Pizzaman81 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 So I may have an issue, which some of you share. The phone I am using now was given to me by my 2nd gf The shoes i am wearing was given to me by my last gf The sweater i'm wearing was given to me by my 1st gf The digital Wacom tablet I use to draw with was given to me by my last gf Some of the trinkets I have on my dresser cabinet were given to me by an assortment of my ex's The watch I wear was given to me by my 3rd gf. The cool magnets I have at my office at work was given to me by my last gf. I am the walking embodiment of my ex's. I think it's a waste of money to throw all those away. Anyone?
threebyfate Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 The only things I throw out or get rid of, are things that don't serve a purpose. But then, I can't stand knick-knacks, unless it's something a child made for me. And even those only get kept for short periods of time. So...1/2 my jewelry collection came from exes. The only things that bothered me, were the engagement and wedding rings, from the ex-H. Instead of getting rid of them, I had them remade into a necklace and pendant.
OnlyJake Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Why would you throw away and not use or store away unseen somewhere gifts that could be used, worn, enjoyed just because they came from someone you're not longer dating? If, for example, the watch is engraved with a mushy message, maybe you shouldn't wear it if you're in a new, serious relationship. But beyond that, I don't see what the issue is?
Oh Moe Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Maybe I'm overly sensitive but things given to me by just girlfriends I keep. Things given to me by long term relationships that don't work go back, cards, gifts, jewelry everything. The relationship I just got out of I took everything put it in a box and left it on her doorstep. She called me and said what in the hell did you do that for. She dumped me over her lies, why would you want something that was given to you over a lie.
4givrnt4gtr Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 hmmm i keep a lot of stuff given by my exs...but mostly it goes into a special sorta box I got for all that. Now, my last ex gave me pjs and a scarf...i love them both and come hell or high water I will continue using them!
MyNameIsJonas Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 No, most of the "stuff" given me from exs normally gets donated to charity. I've also never reached a point in any relationship where the girlfriend is giving me gifts that go beyond $100 or so, and most of the gifts at that level or below have been clothes. The only exception are CDs; I keep those.
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I cant help you. None of my ex's ever gave me anything but grief
Ingenue Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I donated and/or threw out most of the belongings my last ex gave me. That relationship ended quite badly and I wanted nothing to do with him or the things he gave. Other than a bracelet that he gave me, everything else (including an expensive piece of art) got passed to other people. I'm of the firm belief that if I no longer enjoy it, some other person might. Even the bracelet I'm contemplating selling. I don't need the reminders of him anymore. He's not in my life and since we're not on speaking terms, his belongings won't serve as a catalyst for any pleasant trek down memory lane. As for cards and pictures, those all were purged shortly after the break-up. I don't know whether I'll regret it a decade down the road, but so far I don't. I think if the relationship ended well, you're more likely to keep reminders of that person around.
Angel1111 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 If they don't make you feel bad, then why get rid of them? I broke up with someone once who had given me a lot of gifts. After awhile, seeing the things around my house that reminded me of him just annoyed me even more. I really loved the items and didn't want to get rid of them so I put them all away in a closet. A couple of years later, I pulled them out and they didn't bother me anymore. I still have those things. But I have one ex that I totally want to forget, and there isn't one single item around to remind me of him.
aerogurl87 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I have my ex boyfriend's hoodie that he gave me when we first met. I often thought of throwing it out but it keeps me too warm for that. Not to mention it's super comfy. Oh and I have the Ipod Touch my ex gave me for my birthday. There's no way I'm throwing that out or giving that away!
alphamale Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 yea i have lots of stuff given by ex-lovers
OceanTropic Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Just cuz something was given to you by an ex, doesn't mean you have to attach so much sentimental value. I never understood why people would destroy everything after a relationship ended. I mean, you had a relationship for a reason, do you really want to erase every single memory and good time? I think its ridiculous. I still have photos of my ex, and jewellery he made me, and I still wear it. I don't think of him when I do, but when people ask I say "Oh my ex gave it to me."
