aloneinseattle Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 (edited) Well things have changed a lot since I last posted. My ex contacted me and I like a fool went to go see her. Well she has a bf now and we ended up making love again. She then told me how much I hurt her, and what I did to hurt her, it really made me feel so sorry for it so I told her how sorry I was and for her to forgive me and give me another chance. She declined and said it was too late and she has already moved on and so should I. And that she did not care or love me anymore. It really was like a dagger in the heart but I did not show her how much it hurt me. So the following day she calls me and tells me not to call pursue her anymore and she can not just keep lying to her bf. So I calmly told her I respect her choice, and I apologized to her again for hurting her and told her I would not be calling her anymore. A few days past and she calls me like nothing happened. Then we made arrangements to do laundry together, went to pick her up she folded my clothes and held my hand, sat on my lap etc. It really makes me feel bitter sweet. I feel happy and hurt when I see her. So I decided in my heart the best thing to do was not talk to her anymore since she already made herself clear to me that her and I do not have another chance. So then today a day after we did laundry she calls me again. I waited a few hours and called her back. She said oh I was just wanting to know how you were doing so I called you. Now I feel like CRAP. Constantly thinking about her with her bf drives me crazy!!!! Edited January 17, 2010 by aloneinseattle spelling
Austen Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 So sorry this is happening to you. But at this point, you need to go NC with her. Tell her that she either wants you or she wants her new boyfriend, but she can't have both. And then don't talk to her. Let her figure out what she wants from a distance. You deserve better than this. It sounds like you're both having trouble letting go, but if you don't, the pain will only get worse. Hang in there and be strong!
PinkToes Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 I'm so sorry you are back in that painful space. Just be glad you're not the boyfriend she's cheating on.
sedgwick Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Doing laundry with the ex who just told you she didn't love you: bad idea!! I know you know that, but still, my ex really hurt ME and there is no way in hell I would meet up with him to do laundry! Plus, she's cheating on her bf with you -- would you really want to be with someone like that, or would you always worry that she was cheating on you with him (or someone else?) She sounds messed up...
DenverBachelor Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 How in the hell can two ex's have sex / make love and then proceed to have a conversation afterwards about how one can't see the relationship continuing. That seems like an extremely waffling type of personality. Or perhaps sex is just like sharing two cups of coffee in some people's eyes?
Author aloneinseattle Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 How in the hell can two ex's have sex / make love and then proceed to have a conversation afterwards about how one can't see the relationship continuing. That seems like an extremely waffling type of personality. Or perhaps sex is just like sharing two cups of coffee in some people's eyes? I agree DenverBachelor, it is really tearing me up inside, I have all these feelings for her and love for her, but I can not even tell her because, she said she don't even care.
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