bekki10 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I had been seeing my partner on and off for three years. I split with him in november. I have always had trust issues with him. He was always chatting girls up on the internet or out and about whilst we were together swapping numbers etc so when i found out about a new friend that he had met recently at work i just decided i had had enough. He said they were just friends and that he met her doing promotions at the club he works and when she left to go back to germany they swapped contacts. She called him and asked him to check a hotel out for her (when she was coming over at christmas) and he did thats when i found out about her. He told me that she was coming with a group of people but she was the only one that had booked her ticket. I didnt believe what he was telling me. He has chatted girls up off the net before and invited them over and i have had to talk to them on the phone and i have read emails that he has sent to girls inviting them over so i just thought it was either that or that he met her as a customer in his club and he has been spking to her and has invited her. I was arguing with him for days about it because i have been through this the whole time ive known him i was so angry. I was due to go see him that weekend( we live in different citys) but because i thought he was doing this i decided not to go. We argued more then he threatend to come and murder me because im talking to him disrespectfully.I put the phone down and went to the police. I was scared to go back home that night so i went to my mums. In the past we have argued and he has threatend to come down and he has turned up in hired cars and has been outside my house hiding and watching me through binoculars and i didnt know he was there so i didnt want to go home that night plus he has been violent and aggressive throughout our relationship thats because of my trust issues with him or ive found something out or he thinks im being disrespectfull or hes accused me of things ive never done. I dont know wether its me being to paranoid and just causing these arguments but i do still think alot of him. I havnt been in touch with him for a while now even tho he still calls which he shouldnt because the police told him not to. I dont know what to do i still have feelings for him before this we were getting on ok untill i found out about this girl. I only got back with him in april after again i had to run away from him because he threatend to beat the **** out of me in town in front of my children after he started the arguement about something silly so me and my kids left him and came home (kids are not his) He said he was getting anger management and i gave him another chance.. He can be a really nice guy tho and has always been there for me aswell but i cant go on this way with him. I go to his house and i see prositute cards on his bed that he s pulled off the payfones and i ask him why hes got them and he says he doesnt call them he just likes the pics of the girls. Igo to the club he works and he stands holding girls hands and flirting in front of me and it winds me up and when i go over he gets aggressive saying he s working. I have had the police on him a couple of occasions because he has threatend me and turned up then after he has said i over reacted getting the police which makes me think that i might have. We do have good times too and thats what i think about that makes me want to go back because ive never felt that way about anyone else. Hes saying that i only finished the relationship this time because i couldnt be bothered to buy him a present for christmas and that things with us had been ok but i knew all along what i wanted to do and that ive treated him badly but that is not true im just not happy with the way things were and that i wanted to start the new year stress free. please give me some advice on what i should do next. I do shout alot at him on the phone over the past and the things he does. I call him names and everything then that starts him off i dont know what to do. It been 6 days now and i havnt heard from him part of me is thinking now i should just move on his hurt and upset me alot and another part still loves and misses him. I think to myself i could have over reacted alot and caused all this and messed things up but when i didnt need to. We have had good times to and hes been good to me i just hate the way he is he jus changes. He accuses me of things i would never do and then it all starts again. i think if hes with someone else will he be better with her than he was me. I dont know what to think i have no-one to talk to. I cant really go back. I got the police involved, went away for a bit, the kids dont like him nor my family and friends its just me who cant get over him. He blames me for everything and when i say u did ths and that he will say not at all it was u. pls give me some advice going mad:love:
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