USMCHokie Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I don't think my ex actually ever gave me anything...
norajane Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 My car battery was purchased an installed by an ex. Nope, not getting rid of it! Same for the intergalactic, space age coffee maker with the automatic timer. No way I'm getting rid of that. Nor am I getting rid of the super-duper, super-sharp, top chef knives. It takes a man with BALLS to give his girlfriend a set of really sharp knives and then cheat on her, yeah? Still, not getting rid of the knives because they chop and slice and dice so well. That's the problem with men who give practical gifts. While you might want to pile them up and burn them, really, how can you since they're so useful? The gold watch? Sitting in my drawer, lonely and unused.
doushenka Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 ...unintentionally, yes. Borrowed one boyfriend's pyjamas (we were broken up already) and never gave them back -- I believe they went to Goodwill. Actually, it's not all unintentional. Though I never could get all the way through the book, I treasure the beautiful hardcover Mists of Avalon my first boyfriend gave me for Christmas. *sigh* Oh, to be fourteen again! I gave him superglue so he could play pranks on his teachers.
Awesome Username Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Yes, I keep them. This reminds me - I have to give my old ex's sweatshirt back. I found it while packing!
betamanlet Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 So I may have an issue, which some of you share. The phone I am using now was given to me by my 2nd gf The shoes i am wearing was given to me by my last gf The sweater i'm wearing was given to me by my 1st gf The digital Wacom tablet I use to draw with was given to me by my last gf Some of the trinkets I have on my dresser cabinet were given to me by an assortment of my ex's The watch I wear was given to me by my 3rd gf. The cool magnets I have at my office at work was given to me by my last gf. I am the walking embodiment of my ex's. I think it's a waste of money to throw all those away. Anyone? My ex gave me a coffee mug and fridge magnet that I still have. They day before she dumped me she got me a giant gumball from an Acme vending machine. i still have that in a drawer
sumdude Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Having lived with my ex wife for seven years before and during our marriage there are too many things to keep track of. Some I got rid of, others are packed away and some I use. They are all little reminders of what was good and went really bad. I've learned to live with it but it took a while. Electric guitar - well i wasn't going to get rid of that but I use it less than my others for whatever reason. Stained glass art lamp - Packed away, too beautiful a piece to destroy or trash but it was the centerpiece of our home when we were together. Would feel out of place now. Thousands of pictures including wedding shots. - packed away.. what do you do with them?
phineas Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 My STBXW bought me a globe with a flip-top that holds brandy & glasses. She also bought me a motorized picture frame. Things she got my while we were dateing. why toss them? I did give the stuffed musical animal she got me for valentines day to my kids to play with. That obviously didn't come from her heart because she was with her boyfriend at a hotel earlier that day. If it has useful purpose or it was expensive I've kept it. Everything else was junked or given away.
phineas Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Thousands of pictures including wedding shots. - packed away.. what do you do with them? Yes, what do you do with them? I have them in my fire safe. Video also. Even though she cheated on me about a little over a yr into the marriage it was still a good party with all my friends & family.
skydiveaddict Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 Thousands of pictures including wedding shots. - packed away.. what do you do with them? Use them as starter fuel for you next barbecue
DiscoChick Posted February 1, 2010 Posted February 1, 2010 I happened to be looking for something to sleep in and found a pretty cool Doors tshirt. I wondered where it cam from. Well, after not thinking about it, I realized my ex must have left it over...and that was over a year ago. It's a cool tshirt. Some other things I kept from him: a box of cassette tapes, Marvel Encyclopedia, Rick Flair compilation dvd, countless music discs, and several books. I really wish he would give me back my hairclips I left at his place. My mom bought them. I mean, he can keep all the other stuff, but you'd think after a few months he'd mail my hairclips. I love hairclips and hate losing them; he knows this. Mom bought them from Maryland.
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