Dorluv Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 (edited) I have been dating this guy for 9 months and im still confused on how he really feels. He communicate with me regularly and does not hide his feelings from me. no problem with that. I notices that he is not saying the same thing to me like he did in the past. An example is he used to wish me good day and goodnite evry day. email. now he doesnt email at all, he only calls and most of the time he tells me is only to check on me. Ive tried emailing him a couple of times for him to noticed that he stopped but he hasnt picked up on it. Like I said he says he loves me and misses me. he lives 2 hrs away so I see him once a week sometimes when its warm and now its too cold, so I havent seen him in over a month. but communicate with me on an ongoing basis. The thing is he says he wnats to be with me. I have just recentlty walked away telling him I need space to think and he called me back on saturday after two days not communicating, With all this I feel confused because when Im with him i dont feel loved at all. It could be cold as hell and he would never grab me and hug me, i would look at him and his hands in his pocket. He would never hold my hands except for one or two times when I initiated it. He says he care but his actions confuse me to hell. The thing is I dont know if Im expecting the movie version of love or its natural for men to want to hold their woman tighlty and all the time if they love them. Can any man tell me this? or any women who has had this problem Can you tell me how u deal with it? Thanks so much for time Edited January 16, 2010 by Dorluv spelling mistakes
gaudi Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 It does sound a little like he has lost interest, but I'm only saying that from what you've posted here. The e-mail thing could have dropped off as you guys got closer to each other, like there wasn't a need for e-mailing if you seen each other often enough. But you have mentioned this could be as little as once a week, so that does make you think. So 2 days non-communication made him get in touch ?? What did he say to you when he contacted you ?? Had he missed you ??
paleblue Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 (edited) hey dor, sorry you are getting mixed signals from this guy. from my experience it usually means they are not that into it. i think you have done the right thing pulling away some and telling him you need space to think. when someone is definately into you and wants to be with you they are more affectionate than that - and seeing as how you are 2 hours away you would think that when you got the chance to see each other it would be more affectionate. i say keep your distance and dont put too much of your heart into this. or just find someone else who is willing to be a little more loving! i was seeing this girl for about 4 months wondering how she felt because she never said. she never showed me. just like yours, at first it was contact and texts and email s alllll the time. then they slowly but surely started dropping off. instead of getting closer, we were drifting apart. it finally got to the point where i decided i wasnt going to put myself out there anymore for a non responsive person. and eventually i just stopped responding entirely. even if she was being truthful -i dont want to get stuck with a cold fish. Edited January 17, 2010 by paleblue
Author Dorluv Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 Thanks so much for your reply meant so much to me. He told me he was trying to get me the night before to take me out. and that he is calling now to check on me but he didnt say if he missed me. I do notice where he is not answering my email as quickly as he used to and this was his last email to me read it. For the record I call myself John for fun. lol so this is his last email to me "hey john baby,lol how are are u doing babe? missing u. " What do you think? I do love him
Author Dorluv Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 thanks so much for your response. You are so right little by little I feel like Im loosing him. I did brought it up to him before and he responded by saying " im not.". He is really really cold and I cant deal with it. Ur right sometimes we dont see each othr for weeks you would think he couldnt keep his hands off me when he would see me, but doesnt feel that way. I will be so mad now if he pulls away from me because Ive tried several times to give him that choice and he told me the first time he didnt need any space or time to know if he loved me. He said he knows when he loves someone and dont need any time for that. So i wll be so pissed if thats what he is trying to do now when I gave him tht option. but thanks agin pale blue. I feel better and hope to see how its gonna go the nest few weeks. I am already in love with him. so its so hard. but im gonna try.
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