SummerLady Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 This is about my boyfriend's exwife so I thought Divorce thread was best. My boyfriend has been divorced for a while about 6 years. Maybe 7. He got married real young had kids young and per him they grew apart. He also said they never basically got along, always wanted different things. He ultimately ended it and moved on. He said she knew they did not get along and knew it was best at the time. After they legally seperated he was dating someone that he ended up living with for several years. He said the relationship after his marriage was a pivotal relationship in his life, that it was more important to him than his marriage ever was, they just connected more and were more suitable for each other. When him and the woman he dated after his divorce broke up his ex wife wanted to give it a 2nd try, so he tried but the same issues came up and after 2 months it was over. He had dated women here and there before he met me but nothing serious. So fast forward to now 4 years later. His ex emailed him last week and said she was going through a desk that was given to their oldest child and she found receipts that he forgot to take out of the drawer. She said they were for jewelry and based off the dates for a woman he dated after they had tried to get back together and she was upset stating she did not realize he had serious relationships afterwards. He said to me that he bought this one woman a bracelet he had dated and it was christmas time but it was not that expensive and they were NOT together at the time. He nicely told his ex that she should have not poked through the receipts and sorry she was upset but it is what it is. Here is my question, is this woman not over him??? Or is she just a nosey body. Why should she care a rat's azz what he did after they broke up??? How is this any of her business? Why would she even question this. They tried to get back together 4 years ago and have not been together since, why doesn't she wait another 4 years to ask him questions?? I am annoyed. Not with him just annoyed......Thoughts??? My ex is a pain to but really.........
Author SummerLady Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 I forgot to mention when they were divorced she was diagnosed with a medical issue not life threatneing but it does affect her everyday. Just wanted to mention that.....
2.50 a gallon Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Welcome to the wacky part of dating a divorced person. You are lucky this has only surfaced after 4 years. My GF's XH was a constant irratant in our lives, even though he had been the one to file and he divorced her, he still thought of her as his wife. I used to get phone calls from him, begging me to break it off with her, as if I was the OM that was breaking up the family, even though they had been divorced for over a decade. Him thinking he still owned her was a constant weekly thing
dgiirl Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Maybe she was just acting on impulse when she called him? She could have just been snooping, found the receipts and felt a slap in the face, especially if he ever cheated on her in the past, and impulsively called him? Just let it go for now. If she continues, then maybe have some concern, but until then just think of it as a bad impulsive moment on her part.
Author SummerLady Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Maybe she was just acting on impulse when she called him? She could have just been snooping, found the receipts and felt a slap in the face, especially if he ever cheated on her in the past, and impulsively called him? Just let it go for now. If she continues, then maybe have some concern, but until then just think of it as a bad impulsive moment on her part. Thanks for this advice, I just got it too late. I made it a huge issue and it was nothing and in turn I felt terrible....
dgiirl Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Thanks for this advice, I just got it too late. I made it a huge issue and it was nothing and in turn I felt terrible.... I guess you both had bad impulsive moments Hope the issue can be resolved and forgotten quickly.
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