lostg Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I joined this company a little over a year ago, recently i am so confused by a guy's actions at work, some times I really don't understand him. He helps me all the time with work related issues, winks at me, smiles, I thought he was just being friendly, since I was new to the company and he was just being nice to a new comer, so I like to go to him for help and like to talk to him. He once said he cares about me. the other day, he said if I ever have a daughter, she would be very hot, and he'd marry her , I was like, what, I don't even have a daughter, I don't really understand this guy, he acts cool when there are people around, but says things like this when there are only 2 of us, Is he being friendly ,or is he flirting? I am so confused? Thanks for the help.
FilthMerchant Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 He wants your imaginary daughter, obviously.
Author lostg Posted January 16, 2010 Author Posted January 16, 2010 What is considered harmless flirting at work? what kind of actions are considered just harmless flirting? especially at work enviroment?
cuppa Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 I think some people are just flirtatious in nature. I think what he's done so far it's quite harmless. Do you think you might have a feeling for him that's why you analyze this? if so, then it might be different problem altogether. I got a few flirtatious or even direct hit on at work (like asking for dinner, drinks after work, etc). As long as they don't use their power to intimidate you to have date with them or they touch you inappropriately, it's all harmless. If you don't want to go, just smile sweetly and say no, thanks .
Author lostg Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 I think some people are just flirtatious in nature. I think what he's done so far it's quite harmless. Do you think you might have a feeling for him that's why you analyze this? if so, then it might be different problem altogether. I got a few flirtatious or even direct hit on at work (like asking for dinner, drinks after work, etc). As long as they don't use their power to intimidate you to have date with them or they touch you inappropriately, it's all harmless. If you don't want to go, just smile sweetly and say no, thanks . I think I am starting to like him, but I am not sure what he thinks, maybe he is just flirtatious in nature, he has touched my arm, my shoulder and stuff, but very appropriate, I just wanted to have other's opinion, if he is interested, or maybe he is just harmless flirting?
cuppa Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I think I am starting to like him, but I am not sure what he thinks, maybe he is just flirtatious in nature, he has touched my arm, my shoulder and stuff, but very appropriate, I just wanted to have other's opinion, if he is interested, or maybe he is just harmless flirting? could be either. Some people are just flirtatious in nature. My ex manager used to call every female coworker darling and he always hugs me and ends his email with Love You. If we don't know any better, we think that he's flirting but he's actually a happily married man (31 years of strong marriage). If you like him, perhaps you can flirt back. It doesn't hurt to try....so next time when he said oh I wished you have a daughter or things like that then you can say, why you need my daughter when I'm actually breathing next to you? then tilt your head and smile at him innocently .
Author lostg Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 I just found out yesterday that he is married, maybe this explains some of his behavior and also makes me wonder, if he is married, why does he do things like these and makes me think he is interested, what does he want???
cuppa Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 I just found out yesterday that he is married, maybe this explains some of his behavior and also makes me wonder, if he is married, why does he do things like these and makes me think he is interested, what does he want??? He either thinks to have an affair or test the water. Some men love to lead women on to prove that they still got it, blame it on low self esteem (well to be fair, some women did this too). I think my ex coworker is like that and what's worst, sometimes, when someone smiled at him or being friendly at him, he thinks that she's flirting while I think she's just being nice lol. Since he's married, forget it then...don't flirt back.
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