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bac Established Member

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I can understand that a man who looks for only ONSs or a f..k budy requires a kiss on 1-2th dates. It is clear that if a girl kisses every Joe on 1-2th dates, she may go for sex on 1-3th dates more easily. So, the guy will not waste his time on dating and he will get laid as soon as possible. It is logical and reasonable for a guy who is interested in just getting laid with anyone who is fine with that. He does not care for quality of a girl but he cares only for the end result and the real numbers of intercourses.

 

I can not understand why a man who looks for a quality girl or some kind of relationship, even FWBs, would care for a kiss on 1-2th dates.

 

It is so simple to figure out that a girl does not like you. If a girl vanishes into thin air and stops answering your emails/calls, it means she does not want you. You should contact her first after date and if she did not respond she may not want you. Because after date, a girl is waiting for your email/call, she does not think that she should contact you first. I think that it is fine to contact a girl several times if she did not respond.

 

Another sure thing is when a girl says you that she dislikes you and that she does not want to date you.

 

In other words, there are only two ways to say that a girl does not like you. First, she does not respond to your multiple emails/calls. Second, she says you directly that she does not like you and does not want to date you. That is so simple and there is nothing more about it.

 

A girl can not kiss a man on the first dates because of herself.

It has nothing to do with a man.

Some girls believe that it is a great idea to kiss, and f...k every guy who they meet.

Other girls believe that they are sluts if they get physical with everyone who wants some action. So, those girls do some selection among men which involves to get to know a guy during several dates.

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citygal1 Member

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I would have no problems kissing a man on the first date if it went really well. But some women might be a bit more conservative or want to take things slow when it comes to dating.

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Chicago_Guy Established Member

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I can understand that a man who looks for only ONSs or a f..k budy requires a kiss on 1-2th dates. It is clear that if a girl kisses every Joe on 1-2th dates, she may go for sex on 1-3th dates more easily. So, the guy will not waste his time on dating and he will get laid as soon as possible. It is logical and reasonable for a guy who is interested in just getting laid with anyone who is fine with that. He does not care for quality of a girl but he cares only for the end result and the real numbers of intercourses.

 

I can not understand why a man who looks for a quality girl or some kind of relationship, even FWBs, would care for a kiss on 1-2th dates.

 

It is so simple to figure out that a girl does not like you. If a girl vanishes into thin air and stops answering your emails/calls, it means she does not want you. You should contact her first after date and if she did not respond she may not want you. Because after date, a girl is waiting for your email/call, she does not think that she should contact you first. I think that it is fine to contact a girl several times if she did not respond.

 

Another sure thing is when a girl says you that she dislikes you and that she does not want to date you.

 

In other words, there are only two ways to say that a girl does not like you. First, she does not respond to your multiple emails/calls. Second, she says you directly that she does not like you and does not want to date you. That is so simple and there is nothing more about it.

 

A girl can not kiss a man on the first dates because of herself.

It has nothing to do with a man.

Some girls believe that it is a great idea to kiss, and f...k every guy who they meet.

Other girls believe that they are sluts if they get physical with everyone who wants some action. So, those girls do some selection among men which involves to get to know a guy during several dates.

 

But look at it from a man's perspective - there are many women who will take advantage of men and agree to go out on dates with guys whom they don't like that much just so they can get free entertainment. Men need to draw the line somewhere. Men are aware that some women date multiple guys at once and no guy wants to be paying for a date for a woman who is going to go hook up with some other guy later that night or the next day.

 

I certainly don't expect sex on the first or second date but there had better be a decent kiss by at least the second or third date or I have to assume that I am wasting my time.

tami-chan Established Member

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I know a couple of male acquaintances who say they not kiss women if it is only a ONS....it does not make sense to me ---i mean, ok to stick your thing in her, ok for her to give a BJ, but no kiss....hmmm...:confused:

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But look at it from a man's perspective - there are many women who will take advantage of men and agree to go out on dates with guys whom they don't like that much just so they can get free entertainment. Men need to draw the line somewhere. Men are aware that some women date multiple guys at once and no guy wants to be paying for a date for a woman who is going to go hook up with some other guy later that night or the next day.

