love about it? Sophie isn't afraid to go out in front of the media, she doesn't care what her family or friends think and hell she even wears heels! Beautiful!
ella23 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Yeah, and I totally just made up a thread so I could lie about being rejected. Yeah, because it's our moral responsibility to make short guys feel better. lol.
dreamergrl Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Yeah, because it's our moral responsibility to make short guys feel better. lol. Do you, Ella, swear to give all short guys a chance, even if they have crappy attitudes and hate women? Do you promise to love them and cherish them regardless of how bitter they are? Do you promise to stick with them through sickness and spitefullness?
ella23 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Do you, Ella, swear to give all short guys a chance, even if they have crappy attitudes and hate women? Do you promise to love them and cherish them regardless of how bitter they are? Do you promise to stick with them through sickness and spitefullness? Of course not.
Stung Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Woah temple you're razor sharp this morning. Where do you get your material from? Or did you read it in cosmo? I'll make sure to come up with some schoolyard fat jokes or better yet, ethnic jokes, next time women are talking about themselves. Hopefully everyone will be a good sport (especially women) and we can all laugh together. Will you join me Temple? I don't even need to know your weight race religion or sexual preference, I've got a thousand jokes about women which my friends think are hilarious, that I'm itching to tell. I'm sure you would never report me for such a thing, right? I hope you don't think it's remotely surprising that you have a thousand woman-bashing jokes at your disposal . You've been all over this board claiming women in general are less intelligent, less emotionally and mentally developed, have less depth, and are generally less worthwhile human beings than men...and you can't take a shoe-size joke? Maybe you need to take your ball and go home. Meanwhile you've conveniently ignored, yet again, any evidence handed to you that contradicts your theory, and if called out on that directly, either answered only half of a post OR called the woman a liar. Your debate techniques suck.
Oh Moe Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Just having this conversation is shallow. I'm 5'5" tall and a little overweight,(weight lifter) so your saying you would date a person and then just break up because they're short. That' shallow how do you know he may not be the nicest, richest person you may ever meet. I've never dated someone and dumped them because of their physical attributes. Maybe I'm shallow and short. LOL
Author Jersey Shortie Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 Who are you talking to Oh Moe? And why is having this converstation shallow?
Pizzaman81 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I only date girls I find worthy to rejecting me.
TheBigQuestion Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Great, yet another medium in which the girl who is lukewarm about me can be influenced. I really wish I lived in a post-apocalyptic world with no hollywood or george clooney and just pull random women onto my motorcycle. Thanks for proving my point. If you're tall looks and skills matter, but you can still get a girlfriend as long as you are over 6 feet tall. If you're 6 feet tall you're going to meet women much easier than a guy whose 5'7. If you have any friends 5'7 and down who aren't rich/have arnold bodies, you know full well how much the situation sucks for us. You've still gotten 2 "ultra hot girlfriends",despite a disheveled appearance and no social skills (you admitted). Compare that to guys like OPENGL who work really hard on their appearance, attitude, financial status, etc and still don't get girls. You're 22 and have had 7 girlfriends. I am 21 and have had 0 girlfriends. While I may be exaggerrating a bit, 7 to 0 is still a huge advantage, no? I see reading comprehension is not your best asset. I said I've had ONE girlfriend. The others were sexual partners who were either one night stands or were women that ultimately rejected me for some reason or another. Your assumption was that I got laid pretty much every night while I was in college. This is not true by any means and I demonstrated that. So that makes your assumption wrong, which means you didn't prove any point. I simply proved my point that guys who are above a certain height are not living some sort of idyllic life because of it, and to be honest, I've had a harder time meeting women (much less women worth talking to) than most people I know who are shorter than I am. And since you're so into "frat guy" stereotypes, the guy I knew who did all the things you said I was able to do just because of my height was is not 6' tall. He's 5'7", he's not "buff," speaks somewhat awkwardly due to having false front teeth from an accident years ago, and is reasonably good looking. Women throw themselves at him. You know the reason why? He has the ability to make every woman in the room feel like a million bucks as soon as he walks in. Every guy I've met who could get large numbers of women interested in them had one thing in common: they really knew how to talk to women. They were skilled in the art of conversation and understood women on an intuitive level. It had nothing to do with height.
OpenGL Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 And since you're so into "frat guy" stereotypes, the guy I knew who did all the things you said I was able to do just because of my height was is not 6' tall. He's 5'7", he's not "buff," speaks somewhat awkwardly due to having false front teeth from an accident years ago, and is reasonably good looking. Women throw themselves at him. You know the reason why? He has the ability to make every woman in the room feel like a million bucks as soon as he walks in. Every guy I've met who could get large numbers of women interested in them had one thing in common: they really knew how to talk to women. They were skilled in the art of conversation and understood women on an intuitive level. It had nothing to do with height. Never happened.
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