Estranged Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 So here's the thing: I've always been unlucky with girls. And when i did get their number I never heard from them again. But i'm not gonna cry over that. I have zero interest in trying to figure out what went wrong. Now that I actually have a golden ticket to start with a clean slate, i'm still reluctant to approach girls or even make friends for that matter. I still dread rejection from girls (classic ) and at the same time, trusting anyone gets harder for me each passing day. Any advice on how to get over all that crap?
doushenka Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Bite the bullet, person of indeterminate gender or age. (What? You could be a lesbian. It's cool if you are. Or bi, even.) Faint heart never won fair maiden, right? The key to making rejection matter less is to wait with the emotional investment until she says "yes". Keep it cool. Don't make a big deal of her until she's showing interest in you, too. This is a hard habit to break, but it's breakable.
Author Estranged Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 (edited) Bite the bullet, person of indeterminate gender or age. (What? You could be a lesbian. It's cool if you are. Or bi, even.) Faint heart never won fair maiden, right? The key to making rejection matter less is to wait with the emotional investment until she says "yes". Keep it cool. Don't make a big deal of her until she's showing interest in you, too. This is a hard habit to break, but it's breakable. Well. They always *seemed* interested and i just assumed i finally got a shot, especially after getting their number. I still can't figure out if they all had a problem with my height, race, or whatever... not that i care that much anyways BTW i'm male and 20. Edited January 16, 2010 by Estranged
doushenka Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Well. They always *seemed* interested and i just assumed i finally got a shot, especially after getting their number. I still can't figure out if they all had a problem with my height, race, or whatever... not that i care that much anyways BTW i'm male and 20. A cutie is a cutie no matter how tall or what race he is. And you hit the nail on the head: it's their problem. Not yours. To borrow from the Squirrel Nut Zippers, "when you lose the one you love, there's always plenty more." I figure there are three billion women in the world, and if ten percent of humanity is homosexual, that leaves... um, three billion minus ten percent. Anyway! Big number! So keep trying. One of them will say "yes".
Author Estranged Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 A cutie is a cutie no matter how tall or what race he is. And you hit the nail on the head: it's their problem. Not yours. To borrow from the Squirrel Nut Zippers, "when you lose the one you love, there's always plenty more." I figure there are three billion women in the world, and if ten percent of humanity is homosexual, that leaves... um, three billion minus ten percent. Anyway! Big number! So keep trying. One of them will say "yes". I like your optimism but i've reached a point where i won't belive until i see. Part of me wants to move on and the other part of me still doesn't want to get screwed/humiliated/rejected at all. For example I go to college now and there's that really cute girl in my french class; i spent a whole week on how to approach her bla bla bla. *surprisingly* i chickened out at the last minute. Just to give you an idea... i still have 10 weeks to make my move though:confused:
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