ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 (edited) I am 32, and I have taken a year off of dating. Throughout my twenties, I almost always had a girl by my side or was in some sort of relationship. This is not some boo-hoo thread where I go on about how I can't get a date or get laid. That's simply not the case. I must say that even at 32, I have learned much about my situation and myself over the past year. During this year, I have started a successful business. Yet another reason that I have not dated. SO here are some things I have come to realize about dating during my year of soul searching. 1) I can do anything! Starting a business from nothing is very empowering. I am more confident in myself than ever. But I also realize that I would have never started a business if I was in a relationship. I would not have had the time to nourish and business and a relationship at the same time. 2) Many women I meet are intimidated by me. I realize that it is easier for a woman to talk to or approach a guy who is not as attractive. Plus, it is less of a risk to their ego. 3) Many weak people get married. I am not saying all, but the older I get, the more "unhappily married" women I meet. I'm not the type to fall all for that line, but it occurs to me many women get married for all the wrong reasons. I have become very confident in my looks and my intelligence. I am 6', in great shape and have a full head of hair. I even had a girl recently say that I have nice teeth (lucky for me i am not european ). I am not saying I am God's gift to women or anything of the sorts. But something I have realized is that these positive qualities can work against you as a man. I understand that attractive and successful women experience some of the same tendencies. Still, I consider myself blessed to have what I do. Now that I am more aware of my surroundings, I plan to take action with my new found knowledge. I used to be one of those guys wondering how some loser with no job and criminal record has what appears to be a great girlfriend. There's a lot of reasons, but one must be that this guy had "nothing to loose". Now all I have left to do is overcome my irrational fear of dying old and alone, and I will be all set. Edited January 15, 2010 by ShamWoW
theBrokenMuse Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 1) I can do anything! Cool then could you nail some Jell-o to a tree for me? Sorry, not trying to be smarmy... I just couldn't help myself.
Author ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 Cool then could you nail some Jell-o to a tree for me? Sorry, not trying to be smarmy... I just couldn't help myself. My Jell-o to a tree service runs $100 per hour. Remit payment via paypal and I will get started right away, Sir!
laRubiaBonita Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Now all I have left to do is overcome my irrational fear of dying old and alone, and I will be all set. even if all was perfect by you in your life- you could still die old and alone. you can still be happy with your life and all you have accomplished though.... so let that fear go.
Author ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 even if all was perfect by you in your life- you could still die old and alone. you can still be happy with your life and all you have accomplished though.... so let that fear go. Good advice, but letting that thought go is easier said than done. I suppose I will overcome that too, when I am ready. I am not sure if it's so much a fear as it is a sense of entitlement to spend much of my life with a great woman.
theBrokenMuse Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 overcome my irrational fear of dying old and alone, and I will be all set. Well, better old and alone then young and in the midst of a pack of ravenous Snow Weasels.
D-Jam Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I say everyone take note. ShamWoW gets it. I don't fully agree with everything he said, like the "weak people get married" part...but he's totally on key with the idea of MAKING YOUR LIFE YOUR OWN. He decided not to burden and pressure his life on the idea of "finding someone" and instead chose to find himself and fulfill himself. That's what I keep telling many of you here to do. Now all I have left to do is overcome my irrational fear of dying old and alone, and I will be all set. The trick isn't to imagine yourself alone on the porch watching the world go by...but instead lying on your deathbed and wondering if you did enough in your life. Lord knows I want to be able to travel and do more even at an old age.
sumdude Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Now all I have left to do is overcome my irrational fear of dying old and alone, and I will be all set. Since you have no idea when you will die even worrying about being old at the time is pointless.
laRubiaBonita Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Since you have no idea when you will die even worrying about being old at the time is pointless. exactly my point!
TheLoneSock Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Is it stupid, testosterone peaked, arrogance to say that I would be ok with dying young and for a cause? As long as I had children first to pass the genes on.
phineas Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Now all I have left to do is overcome my irrational fear of dying old and alone, and I will be all set. I was like you at that age. at 34 I married. At 38 i'll be divorced. At this point being alone really isn't all that bad.
GAchasen Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 ShamWOW! I agree with you. I'm 32 and after a guy told me "I care about you very, very, very, very much", he dumped me a week later...so right now...I'm going to focus on me and what I want! I really liked your thread...I think you are on to something with marriage correlating with weakness. Just take your time. It's funny, I always debate on a guy early and then they brake my heart anyway! Lol...go figure
GAchasen Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Oh yeah....and criminals do not appeal to all women...lol
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