Have to spend all day with ex on wednesday. Maybe start of second chance

[canadaman111]

Have to spend all day with ex on wednesday....

My wife moved out almost 3 weeks ago now. I love her a lot and hope we can get back together sometime. We have had pretty limited contact since she left. The contact we have had is cause of our 2 sons.

 

On wednesday this coming week my youngest son has a appointment to see a specialist. This has been set up for 6 months now before any of this happened. When she left I kept the car, but she really wanted to be there for this appoinment so I told her she could come along. The appointment is a 2 hour drive each way so we will end up spending the whole day together.

 

While i know this is for our son I am hoping for this day to go real well and maybe be the start of us getting back together. I am trying to keep my expectations low, but it is hard.

 

What advice do you guys have for me for dealing with this day. I know the obvious, don't discuss our past relationship together, don't tell her I love her, don't try to hug her etc. I just have to show her I am happy and have fun with her and see where it goes.

[patman1]

I know that feeling so well. Here's the thing you have to realize is that you can hope inside but don't expect anything! if she left and you come across as the person wanting to make it work out then I think it'll just make her more distant. Instead, just make it seem as though you're doing okay without her and make small talks and little eye contact. You have to keep telling yourself that it takes two to make a marriage work out and if she has already given up then what's the point of being in a marriage when you're the only one whose carrying all the burden?