scatterd Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I am wondering about the people that cheat how and where do they hide phones so they have away to contact ow or om.
ladydesigner Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Well when I was having my A with XOM I always deleted text messages, incoming and outgoing calls. My H never saw the phone bill. When I was home with H I would make texts while he was in the shower, bathroom, outside smoking, and sometimes I would take it into the bathroom with me. I am still appalled by my own behavior to this day about my actions. But these are just some of the ridiculous things I did concerning cell phone.
Brokenlady Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 xD had a phone on my account, so there was no issues with xW seeing the bill. xDM hid it in jacket pockets in the closet, in the console of the car, at work, and he usually hid the charger behind the microwave. You might also look for a car charger that does not belong to his "legitimate" phone in the glove box in the car. If he has bluetooth enabled on the secret phone, you might be able to find it's location (or at least get close) in your house by walking around with your phone (with bluetooth enabled). We also used to chat online a lot. Sometimes he'd even take the laptop in the bathroom.
White Flower Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 ExMM never texted me. He always erased my number after giving or receiving a call, sometimes right in front of her. I heard the whole conversation one time as he was deleting my number saying he was talking to himself. She finally got smart and checked the phone bill online. It only took her 4 years.
JamesM Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 My guess is that a smart "cheater" would get a second phone...preferably prepaid. Using a phone that shows on the family bill is a bit stupid IMO.
Brokenlady Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 My guess is that a smart "cheater" would get a second phone...preferably prepaid. Using a phone that shows on the family bill is a bit stupid IMO. It sure is, but so many MM are so sure they won't get caught, arrogantly thinking they are sooo slick, that they are too lazy or cheap to bother. That, and getting a second phone right away might clue in an OW that he's done that kind of thing before.
Natureofbeast Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I think a lot of em delete the calls etc. Been a while, do most phones still allow to have specific ringers including silence them for contacts? Hubby office manager dealt with all the bills so I never got to see them–it was his business phone, so I was used to calls often. What tipped me off though was that he didn’t answer the calls–even though it did not ring it would beep in a missed called and he push the button on the side to cancel it. It was annoying as Hell cause sometimes there was call after call etc. I was used to the calls yes, but not that many–and he always answered his phone–that he stopped was off color to me. I hated the phone games. We were separated for a mth after DD while as he sat on the fence. And I ask him for a divorce. I turned the table on OW cause I refused to answer or call his business number sicen number she had always been calling–made him get another phone if he wanted contact with me. The kids had own cells. It drove her nuts so I was told–she demanded he get a phone for just her–so talking the potential of three phones–no wait he had three phones by then cause of his second business–would have been 4 cells–he refused. LOL But you ask were they hide them? I think often in vehicles--specially if it is there are his and her vehicles.
Author scatterd Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 Thank you so much friend thia helps.
White Flower Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 (edited) My guess is that a smart "cheater" would get a second phone...preferably prepaid. Using a phone that shows on the family bill is a bit stupid IMO.It also signifies that he thinks his W is stupid. I'm pretty sure these MM think all women are stupid. Edited January 16, 2010 by White Flower
I Miss the Kiss Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 Well, when I was an OW until just last week or so (I was in the A with a MM), I used a prepaid cell. It is small and thin, so basically for the last 8 months straight it has been tucked down the front of my pants (the ringer was always on vibrate, no ring). At night when I had to get undressed, it was in a drawer next to my bed, on silent ringer. Other than that, it was constant email through an internet-based email account.
jnd2009 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 We only text, and I pay both mine and my bf's phone. I called MM once, but his W (and my bf) knew we were going to a movie/ out with friends. I delete texts, the 'sexting' ones at least. Friendly ones I don't care about, bf knows I talk to him. On MM's end- he says he has 2 passwords on his phone.
DNU1 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 My STBxWW had a company cell phone. Texted and called the OMs often. Erased messages and kept that phone on her or by her at all times. I never thought to look...trusted her. When I found out about one affiar I got FLEXISPY and installed on her phone. Great software. GET IT! I saw texts between her and a co-worker...confronted her...right to Plan D.
jnd2009 Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 ......o. and with hiding the phones? I don't. I don't want to look suspicious . I try not to contact him when bf is around- if we do, I include some how that he is around to keep it 'PG'.
