bac Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I can not kiss any man on 1 and 2 dates. I can not kiss a man even I am totally smitten by him and horny about him. It feels disgusting to kiss a stranger with whom I have no rapport yet. To me kissing is the most intimate thing in sexual intimacy. I need to feel a huge chemistry to do that on 1 date. I would rather have vaginal sex than to kiss a stranger in lips. Many men in 40s have bad breath on first/second dates. Their teeth look dirty/unhealthy and probably their saliva is full of bacteria and viruses and also smells and tastes unpleasant. I typically think about the above things that is why I do not like to kiss everyone.
Author alphamale Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 I can not kiss any man on 1 and 2 dates. I can not kiss a man even I am totally smitten by him and horny about him. It feels disgusting to kiss a stranger with whom I have no rapport yet. To me kissing is the most intimate thing in sexual intimacy. I need to feel a huge chemistry to do that on 1 date. I would rather have vaginal sex than to kiss a stranger in lips. Many men in 40s have bad breath on first/second dates. Their teeth look dirty/unhealthy and probably their saliva is full of bacteria and viruses and also smells and tastes unpleasant. I typically think about the above things that is why I do not like to kiss everyone. that seems a bit uptight to me
bac Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Actually, I was not able to kiss a guy,who I really liked, even on 2 date. He did not contact me anymore. Before, I was not able to kiss a guy, who I did not like, on the second date. He did not contact me anymore. But, it is Ok. I believe that if any of those guys liked me, they would contact me anyway and they would understand that I was just shy and not ready to kiss on the 2d date.
tkgirl Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 that seems a bit uptight to me so have you asked her out again? If you do... go out, have fun, get to know her more and see if she's someone you even like. Then when the night ends, just go in for the goodnight kiss, like don't ask her just do it... if she still is wierd about it then I'd say she's not the girl for you.
meerkat stew Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Personally, wouldn't write a woman off for deflecting a kiss on a first date, that's what second dates are for.
carhill Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 If no signs of oral affection on the second date, go dutch (or scandinavian, as it were) after that, or not at all. Personally, IMO, at your age, if you're dating contemporaries, women know if they're attracted and how to act on it without escalation. A kiss doesn't have to be an oral examination. It's a sign of affection and connection. It shouldn't be an issue, IMO.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 hmmm interesting...so you're saying she doesn't want to look like a tramp who kisses any joe that comes along? Yep, that's what goes on in my head anyway. With that said, when my bf kissed me on date #2 we ended up making out on my front porch for nearly 30 minutes! He just looked so YUMMY, I couldn't resist. But we had chatted a lot on the phone between dates one and two (I know, I broke all the LS dating rules with that one, but I go with the flow!) I prefer to pace potential relationships, especially with physical contact, so that by the time sex becomes an issue I'm extremely comfortable. The last thing I want to end up with is awkward sex. UGH! And just because she didn't kiss on the first date doesn't mean she's not a vixen in bed.
Author alphamale Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Personally, wouldn't write a woman off for deflecting a kiss on a first date, that's what second dates are for. well i decided to take the plunge and ask her out again. i sent her a text message saying: "If you would like to get together again let me know when you're free and i'll plan something" now we'll find out definitively whether no kiss is the kiss of death....personally i think she'll say no to a 2nd date but i could be wrong i'll keep you all updated.
Author alphamale Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 i guess you boobs were right, i just got a text back and she wants to get together this weekend.
carhill Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 No kiss but a possible weekend date? Hmm....hope we don't get a repeat performance of the midnight caller....
jw90063 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Your online dating journals are interesting. Do you also keep a written one at home?
Author alphamale Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Your online dating journals are interesting. Do you also keep a written one at home? no that would be redundant, everything is documented here
Island Girl Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 she had small scandinavian lips, like a tube of lipstick would last her three years THIS IS HILARIOUS!! :bunny: Sometimes the men here blow my mind with the things they say.
Author alphamale Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 yea so i just talked with dawn and we're getting together fri nite for dinner. i'm glad you guys told me to not write her off. she said she had a lot of fun on our first date even though she didn't give up the kiss
1000 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 she had small scandinavian lips, like a tube of lipstick would last her three years Next time try kissing the other lips.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Oh so maybe you'll get some smoochy smoochy this weekend!!! I'll get my popcorn ready for the rest of the story!
1000 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 yea so i just talked with dawn and we're getting together fri nite for dinner. i'm glad you guys told me to not write her off. she said she had a lot of fun on our first date even though she didn't give up the kiss Alpha: Have you ever considered the possibility that she might have been feeling shy because she might have felt her breath wasn't perfectly fresh at the time you went for it? (Don't know what you'd been eating/drinking.) Maybe make sure you have mints/chewing gum with you next time? Also try to get her drunk first next time.
Author alphamale Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 I'll get my popcorn ready for the rest of the story! ok Have you ever considered the possibility that she might have been feeling shy because she might have felt her breath wasn't perfectly fresh at the time you went for it? no i didn't think of that
Author alphamale Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 i'm meeting dawn in a couple hrs for our 2nd date. i wonder if she has a "no kissy kissy" rule for date #2. oh well i guess i'll find out. it would be funny if we ended up in the sack tonite
Author alphamale Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 well it turns out shes not a good kisser
OnlyJake Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 well it turns out shes not a good kisser That's too bad.
Orchid8 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I suppose a third date isn't in the works then?
meerkat stew Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 well it turns out shes not a good kisser What are we talking here, "nibbler?" "snake mouth?" "sloppy joe-anne?" "teeth clicker?" "out of syncher?" "face masher?" "ole chappy?" etc. Some of these can be cured, others not so much.
Author alphamale Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 I suppose a third date isn't in the works then? i don't know yet...but not being a good kisser is a big negative What are we talking here, "nibbler?" "snake mouth?" "sloppy joe-anne?" "teeth clicker?" "out of syncher?" "face masher?" "ole chappy?" etc. Some of these can be cured, others not so much. out of synch and tongue sticking out....it was like she was licking me. weird. i don't meet a lot of chicks that can't kiss well
Crazy Magnet Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 well it turns out shes not a good kisser ooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! That's too bad.... It's never good when the kissing is bad.
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