Will I be destined to be alone if I don't accept short men?

[threebyfate]

I'm really confused now. Is this a serious thread or is it a parody of all the other short guy threads?

The sad reality is that the OP is serious. Read her other threads.

[Peter Attis]

Oh.

 

Then LOL @ the first post implying that ONLY tall guys can be well built.

[lordWilhelm]

Is this person for real?

[sugarmomma]

OP can you be any more shallow?

 

I would rather have a short man that treats me like a queen than a tall guy that has no idea how to treat a lady.

[mem11363]

She does this routinely. Starts a post or makes a comment and when people ask her perfectly fair questions: define short? She runs away and never answers. Sadly this is likely her RL behavior as well which makes a real relationship fairly unlikely....

 

 

OP can you be any more shallow?

 

I would rather have a short man that treats me like a queen than a tall guy that has no idea how to treat a lady.

[sugarmomma]

She does this routinely. Starts a post or makes a comment and when people ask her perfectly fair questions: define short? She runs away and never answers. Sadly this is likely her RL behavior as well which makes a real relationship fairly unlikely....

 

 

She's worse than a troll...

[cognac]

Isn't it an amazing coincidence that the only honest woman on all of loveshack just happens offer the opinion that validates your own. It couldn't be confirmation bias or anything, oh no, it's that everyone in the entire world MUST SHARE YOUR VIEWS or they are liars. Do I need to even tell you how arrogant and utterly stupid that sounds?

 

No, it's just that I meet a hell of a lot more women like "Miss Jones" in the real world than I do women who really don't care how tall a guy is. Even the ones I know in real life who claim they dont care how tall a guy is, when you bump into their boyfriend it's always a tall guy anyway

 

 

Do I need to tell you how women are constantly lying to themselves and tricking themselves into believing stuff...they don't actually act on. I will never get it myself.

[ella23]

I love it when women validate my posts.

 

Thanks.

 

The only difference between you and every other woman on this forum is that you're actually honest.

 

I admire that.

There are many women who don't care so much about height. The OP is not a spokesperson for all of us. But you don't want to believe that, of course.

[SadandConfusedWA]

I like you MissJones. I feel like you are the one person on LS that is whakier than me. Peace sister.

 

I don't date short men because I am 5'9" and I want a guy who is at least that tall (I don't think that is unreasonable). But wanting a 6 foot guy when you are 5'4"? Madness.

[ella23]

Yes, there are several women who wouldn't date a guy shorter than them.

That's fine.

But all the short guys on all LS say that women who are 5' or 4'11" refuse to date them.

I seriously doubt all short women are that choosy.

[counterman]

Sometimes the person, or type of person, you think or want to end up with isn't the one or type you end up with. One of my friends ended up married to a woman who had two children from a previous married and, believe me, he didn't think that would have happened 10 years ago. My cousin ended up marrying a friend of a friend of his and she is around the same height as him, in fact she might bit a little taller, but you know what? They're really happy.

 

You have to accept yourself for who you are and know that changing yourself for a taller guy isn't that way to go. Once you're completely comfortable with yourself, you'll attract more people (taller guys included). Thank you for being honest about that preference 'cause there's not a lot of girls I would know who would openly admit to that. As for me, I wouldn't want to date a girl taller than me, a few have approached me and I felt really uncomfortable so yes.

 

I have friends who are tall who probably struggle to find girls because one is just a "nice" guy (who will probably go on many first dates because he always pays for breakfast/lunch/dinner when he goes out with a girl even if they aren't interested, another just thinks that his height should do it for him (he actually wants to be taller and is even wearing ugliest shoes to look taller), another thinks that girls should be approaching him and if they don't, they don't deserve him, and one just agrees to mostly everything you say. Though, I would say that taller guys do have it easier.

 

Ella, not all short women are they picky but I know of some who prefer 6 ft guys. But yes, there are shorter women out there who prefer guys closer to their height.