LakesideDream Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 My ex wife told me after D-day that she kept hers in the bottom of her purse under the Tampax... knowing I wouldn't look there. I had to laugh ... I wasn't "looking" at all, but she's correct, I probably wouldn't have looked there. She was busted once because she forgot to turn it off... and her purse rang with an unfamilair sound (before ring-tones) she lied her way out of it sort of.
Maybeitsjustme Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I still dont have full confrimation of an EA/PA but i believe my gf is using her work laptop to communicate via msn when shes at home and I fully expect that she has another phone at work securely kept in her desk draw to talk to him on Boy o Boy this suispicion thing is terrible as a good firend of mine recently said "my god look at what shes created!"
Brandy228 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 A guaranteed 5 - 10 minute slice of time is while the spouse is in the shower. You always know when they're done when the water shuts off, and it gives you plenty of time to get things wrapped up.
on1wheel Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 For what it's worth, (I would never do this) but my W had a work cell during her A & would have it locked & with her @ all times. Couple that with her suddenly staying up til' 2-3am on the laptop & closing windows when I'd walk in the room. She would delete the call history on her personal cell, as well as the texts. But when I looked @ the bill there were 600 texts on the bill, yet none on her phone??? If your gut is telling you that your SO is cheating, then I'd say listen. Men are not stupid (nor are women) & we feel when an A is happening. No one has an A in a happy marriage, so when things get bad & u see thses things that have been mentioned above just cut your losses & go. That's what I'll do if it ever happens again...life is too short for this S*IT!!! People just don't keep their promises like they used to. I miss the simpler times when people didn't use cheating as the 1st solution to their problems. Prepaid phones hidden @ work are very popular I hear as well, but I'd say a work phone would be #1, as you could always tell your SO not to look @ it as it's work related bla, bla, bla.
skylarblue Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 My MM has one cell phone and he doesn’t hide it from his W. It’s work issued so he’s not worry about her seeing a bill. I don’t know if he deletes my number or not. He says he’s not worried about his W looking thru his phone; she doesn’t. Plus, he’d explain it as work-related.
dprtman09 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 My W bought a pay as you go phone and kept it at work. She also used her personal cell to call and text him. What p***ed me off was that the bill reflected how many times he called while I was on with her and she dropped me for him telling me that someone from work was calling. Then, I couldn't call her back until she was ready to take my call. I know she texted him in my presence. I know that she called him at any opportunity during time we were doing things together. The really funny thing was this: On the Tuesday before she was due to come back from her last leg of training for her new position, she called me in a panic because our cell phones had been shut off. I called the provider and cleared up the fact that they had not posted our payment. She had run up the bill so much due to the OM, that we were paying it in pieces. The funny part was that she called me on her secret phone without realizing it. Her name came up on the caller ID on our land line. Then, when I caller her back to tell her that our personal cells were back on, I asker her why her name came up. She said she didn't know and I said I did know. She tried to say she called from someone else's phone for a few minutes, and I finally said not to treat me like I'm stupid. The only way her name would come up is that it was her phone. She admitted it and I asked her how long she had it. She said a couple of months and I later verified that when I found the receipt for it in one of her unused purses. I said why did she get it. She said, "you know". When she got back, she gave me the phone, I put a lock code on it, and it's still in the dresser--dead. I continued to monitor it on-line (I set up access to it as soon as I knew). She used the same provider we had for our personal phones. I removed the "favorite number" (his) so if she tried to use it, it would cost more. The number eventually ended up being given to someone else. She obviously wasn't using it any more. By the way, I called the OM that night to tell him that she had used the wrong phone to call me. He said, "tchea!". I just wanted him to know. I've also e-mailed him in the past. I just wanted him to know. She had a secret e-mail account that I found and changed the password on. She got all indignant about her privacy and I simply replied that when it came to the A, she had none. That's where I got the e-mail address. As for the work phone, she got one with her new position. One evening, i was compelled to check it (I don't know why, but I was COMPELLED). Upon doing so, I found the term "My baby" in her contacts. It was his personal and work cell numbers. I immediately confronted her with the info and she went off. I had no right to look at her work phone, etc. I told her that she needed to delete the contact as at least a symbolic gesture though I knew that she had obviously memorized the numbers. She said she had forgotten to delete the contact and never used it. I still don't believe that. She didn't get the phone until she finished training. I told her that I want all traces of the OM out of my our lives. I told her to make sure I don't trip over anything else--ever. It is over a year later now and I believe that all has been done--and don't think I haven't looked. You've got to be thorough. The information you want is available if you spend the time to find it.
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