b52s Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I think there's been threads done on this before. But, I'm not sure if this was brought up. I went out with this 45 year old woman that must've had good genes from good looks, because I think her looks followed her in the family tree. lol Anyway, she does work out, and has a booty that is so round that it looks like if you stuck a pin it it, it would pop.....and her boobs were just as round. She looked like a comic book character in a sense. lol Anyhow, very attractive, gorgeous smile and beautiful flowing hair, she also has an 19 year old daughter that's a Hooters waitress that attends a major university. If you were to see them together, they'd probably get "Oh, that must be the older sister" line. I think it might have to do with how a woman dresses AND, the fact she keep her hair long. If an older woman dresses like the current females do (ie - Bebe tank top), and keeps her hair long and flowing. Keep up with college aged fashions....she'll attract the younger men? Anyone?
sagetalk Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Long hair is very important the older women get. Especially if they have great hair. I would never date a cougar type women, but some guys love it. I would imagine they are easier to sleep with, but that could just be an unfair stereotype. They can be very hot, but I'm looking for a different kind of relationship and a family with kids of my own. If I didn't care about having kids, I'd be tempted to date them. Some of them are ridiculously attractive.
Author b52s Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 Long hair is very important the older women get. Especially if they have great hair. I would never date a cougar type women, but some guys love it. I would imagine they are easier to sleep with, but that could just be an unfair stereotype. They can be very hot, but I'm looking for a different kind of relationship and a family with kids of my own. If I didn't care about having kids, I'd be tempted to date them. Some of them are ridiculously attractive. The one I went out with, in particular tended to gravitate towards younger men, not ridicuosly younger, but men in their 30's....she said men her age stop being active (she's not looking for a guy who is hardcore in shape like she is) but someone who likes go go hiking/swimming, etc. She dated a guy her age that sat around the house all day on the weekends being an arm chair quarterback with a beer in hand...he did work, but didn't do crap on the weekends. Apparently, men become LESS Vein (or is it vanity) when they get into their 40's and 50's, while women are actually keep themselves in MORE check as they get older....because women are always doing things to make themselves LOOK younger, while men could care less about looking younger. Am I right? Also, younger women don't need to hit the gym alot to keep lookin' hot, beause they don't really need to, while older women, who realize they start to loose their metabolism and gain weight or keeping themselves in more check. The good side to that is, they aren't too superficial and will probably date a not-so-buff guy (little or no muscle). Some weird trade-off I guess.
sagetalk Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 The good side to that is, they aren't too superficial and will probably date a not-so-buff guy (little or no muscle). Some weird trade-off I guess. I don't have alot of muscle (tall, lean, toned), and if all I cared about was a women's looks, I'd date attractive women late 30's early 40's. They do seem to care less about guys having alot of muscle and behaving badly where girls with a high level of attractiveness that are younger tend to gravitate towards more muscular/bad boy type guys. If you're a thin/slim and a guy, but still want very attractive women, cougar women would probably be a high percentage success rate for you. I can understand why guys do it, hot women are awesome to be with no matter how much older they are.
CarrieT Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I would imagine they are easier to sleep with, but that could just be an unfair stereotype. That IS an unfair stereotype but one that is constantly perpetuated by the young guys who don't leave us alone. I pulled my profile off all of the dating sites I was one because I was not getting any attention from men my own age (I'm 45), but only from kids who see me as a conquest. When I had active online profiles, I was getting two and three messages a day from guys who "wanted to please me," "were turned on by older women," or who "different than all the other guys." WRONG... Yes, we have to work hard to maintain the looks and we have been getting more attention in the press and in the real world because of that stereotype. I admit to being promiscuous, but with men MY OWN AGE -- not boys.
Devil Inside Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I think that women that tend to attract men much younger than them are women that can. They are usually very young looking, confident, and sexy. I would have no problem being with an older woman with those qualities.
MissJoness Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 (edited) Maybe these women just look young for their age and get mistaken for being in the younger guys age group Also, younger women don't need to hit the gym alot to keep lookin' hot, beause they don't really need to, while older women, who realize they start to loose their metabolism and gain weight or keeping themselves in more check. this comment is so far from reality. geesh. I'm young and I need to follow a strict diet in order to keep my figure. Edited January 16, 2010 by MissJoness
Author b52s Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 Maybe these women just look young for their age and get mistaken for being in the younger guys age group this comment is so far from reality. geesh. I'm young and I need to follow a strict diet in order to keep my figure. Actually, it is quite common and realistic, some people, as they get older, will come to terms that their metabolism will slow down and things start to "sag" a bit....thus they figure "Man, i better do something about this, I'm not a young pup anymore" meaning, as a young pup she didn't have to keep going to the gym constantly and watching what she eats.
paddington bear Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 The hair thing is funny - I do think many women get to a certain age and the next minute the hair is cropped short and practical, which I don't think does some of them any favours, it's become almost like a uniform. But then again, you've got to balance that with being 'mutton dressed as lamb' which can appear desperate looking. I'm in my late 30's and last year I had a string of 22 - 23 year olds flirting with me. I'd always say 'I'm waaaay too old for you', but it didn't bother them (still didn't go there, I'm looking for a relationship, not wasting my time with someone so young, who will ditch you for someone younger down the line). I think younger guys are under the misapprehension that you have a bag of sexual tricks that women their own age may not have.