[theBrokenMuse]

No, it's just that I meet a hell of a lot more women like "Miss Jones" in the real world than I do women who really don't care how tall a guy is.

So you've taken an opinion poll of all your work colleagues, neighbors, the check out girl that you always see at your local grocery store and discovered this fact, eh? No, of course not because that would be absurd. Your brain has taken the time to store the data that coincidences with your take on the issue and the rest has been forgotten or discounted. In other words, you are no longer seeing things from an objective perspective and it is tainting your results.

Even the ones I know in real life who claim they dont care how tall a guy is, when you bump into their boyfriend it's always a tall guy anyway

Because most of the time doesn't care doesn't mean anti. I've never had a lot of short guys interested in me, so this doesn't mean I would not have taken the opportunity if it had presented itself.

 

Do I need to tell you how women are constantly lying to themselves and tricking themselves into believing stuff...

Kind of like the way many people will lie to themselves about the root cause of their problems because the amount of introspection required to really figure them out is too uncomfortable?

[temple]

^I agree. I much prefer shorter men because I'm short myself.

 

As for the OP, no being small-minded doesn't mean you're destiny is with small men You'll probably find someone with the exact same value system as you've laid out for yourself. Good luck with that..

[ella23]

^I agree. I much prefer shorter men because I'm short myself.

 

As for the OP, no being small-minded doesn't mean you're destiny is with small men You'll probably find someone with the exact same value system as you've laid out for yourself. Good luck with that..

Yes, the OP has nothing to worry about.

 

I'm about 5'5", and I've dated guys from 5'7" to 6'5". I probably looked better with the shorter ones and didn't have to wear heels, lol.

My current boyfriend is around 6'2" or 6'3" and it's difficult to kiss him sometimes, lol.

Edited January 16, 2010 by ella23

[MissJoness]

Nothing wrong with having requirements whatever they are. So if you need 6'4" thats what you need. What is dysfunctional is that we are a dozen plus posts into this thread and you still choose to not specify your definition of "short".

 

Why?

 

No one can give you a meaningful answer until you say what you want/need. If this is how you are in RL it would tend to make people much less inclined to even try and help you after a while.

Short men who are 4'11, 5'5, I really don't know ppl's exact height measurements but I know short when I see it. I've had men who were 5'0 try to approach me and its very frustrating. I don't know what they are thinking. Now I have had taller men try to court me but I rejected them at the time b/c I was going through a depression. I regret it..b/c I haven't had a guy who met my height requirements in a long time

[MissJoness]

I like you MissJones. I feel like you are the one person on LS that is whakier than me. Peace sister.

 

I don't date short men because I am 5'9" and I want a guy who is at least that tall (I don't think that is unreasonable). But wanting a 6 foot guy when you are 5'4"? Madness.

I am the same height as you, and I wear heels which makes me taller. I've had men who were literally 5'0 approach me. Once I just laughed and said I had a boyfriend. I don't know why a man would want to be in a relationship with a woman who is that much taller than them, we'd look like a freakshow out in public. I guess some men don't care. But I do.

[MissJoness]

So you've taken an opinion poll of all your work colleagues, neighbors, the check out girl that you always see at your local grocery store and discovered this fact, eh? No, of course not because that would be absurd. Your brain has taken the time to store the data that coincidences with your take on the issue and the rest has been forgotten or discounted. In other words, you are no longer seeing things from an objective perspective and it is tainting your results. Because most of the time doesn't care doesn't mean anti. I've never had a lot of short guys interested in me, so this doesn't mean I would not have taken the opportunity if it had presented itself.

 

 

Kind of like the way many people will lie to themselves about the root cause of their problems because the amount of introspection required to really figure them out is too uncomfortable?

 

theBrokenMuse, most women do prefer tall men. Let's not lie about this. A lot of women in society crack on short men, even the moviestar Tom Cruise, his nickname is "Tiny Tim". I've heard lots of women say "he's soo goodlooking but damn too bad he's short". I've heard it so many times that this type of talk seemed normal.