 

I certainly don't expect sex on the first or second date but there had better be a decent kiss by at least the second or third date or I have to assume that I am wasting my time.

 

I would never just go out with a guy I wasn't interested in just for the "free entertainment" and I'm pretty sure a lot of other girls here wouldn't as well. It's leading the guy on and will only get more awkward when he does try to make a move.

I may have not kissed a guy on the first date in the past... but then again it probably would was because I wasn't even interested in him and would not accept a second date anyways. I think a sweet kiss good night on a first date is totally within reason.

Sigh.. I actually really love kissing... in fact I think it's my favorite thing to do! :laugh: like I want to go meet a guy right now just so we can make out for a while! lol!

 

but back to you Alpha... what made her a bad kisser? was everything else flowing with you guys? is the bad kissing thing a total deal breaker? do you think it's something you two can "work on"? ;)

samsungxoxo Established Member

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I don't kiss on the first date, never did and never will. Lack of interest? Nope, it's just the way I am.

You can always find a girl that holds your same views about dating and relationships if she wasn't what you were looking for.

Itzo Established Member

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I just got home from my first date with Dawn. Things were going good. We were getting touchy-feely a bit. Then we got to the bar and i went in for the kiss and shes like "oh sorry alpha i don't kiss on the first date"

 

i was like wtf?! :rolleyes:

 

i guess i don't like girls that don't do kissy kissy on the first date...

 

i don't know if i'm going to call her again but then again she may be blowing me off although she was giving off mostly positive vibes - she didn't mind holding hands and me putting my arm around her

 

what gives?

 

What the hell?

 

She tested you MAN ... she pulled the strings & you did not even noticed it!!!! :D That was a SH*T TEST! Women are doing this subconsciously! So I am not saying that she PLANNED to NOT kiss on a first date ... this is just a non-sense, because it is a subconscious process. There is nothing to THINK about it. Period!

Itzo Established Member

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I don't kiss on the first date, never did and never will. Lack of interest? Nope, it's just the way I am.

You can always find a girl that holds your same views about dating and relationships if she wasn't what you were looking for.

 

I do not believe you!

You were not just interested in him enough to do it :D

This is not the way you are ... this is just the way YOU THINK you are :D

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I don't kiss on the first date, never did and never will. Lack of interest? Nope, it's just the way I am.

You can always find a girl that holds your same views about dating and relationships if she wasn't what you were looking for.

 

so if your all time biggest crush...(who is your favorite actor?) took you out on a date and you had an amazing time, you wouldn't let him kiss you?

samsungxoxo Established Member

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so if your all time biggest crush...(who is your favorite actor?) took you out on a date and you had an amazing time, you wouldn't let him kiss you?
That's different. It's a celebrity we're talking about. If it's Justin Timberlake, ok........... yeah had a crush on him since I was 12.
bac Established Member

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i don't know yet...but not being a good kisser is a big negative

 

 

out of synch and tongue sticking out....it was like she was licking me. weird.

 

i don't meet a lot of chicks that can't kiss well

 

Alpha, IMHO, what you have described about her kisses means that she has a good imagination and when she kissed your lips she thought that it was the bottom of your balls. That is why her tongue was sticking out and she did licking. Therefore, it was not weird at all, but she just imagined that it were your balls.

BUENG1 Established Member

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Alpha, IMHO, what you have described about her kisses means that she has a good imagination and when she kissed your lips she thought that it was the bottom of your balls. That is why her tongue was sticking out and she did licking. Therefore, it was not weird at all, but she just imagined that it were your balls.

 

Really? :lmao:

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alphamale Established Member

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yea so i guess you guys were right. this Dawn girl likes me the most out of the girls i've gone out with lately.

 

i talked with her yesterday and she seems pretty receptive. we may or may not go out this weekend depending on her kid.

 

but yea shes the front runner right now...

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alphamale Established Member

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yea so i saw Dawn fri nite. shes very interested. unfortunately she seems like a nice normal girl which isn't really floating my boat. she's worn the same outfit the three times we've gone out. and her shoes, don't even get me started on that.

 

i think she has "nice guy syndrome" but in reverse.

 

i don't know how far this will go with her. i'm already starting to lose interest

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