jeffery Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 i was with this amazing girl for 2 and a half years, then she wanted to be single as we are both young at heart, i agreed let her do what she wanted, then she starts a new relationship within 2months of the break up, anyway nearly for months has passed since she is with this new fella and she wont stop emailing me or texting me, sayin how she really miss me,everything about us, and she says i cant not have you in my life, that she thinks about all the time...then i tell her how i feel bac,that i feel the same way then she says i duno what i want because i with tom (her boyfriend) but she keeps texting/emailing me stuff and i have said i'd rather have no contact with her... then she text's my sister saying we should go out for a drink or something and that my ex is always there for her....would it have anything to do with sex...me not preforming???
Blossom78 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 It probably hasnt got anything to do with that..my opinion is she is keeping her foot in the door so to speak. She is either keeping you or her bf as a back up plan incase the other fails. Im no expert though..just my opinion
HLP234 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Looks like she just wants to keep you around incase something bad happens with this guy. Girls that just get into a relationship right after breaking up are always behaving like this. If you guys left on good terms, don't show any compassion and be indifferent about it. You have to look out for yourself and if she doesn't understand that then maybe she should also be single and take time to figure herself out. If you had someone else right away she would be jealous no doubt. I wouldn't respond to her texts or anything. Keep to yourself and don't feed in too much to her. Let her figure out what she wants, give it time, but also make yourself available to other people. You can't force her to do anything, it was her choice to get into another relationship. She is just having doubts now.
oneheart Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 I would tell her no and to stop contacting you. How would you actually feel if you got back together with her... would you trust that she didn't still like the bf she is with now?
hoping2heal Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 i was with this amazing girl for 2 and a half years, then she wanted to be single as we are both young at heart, i agreed let her do what she wanted, then she starts a new relationship within 2months of the break up, anyway nearly for months has passed since she is with this new fella and she wont stop emailing me or texting me, sayin how she really miss me,everything about us, and she says i cant not have you in my life, that she thinks about all the time...then i tell her how i feel bac,that i feel the same way then she says i duno what i want because i with tom (her boyfriend) but she keeps texting/emailing me stuff and i have said i'd rather have no contact with her... then she text's my sister saying we should go out for a drink or something and that my ex is always there for her....would it have anything to do with sex...me not preforming??? Really? All this trouble over a girl who has a boyfriend and behind his back is always texting/emailing you and telling you she misses you, etc. ? Boy oh boy no good ever comes out of this crap, it really doesn't. If someone being shady with YOU on their CURRENT partner isn't enough to open your eyes a little bit and worry about what their values will mean in relation to you, I don't know what is. I think unless you're all that bored in life, you should spring this chicken loose and never look back.
gaudi Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 I think your better off out of it. She tells you she thinks you should both be single because you are young and then she shacks up with this other guy. Don't get me wrong, I know this kind of thing happens when you are young. But leave her to it. You're young too right ?? So what's to stop you going and finding what's out there for you ?? You might think you have found one girl who makes you feel very special, one amazing girl, well that's great. But when you start to get older you'll thank yourself if at some point you decided to go out and find one or two others who make you feel even more amazing. Put this little fishy back in the pond. Go and see what else is out there for you !!!
nobmagnet Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 wise words fom liverpool chappy!! tell her to sh*t or get off the pot honey! she isnt what you need. its her loss for sure so just try to heal as best you can and get back out there! nobby xx
seibert253 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 You're her back up plan. She's stringing you along because she knows she's got you hook, line, and sinker. You need to stand up for yourself, and as another poster put it, tell her it's time to sh#t or get off the pot. Him or me, choose. She's probably gonna tell you she's confused, needs time, blah, blah, blah. Fine, tell her she's got one week. The go cold, run silent, run deep. Go NC. Don't call her, don't return her texts, nothing. If you really feel compelled to answer say "still waiting for your decison", then nothing else. At the end of day seven, if she's still uncommitted, text her that as far as you're concerned, she's made her decision, and to NEVER contact you again. Yeah it sucks, but you deserve better.
HLP234 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 You're her back up plan. She's stringing you along because she knows she's got you hook, line, and sinker. You need to stand up for yourself, and as another poster put it, tell her it's time to sh#t or get off the pot. Him or me, choose. She's probably gonna tell you she's confused, needs time, blah, blah, blah. Fine, tell her she's got one week. The go cold, run silent, run deep. Go NC. Don't call her, don't return her texts, nothing. If you really feel compelled to answer say "still waiting for your decison", then nothing else. At the end of day seven, if she's still uncommitted, text her that as far as you're concerned, she's made her decision, and to NEVER contact you again. Yeah it sucks, but you deserve better. That is what I should have done when my ex wanted a break. I asked her how long and she said she didn't want to put a time frame on it because she wanted to see if it work out or if we are meant for each other. Yeh right..now I know its all BS talk. I should have done what you just said and then that way the decision would be in my hands as well. Instead, I let her go about it the way she wanted and she left without even letting me know..how nice.
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