nc2me Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 i have been dating this girl for a while now and everything is great between us, we get along, talk about things etc. Reacently she got in a fight woth her friend and mentioned having sex with someone in her room without her knowing. i know she didnt mean anything to me about it but now i cant get the thought out of my head. i am still a virgin and think sex should be something specail and not thrown around especailly trying to brag about it. im not sure how to either deal with it myself or what to say to try to work it out with her? i am in love with this girl but at the same time i cant feel like if we had sex it be anything specail to her. i am willing to do anything to make us work but its just tearing me up knowing about her past. is there nything i can do to try and forget about it? and what should i say to her about how it?
doushenka Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Wait, she's had one other partner? In this day and age, she's practically a nun. If it bothers you that much, sit down and talk about this. It sounds like you have some differing views on sexuality, and unless you can reconcile them, that doesn't give me hope for the relationship.
Author nc2me Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 she has had serveral this is just the first i heard about and bothers me the most.
doushenka Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Okay, so if she doesn't talk about the guys she's been with, where do you get the impression that she believes sex is something to brag about? Also, does she know your views on virginity?
Author nc2me Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 i feel like she brags about because it seemed to be something she was "proud" of doing in her friends room. and i havent told her how i feel about so thats what i was trying to get advice on...or if theres any way that i cn deal with it myself
doushenka Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 No. Absolutely do not deal with that yourself. Communicate with her on this if you want to go forward.
OnlyJake Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 If you two have such strongly different views on the topic of sex, I fail to see how this relationship can work.
seibert253 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 You will never get the anwers to your questions until you ask. Plain and simple. If the two of you cannot just sit down and talk openly and freely, you've got big problems ahead.
FireManJ Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Most women in our culture are sexually broken. This one is no exception. Any woman who will have sex with multiple people with out any sort of life long commitment considers sex recreational. Please understand. She is BROKEN mentally. You can't fix her. She'll never see sex in it's true light. To her sex is a bodily function, same as eating, sleeping, what ever. Yeah, she's nice, but people who have recreational sex have a cold unreachable spot in their soul that you'll never thaw. If you get closer to this girl, she will find out your views on sex, and she WILL NOT respect you for them, in spite of her saying to the contrary. Some thing deep with in her will view you as weak, and she will weigh you against the more agressive guys she's had. When she does, she'll find you lacking, and her contempt for you will grow. Buddy, this girl is attracted to your pheremones, not you! Don't ruin your life with some one who has chosen to act like an animal. Because that's how she's going to live the rest of her life. Sure that's what you want?
AAlike Posted January 26, 2010 Posted January 26, 2010 Most women in our culture are sexually broken. This one is no exception. Any woman who will have sex with multiple people with out any sort of life long commitment considers sex recreational. Please understand. She is BROKEN mentally. You can't fix her. She'll never see sex in it's true light. To her sex is a bodily function, same as eating, sleeping, what ever. Yeah, she's nice, but people who have recreational sex have a cold unreachable spot in their soul that you'll never thaw. If you get closer to this girl, she will find out your views on sex, and she WILL NOT respect you for them, in spite of her saying to the contrary. Some thing deep with in her will view you as weak, and she will weigh you against the more agressive guys she's had. When she does, she'll find you lacking, and her contempt for you will grow. Buddy, this girl is attracted to your pheremones, not you! Don't ruin your life with some one who has chosen to act like an animal. Because that's how she's going to live the rest of her life. Sure that's what you want? Hey, Pat Robertson! what's up man! I see you're going by "Fireman J" now - I like it better than your other alias "2WHITE4URTHQUAKES" - it's a little more subtle. Not a great play on that Haiti comment - that was even too crazy for some crazy people, but this post here is a nice return to form. Subjugation of women and condemnation of sex doesn't create as much of an "aftershock" here in the States if you catch my drift...but you say one thing about the less fortunate (and less likely to enjoy the beach!) making a pact with the devil and they're all over you! I mean, what gives? Speaking of the devil, do you think that it's him that is breaking all of those women? I avoid those compulsive fornicators, so I wouldn't know, but wouldn't you think that they'd realize that sex is a horrible, horrible thing? I would ask my mom, but I haven't talked to her until she explained what sex was to me on my 18th birthday and I immediately stopped talking to that dirty harlot when I realized that it wasn't a stork that brought me here! Anyway, give me a buzz sometime - we'll have to get together for a game of "straights n' flushes" (I changed the name from "poker" because that name is obviously sexually suggestive) and maybe a quick session of "pin the blame on the jew"! Let me know!
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