Is moving out of home a good way to lose extreme introvert tendencies?

[DanielH]

I am 20. Heading into my third year at university. I haven't made many friends and if anything have lost some as they go in different directions. I'm getting really depressed at home, my parents are trying to get me to go see a psychologist.

 

Would moving out into university run apartments make me more sociable and comfortable in those situations or would it really just drop me in a different setting with the same problems?

 

Not really relationship stuff but I guess it is about my relationships with other people and I would like to meet someone.

[melodymatters]

I think thats a great idea ! Sometime we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zones.

 

Maybe find a compatible roomate situation, someone you would feel comfortable with but who is maybe a little more outgoing than you. You will end up meeting people or going places though them.

 

If you can afford it, I can't think of a simpler, more practical, commen sense way to get you out of your social funk !

[zetkin]

Would moving out into university run apartments make me more sociable and comfortable in those situations or would it really just drop me in a different setting with the same problems?

 

 

I think it might help. It helped me.

[sadintexas]

Certainly changing external factors/circumstances may help, but you need to consider why you are an introvert. If it's truly location, then you have your fix. Some things come from within. So you'll also need to address whatever fears or reservations you have that cause you to be introverted.

 

Take me for example. I have a bubbly, funny personality. But I have a fear of rejection, of not being accepted. Sometimes, when I let that fear rule, I will be so reserved that people don't get to see my true personality and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. When I'm able to let my personality show through, I have no problems making friends, talking to new people, whatever.

Edited January 17, 2010 by sadintexas

[alphamale]

I am 20. Heading into my third year at university. I haven't made many friends and if anything have lost some as they go in different directions. I'm getting really depressed at home, my parents are trying to get me to go see a psychologist.

your most important goal is to finish school with good grades, you can worry about socializing later on

[DanielH]

I think thats a great idea ! Sometime we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zones.

 

Maybe find a compatible roomate situation, someone you would feel comfortable with but who is maybe a little more outgoing than you. You will end up meeting people or going places though them.

 

If you can afford it, I can't think of a simpler, more practical, commen sense way to get you out of your social funk !

 

Money is the thing that makes me second guess it. I have the money but would it be money well spent?

 

I think I will move out though and I'll find out later if it was worth it.

[melodymatters]

What I'm hearing ( reading) is that YOU think it's a good idea, and you, want to give it a try. That's the best sign, the listening to your gut thing !

 

 

I'd rather you try that, than say: live with your parents and go to a shrink !

 

The former is much cooler and more likely to get you laid !

 

( and yes, don't have TOO much fun, keep up your grades ! Thanks uncle alpha !)