jhussett Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 im a 40 yr. old woman amercian woman in love with a 26 yr old guatamalan man. i know hes no good for me but i love him he stays angry all the time . all we do is fight. he lived with me for 6 months till i found him on my computer trying to meet oter wopmen on porn and sex dating sites. every time we get into a disagreement it goes further to a knock down drag out . he says i dont love him i only play with him when i have given up everthing for him and dedicated my whole self to him . everytime we fight i am always the one to blame . he constantly throws all the bad past in my face. yet i am forgiving of him he doesnt apprerciate me at all or anything i have done for him. i honestly believe its because of my age or my insecurties within myself . what possible thing can i do to make him desire to be with me. or how can i free myself from this when i am so lonely. i am a beautiful woman. yetr he makes me feel so bad . that he is better than me . we he is always trying to hurt me with sarcasim its a back and forth battle with who dont need the other / im always begging for his love only to be rejected. i asked him to please love me and not always punish me or scorn me his reply was dont make me do it to you what do i do . is it possible to realy find true love at my age
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 what do i do . is it possible to really find true love at my age Of course! 40 is nothing ! if it were me I'd lose this guy in a hurry. he sounds like bad news. And if you are beautiful like you say you are, (and I believe that you are btw) you will find no shortage of men who are attracted to you
sagetalk Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 This crap happens all the time. Get rid off him, he does not love you, he is abusing you. Many inferior men use this beating down tactic as a way to get a women that is far superior than anything they could get by acting fairly. It's one of the oldest tricks in the book for lame guys to get attractive women. Dump him immediately, get a gym membership, and get a guy that treats you with kindness, faithfulness, and respect. Don't settle for anything less. This guy is a loser. The drama he provides in your life may seem exciting, but all it is doing is ruining your life and happiness.
Author jhussett Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 i have to admit i am pretty hard on myself and at the lowest hardest time in my life i met him . hes seen my weakness and yet its not of me but he continues to keep me there. i dont like that at all.i also dont like who or what i allowed him to create in me with the low selfesteem and the constant argue . i want so bad to walk away and know i need to yet cant find the strength to do so. i hAVE no friends . he ellimated those and when i talk of one he is angry and says i am doihg tjings im not and gets mad and says i am free to do what i choose and yet argues about stupid stuff again of the past and acts likew he dont care for me what do i do . im damned if i do and damned if i dont
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I'm tellin ya, lose this guy fast he's just dragging you down
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 i hAVE no friends . he ellimated those and when i talk of one he is angry and says i am doihg tjings im not and gets mad and says i am free to do what i choose and yet argues about stupid stuff again of the past and acts likew he dont care for me what do i do . im damned if i do and damned if i dont LOSE this jerk TONITE! you are letting him control you! that's gonna bring you nothing but misery
PinkToes Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 j -- you absolutely don't deserve what he's putting you through, and even if there were some magic way to make him love you, it still wouldn't be a good situation to be in. You deserve to be loved by a good, caring man. But he's beaten you down so much, no wonder you're feeling helpless and lost. But you know the way you're feeling right now, the way he's making you feel, that's not real, right? You are still the strong woman you were before this happened; you are still worthwhile. You can make the break from him, you really can. First, know that you can do better, you can find someone who treats you with kindness and respect, instead of making you feel knots in your stomach all the time. You don't need to be living in such pain. Make up your mind to leave. That's the first thing. Know that it's the right thing to do, for you. And then start taking baby steps to get there. He is being emotionally abusive. Has he also been hurting you physically in any way?
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Bust out on your own. If I was there i'd personally kick his a$$ for the way he is treating you. I PROMISE there are other guys out there for you. Always look for a skydiver. we are the best dates
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Hell yeah, you can find love at 40. You can find it with a young man too. You're too old to put up with this kind of foolish man and poor treatment. Shame on you! If he is not in this country legally, you should be very wary if he starts talking marriage.
thegreatmoose Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 (edited) i want so bad to walk away and know i need to yet cant find the strength to do so. You HAVE TO get away from him as soon as possible and never speak to him again. There really is no other answer. I'd seek professional help to both help your self esteem and get away from this dangerous loser. So many far far better men would love a woman like you, but they won't get the chance until you get rid of him. Edited January 15, 2010 by thegreatmoose
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 (edited) You HAVE TO get away from him as soon as possible and never speak to him again. There really is no other answer. I'd seek professional help to both help your self esteem and get away from this dangerous loser. So many far far better men would love a woman like you, but they won't get the chance until you get rid of him. I agree completely do it tonite RIGHT NOW dont waste another second on this useless twerp Edited January 15, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author jhussett Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 This crap happens all the time. Get rid off him, he does not love you, he is abusing you. Many inferior men use this beating down tactic as a way to get a women that is far superior than anything they could get by acting fairly. It's one of the oldest tricks in the book for lame guys to get attractive women. Dump him immediately, get a gym membership, and get a guy that treats you with kindness, faithfulness, and respect. Don't settle for anything less. This guy is a loser. The drama he provides in your life may seem exciting, but all it is doing is ruining your life and happiness. please read further
Author jhussett Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 I agree completely do it tonite RIGHT NOW dont waste another second on this useless twerp i agree totallly till i miss him thinking he LOVES ME feeling sorry for my self living alone in a big house with no one to talk to waiting for my insurance company to pay me for my car
Author jhussett Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 I'm tellin ya, lose this guy fast he's just dragging you down thank you baby i appreciate it
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 (edited) thank you baby i appreciate it Besides, any guy that wont take you skydiving is a total pussy anyway tell this 'guy" i'll jump with him for free. I'll even come out there to do it. Then I'll push his ass out the door @ 15000 ft. We'll see what a 'tough guy" he is then Edited January 15, 2010 by skydiveaddict
temple Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 You absolutely deserve more than what this guy has put you through. It sounds like he is using his age against yours to 'prove' that he is superior, which is so far from the truth. Is he violent? Likely to be? I would make sure a family member or friend is nearby when you tell him to take a hike, he sounds like a loose cannon.
Awesome Username Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 This man is abusive. I think you should leave him. By the way, my aunt is in her forties and she gets more male attention that I do.
bac Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 From what I know, the relationship with much younger guys is only about hot sex. If you are in 40s and he is in 20s, you both can use each other only for sex. Do not get emotionally involved/attached because he is seeing you as a temporary stepping stone for his needs. All these relationships are pretty much the same. They involve an older woman who gets attached to an younger guy because of very hot sex, a guy who is looking for younger girls while he is with her, a woman is suffering very badly because of jealousy. The jealousy is very painful because the woman thinks that he wants younger girls for sex but she knows that she can not get any younger for him. There might be some exceptions when the relationships work out OK, but they are just exceptions.
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