aerogurl87 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Today my recent ex and I were talking and we started talking about why I dumped him. I basically told him point blank that it was because he didn't show any emotion even after I kept asking him to do so. I mean we dated for close to 4 months and I think I heard him say I was pretty once. Never did I hear him say he cared about me, that he missed me, or anything like that unless I asked him if he did or if I said it first. And even then sometimes he'd just smile or say "ok" in this emotionless voice. He says his actions should've shown he cared about me, which they did. But really I'm wondering did he really expect me to put up with his complete lack of verbal emotion forever? He says words don't mean s**t and I can agree with that at times. But sometimes it's nice to hear someone cares about you, especially when you tell them you care about them alot and don't get anything said to you in return. By the way, we're still friends, and we're still on good speaking terms but I just still can't grasp his logic even post break up. What do you all think? Was I wrong to end things because of his lack of emotion? P.S. There were other issues that also contributed to the break up, like him being a smoker that was unwilling to even try to quit (I'm a nonsmoker) and his ambiguity about the future. But this was a big component of why I decided it was time for me to move on.
Zeegagge Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Everybody values different traits, he didn't have what you were looking for.
Author aerogurl87 Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 Everybody values different traits, he didn't have what you were looking for. Yeah I know that. It sucks too because he was such an awesome guy, but you can't change someone into something their not. I still don't see how that was too much to ask though. Once a month would've been enough for me but I never got anything. And to make matters worse, when we first started seeing each other he'd text me like 3 or 5 times a day telling me he was thinking of me or that he missed me. Then when we finally made things official it all came to a stop out of nowhere.
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