Lakeside_runner Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 More specific - what are the things that REALLY impress you?
tkgirl Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 the number one quality I need in a guy is confidence.... be who you are. A close second is honesty... the two kind of go hand in hand actually...
aerogurl87 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 There are a few things. The number one quality being confidence. I'm a really confident person so I need a man who is confident in himself as well. Other qualities include honesty, loyalty, consistency, passion, and being family oriented. I love a man who is close to his family.
shadowplay Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 A man who is solid and psychologically healthy: confident, fairly happy, honest and kind.
OnlyJake Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Respectful, loving, caring, self-aware, confident
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 It's kind of funny how I know so many single men with the qualities that you mention. But you forgot "european".
DiscoChick Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Intelligence, wide-ranged sense of humor, confidence, honesty, trustworthiness, nerdy (would be nice), talkative, empathetic.
OnlyJake Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I forgot to mention: knows how to give a compliment.
New_Life08 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 listening, patience, good sense of humor, and chivalry.
OnlyJake Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Good manners, including social grace, also really impress me. It's shocking how poor people's manners are these days.
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Its weird how all of these women who value important traits only seem to exist on the Internet.
doushenka Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 More specific - what are the things that REALLY impress you? Maybe I'm easy, but common human decency is pretty nice. Then again, I don't see much of that around. Just... accepting me for who I am, I suppose. Not wanting me to make major changes, but supporting me if I decide those changes would be good. Basic respect for the English language always helps. Not insisting I become a social animal when I'm pretty much an introvert. That sort of thing.
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 So what if a man has all of the qualities listed here, but there's one thing you don't like - such as he smokes cigs or weed. Funny how all of those qualities that really define a person suddenly become less important, huh?
Arabella Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 So what if a man has all of the qualities listed here, but there's one thing you don't like - such as he smokes cigs or weed. Funny how all of those qualities that really define a person suddenly become less important, huh? It just so happens that a strong willpower is one of the things I find most impressive in people of any gender. I would have no respect for a man who smokes and doesn't quit because he can't. And don't bash me for saying this because I was a smoker and I quit - cold turkey. So, I wouldn't even consider a man who smokes no matter what other qualities he has if he isn't willing to quit AND succeeds in doing so. Aside from that, I am really appreciative of outgoing men with communication skills who can hold a conversation, even if it's about a difficult topic, gracefully and efficiently. Arabella
threebyfate Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 More specific - what are the things that REALLY impress you?It's reliant at what stage we're talking about, whether it's meet and greet, dating, relationship or marriage.
doushenka Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 You didn't ask for dealbreakers. You asked for things that impress us. Smoking and drugs are dealbreakers for me, as is excessive drinking. Just as that person chooses to use or drink, I can choose to move on to the next. Likewise, if a person does not feel I'm partner material, s/he can move on from me. Why is this such a terrible concept?
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 It just so happens that a strong willpower is one of the things I find most impressive in people of any gender. I would have no respect for a man who smokes and doesn't quit because he can't. And don't bash me for saying this because I was a smoker and I quit - cold turkey. So, I wouldn't even consider a man who smokes no matter what other qualities he has if he isn't willing to quit AND succeeds in doing so. Aside from that, I am really appreciative of outgoing men with communication skills who can hold a conversation, even if it's about a difficult topic, gracefully and efficiently. Arabella So what if the guy doesn't want to quit, does that mean he has no willpower. I have plenty of willpower for things I really want. IMHO, I believe someone that judges someone for smoking herb or cigs is even worse than the offense itself. For myself, I will always smoke weed. I am upfront about it, and I am even smoking as I type this. I don't sit around on my couch all day, either. I get stuff done. I just brought it up because I've seen so many fickle girls judge me for it, but yet they'll date a total druggie who hides it until their "invested". I don't see how smoking herb is any indication of how I treat others and my convictions.
Norville_Rogers Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I have found that most women like humor. Make a girl laugh and you have an inside track to their heart.
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 You didn't ask for dealbreakers. You asked for things that impress us. Smoking and drugs are dealbreakers for me, as is excessive drinking. Just as that person chooses to use or drink, I can choose to move on to the next. Likewise, if a person does not feel I'm partner material, s/he can move on from me. Why is this such a terrible concept? "Dealbreaker", now there's a coin phrase. If a guy has all of those other traits, why would smoking herb be a dealbreaker? Hmmm. Weed is a drug, but alcohol abuse is excessive drinking. Interesting. So are you gonna divorce your future husband when he starts tokin up with the boys? Is it really THAT important?
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Smoking and drugs are dealbreakers for me, as is excessive drinking. There's something about people who label weed as a "drug" that makes me want to take them out behind the boat house and... educate them You know all of that GOOD music that you like? THROW IT ALL AWAY. Most of those good songs were written and performed while STONED.
Arabella Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 So what if the guy doesn't want to quit, does that mean he has no willpower. I have plenty of willpower for things I really want. IMHO, I believe someone that judges someone for smoking herb or cigs is even worse than the offense itself. For myself, I will always smoke weed. I am upfront about it, and I am even smoking as I type this. I don't sit around on my couch all day, either. I get stuff done. I just brought it up because I've seen so many fickle girls judge me for it, but yet they'll date a total druggie who hides it until their "invested". I don't see how smoking herb is any indication of how I treat others and my convictions. Smoking is an addiction that also has a number of side effects such as stained teeth, bad breath and foul odor on clothes, car, etc. Why does it make me fickle not to want to be with someone who smokes because I find it disgusting, among other things? I think it's also a reflection of the person and who they are. How many people smoke 2 packs a day because they enjoy it? They do it because they are addicted. Also, what about the financial side of it? It's a lot of money wasted. Many also deny it, saying that they could quit, but they don't want to... which precisely shows a lack of willpower to do something which is difficult. And on top of that, it's harmful to their bodies... which shows a marked lack of interest in a healthy lifestyle. Arabella
espec10001 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Be who you are and do what you want man. If a girl doesn't like it, oh well.
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Smoking is an addiction that also has a number of side effects such as stained teeth, bad breath and foul odor on clothes, car, etc. Why does it make me fickle not to want to be with someone who smokes because I find it disgusting, among other things? Arabella Because life is too short... live it how you want. No real man wants some woman ruling his life. Teeth can be cleaned and brushed. Clothes can be washed... these are all superficial things. I find your lack of an open mind even more disgusting. If I found a woman who was successful, attractive and treated me well... I would not give two ****s if she smoked, even if I did not. EVERYONE has their poison. It may be food, control, cigs, prescription pills, hard drugs, etc. My father smoked for years and quit cold turkey, but my Mom continues to smoke. I guess my Dad should have gotten a divorce after 35 years....
ShamWoW Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Be who you are and do what you want man. If a girl doesn't like it, oh well. Now that's what I am saying. More men need to grow a pair...
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