[ella23]

theBrokenMuse, most women do prefer tall men. Let's not lie about this. A lot of women in society crack on short men, even the moviestar Tom Cruise, his nickname is "Tiny Tim". I've heard lots of women say "he's soo goodlooking but damn too bad he's short". I've heard it so many times that this type of talk seemed normal.

Most women do prefer tall men, but that does not mean they would refuse to date short men.

[Rainman760]

Short men who are 4'11, 5'5, ... I've had men who were 5'0 try to approach me and its very frustrating. I don't know what they are thinking.

 

According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the average height for an adult male in the United States is:

 

• 5 feet 9.2 inches
  

Considering the bell curve of male height, just how many 4' 11" guys are approaching you to make this an issue? You must either be hanging out at the Jockey Club at the track or you're in 5th grade!

[BobSacamento]

Height is an issue that is so petty to me.

[paddington bear]

Really the issue here with weight, height, big breasts, small breasts whatever is preferences vs what you end up with.

 

When those preferences turn into a list of unchanging rules never to be broken you're simply setting yourself up for a very difficult time in terms of getting a loving relationship/sex.

 

It's hard enough to meet someone you click with, but to automatically bin them because they don't match this list of physical must-haves in your head is simply shooting yourself in the foot.

 

What if that guy who is 5 foot 5 is the one that is totally perfect for you, the man that would make you blissfully happy for the rest of your life, and you've overlooked them simply due to their height and thus end up alone and lonely for the rest of your life?

 

Again, on the preference thing. In my head I'd like a tall guy, but when I look back I've dated guys smaller than me, taller than me, same height as me. That preference, or perceived preference does not disqualify those men who aren't 6 foot or over. When it comes down to it, other factors are way more important.

 

PS a female friend of mine once said 'I really like small guys, I always flirt with them, they've a thing about being small and so therefore try harder, which I love'

[Sweetie1977]

Almost every women prefers a tall Man but theyres only so many tall men to go around so allot of women have to settle

 

Nothing agianst short guys but tall is just such an amazing trait,tall guys are all so hot in some way:love: women crumble when we see a tall guy walk into a room and autoamtically have power and presence as he enters:love:

 

Ladies dotn give up your dream for a Tall guy he can be yours if u try hard enough,i got mine and wouldnt trade him for anything

[paddington bear]

Almost every women prefers a tall Man but theyres only so many tall men to go around so allot of women have to settle

 

Nothing agianst short guys but tall is just such an amazing trait,tall guys are all so hot in some way:love: women crumble when we see a tall guy walk into a room and autoamtically have power and presence as he enters:love:

 

Ladies dotn give up your dream for a Tall guy he can be yours if u try hard enough,i got mine and wouldnt trade him for anything

 

Oh dear God!!!

 

Non-tall guys can walk into a room and have just as much presence, it's all about how you hold yourself and the air of confidence that you radiate.

 

Dating or marrying a short guy is not 'settling' it's just not being so blinkered that only a tall man is attractive. In any case, glad you are happy with your tall guy, leaves more cute, smaller guys for me

[Sweetie1977]

Oh dear God!!!

 

Non-tall guys can walk into a room and have just as much presence, it's all about how you hold yourself and the air of confidence that you radiate.

 

Dating or marrying a short guy is not 'settling' it's just not being so blinkered that only a tall man is attractive. In any case, glad you are happy with your tall guy, leaves more cute, smaller guys for me

 

No offnese but only women who say that are women who think they cant get a Tall Man since they know Tall Men are in such high demand and can pick who they want

[paddington bear]

No offnese but only women who say that are women who think they cant get a Tall Man since they know Tall Men are in such high demand and can pick who they want

 

Lol! I've had 6 footers and over in my time (I'm 5 foot 5 and a half) I'll have you know young lady!!! But just cause they're tall doesn't mean they are a better quality man. Slightly higher than me and upwards is good. Sometimes when I'm not in heels I feel incredibly tiny standing next to tall guys even though I'm not that short...or am I?