Author b52s Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 The hair thing is funny - I do think many women get to a certain age and the next minute the hair is cropped short and practical, which I don't think does some of them any favours, it's become almost like a uniform. But then again, you've got to balance that with being 'mutton dressed as lamb' which can appear desperate looking. I'm in my late 30's and last year I had a string of 22 - 23 year olds flirting with me. I'd always say 'I'm waaaay too old for you', but it didn't bother them (still didn't go there, I'm looking for a relationship, not wasting my time with someone so young, who will ditch you for someone younger down the line). I think younger guys are under the misapprehension that you have a bag of sexual tricks that women their own age may not have. Yeah, there was this 38 year old woman I knew with 2 young kids, who was dating a recent college graduate age 24...NO joke....not sure what she was thinking, it did last for about a year. I asked her what she was thinking, her logic, apparently was the fact that his family knew HER family, so it wound out being some family thing. About a year later, they broke up with him, and she told me it was because they were at 2 different points in their life...and I almost said, "Duh,I could've told ya that, lol" I guess he was getting a big smile on his face having at ime of his life having sex with a MILF, and probably braggin to his friends about it. He had no kids, nothing tying him down, he had his pick of ALL the women his age that had no kids, and young cuties...but he found himself a hot mother. lol go figure. But it would have been considered "long term" I suppose if you consider a year long term.
sally4sara Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Younger men have always approached me. When I had long hair. When I had short hair. When I wore it up, down, spiked and only 2" long. When I wore slacks and cardigans. When I wore skirts and tight tops. Make up on. Make up off. At bars. At the grocery. Men approach what looks attractive to them and different men like different things - even the things YOU don't like.
Author b52s Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 Younger men have always approached me. When I had long hair. When I had short hair. When I wore it up, down, spiked and only 2" long. When I wore slacks and cardigans. When I wore skirts and tight tops. Make up on. Make up off. At bars. At the grocery. Men approach what looks attractive to them and different men like different things - even the things YOU don't like. I'm just using the "hair thing" as an example......that being said you're splitting hairs (ah ha! A pun!!)
scatterd Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 MY HUSBAND AND i WAS HAVING PROBLEMS MY FRIEND GOT ME TO GO TO THE BAR A FEW TIMES WITH HER.I HAD YOUNG MEN TRYING TO PICK UP ON ME AND ALL AGES.i WONDERED WHAT WOULD A YOUNG MAN WANT WITH A 48 YR OLD I STILL WONDER.I FELT A LITTLE BETTER ABOUT MY SELF THOUGH.
HappyAgain Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 The term cougar is so offensive. The guy I'm with is quite younger but you know what, he thought I was 5 years younger than I really was. By the time we got the age issue out in the open we just liked and cared about each other too much to care anymore. We've both been through previous marriages and we both travel for a living with no intentions of remarrying so it's working out great for us. But do I call myself a cougar?? No way - I fell in love with a man regardless of his age.
CaliGuy Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 It used to be because of ED but now with so many...uhhhh..."ways" to overcome ED, it seems that it's more about the journey than the desintation if you catch my drift.
HappyAgain Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Caliguy, that is so true!! I traded in my old model for one ten years younger!! Woot for girl power!!
Lizzie60 Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Why? Because we can... simple as that.. I see lots of women my age (57) with grey 'boy-cut' hair,... they look more like men than women... they dress in granny's clothes.. but they're probably married.. so... The single older women.. if they want to 'date' again.. they have to keep in shape.. look after themselves... be classy and stylish... Young men still flirt openly with me... it's funny... about 3 weeks ago.. I was waiting for my bus, after work.. this guy (probably late 20)... not bad looking... dirty blond short hair.. he looked at me... then turned around looked again... when his bus arrived...just before he got on the bus.. he turned around, looked at me and give me that awesome smile... hummmm I have absolutely nooooo problem getting guys (good looking) in their 20s... I am not sure what it is... could be a trend.. but hey!.. who's complaining...
RedDevil66 Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I'm 43 and the only guys who hit on me are in their 20's. It doesn't really flatter me. And no, I am not easy to sleep with. And yes I do take great care of myself, but I think MANY women in their 40's are now taking great care of themselves
tkgirl Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 (edited) I think that women that tend to attract men much younger than them are women that can. They are usually very young looking, confident, and sexy. I would have no problem being with an older woman with those qualities. I have to admit that I get very flattered when younger guys check me out and/or hit on me.. like I better enjoy it while I can! I'm 44 but I do look young for my age I guess.. am often told I look like I'm in my early 30's... and I try to keep myself in good shape. The last guy... a "friend" of mine who's 30... recently told me he was very attracted to me... says he likes my "confidence". Thing is... while I am flattered, I want a real relationship, not a "boy toy". And it seems guys my own age are looking at the younger girls... it can be quite the conundrum! oh yea... one more thing... my hair is long and I plan on keeping it that way for as long as it looks good! Edited January 16, 2010 by tkgirl
scatterd Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 (edited) I have long hair and try to take care of my self also.Most of my family haveyounger mates too.I guess its how you click, Edited January 17, 2010 by scatterd
dazzle22 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Guys in their 20's tap on their car windows to get my attention at stop lights! Never in a million years did I think that would happen in my 50's!
Devil Inside Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 You know. There are many reasons why a man would date an older woman. Especially women in their late 30s-40s. For one, they often have their act together, they know what they want, they are more interesting and are capable of much more intelligent conversation...and...they are hitting their sexual peak. What's not to like?
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