patman1 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 You know the saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater"... Is that true for everyone? I think it's a little harsh for those who really learned from their mistakes and it's not fair to use it against those people who has fought to make it right with their loved ones. What do you think?
Ronni_W Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I think it's like any other behaviour -- individuals who want to change it, can. I'm not even sure it has anything to do with "learning from mistakes." It's more about deciding for the self, "I don't want to do that anymore." To me, it's the same whether it's cheating or nail-biting. It just needs the genuine desire to stop, and then of course, following-up on one's desire. Even if it has become addictive behaviour, I still think it can be changed. (Not that I buy cheating as an addiction...but even if it is considered as such, there's still therapy or a 12-step program that will help cheaters stop if and when they really want to.)
AkashaRose Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 On some occasions, yes...others, no. Really it depends on the situation during the relationship that the cheating has occurred, IMO!
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