Vintage79 Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I'm not really much of a texter, but after so many people on LS suggested that I text the girl 1-2 days after the first date to tell her I had a good time, I tried it - twice. The first girl responded pretty quick - which was nice. The second - well, haven't heard from her (it's been 2-3ish days since I texted her). Is this the classic blow-off, no interest? Should I not contact her again until I hear from her, or should I reattempt with a call, e-mail, or another text? She did respond to 1-2 texts prior to the first date. Moreover, since I'm a texting novice, the text went something like this. Note, this is paraphrased, not exact text. I had a good time hanging out with you the other night, it would definitely be fun to see you again and get to know you a bit better. Hope all's well. I highly doubt the text is innappropriate, but should I have stuck the "it would be fun to see you again" bit in there? Or just left it at the "I had a good time"? Alternatively, should I have been a bit more upfront, and essentially asked her out. The problem is, the above text doesn't ask anything - a response would just be more emotional, like "I had a good time too". Just curious what people think - I'm getting better, but still (re)learning.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 If she doesn't respond to the text, it's a blow-off. And yeah, I think a post-date text is appropriate and good. I would find it very lame if the guy didn't follow up in some way to tell me he had a good time.
Author Vintage79 Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 I was guessing blow-off, but maybe some other people will chime in. Apparently I need to polish my game a bit. Actually, she wasn't quite my type, but was curious to see her again to see what things would be like outside of the first date nerves. I like the unknown, so I thought I'd stretch myself a bit - apparently she doesn't want to be part of my little experiement - oh well.
OnlyJake Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Blow off. It's good to throw in the "I'd like to see you again" part; that makes your interest clear. Only someone who's not interested would ignore that message.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I agree, blow off. If a guy I am interested in texts me saying he wants to see me again, and I think that's a good idea, I'll let him know right away. Also, I'll respond right away. The girl who responded is probably interested, and the other one is not.
Author Vintage79 Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 (edited) Great - it seems like all of us are/were all thinking the same thing. Thanks for the feedback on the text content - it seemed reasonable to me, but figured I'd check it out here, since this was the crowd that suggested that tactic. And yeah, I definitely got a better vibe from the girl who responded right away - she was the one I was more excited about after the first date as well - I would have been very surprsied if the responder said no to another date. Edited January 16, 2010 by Vintage79
paddington bear Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I got a text once, just after I'd left the date, literally 3 minutes out the door saying 'they are nice. I would like to play with them', referring to my breasts. Don't do this.
Author Vintage79 Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 Ok - good point - in retrospect, it's definitely on the amusing side, although perhaps a creepy at the time.
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