duece22022 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 i am doing so much better with getting my mind off her. I don't even think of her on the way home from work or before i go to bed. But, I have the problem of checking her facebook at least 5 times a day. I always think it's harmless right before i do it. after i check it i feel like crap. I am addicted and i can't stop. Does anyone else have this problem? Pathetic right?
Malenfant Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 i think its quite normal. not massively helpfull, but quite normal nonetheless. like anything we feel a compulsion to do, they only way to get past it is to stop. you could block her, as blocking someone means you also cant see their page. you cant unblock until a week afterwards, maybe by then you'll be able to handle it better? Good luck
mistakesweremade Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Man up and delete her or delete yours altogether. Just do it! You will fell a lot better.
CaliGuy Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 i am doing so much better with getting my mind off her. I don't even think of her on the way home from work or before i go to bed. But, I have the problem of checking her facebook at least 5 times a day. I always think it's harmless right before i do it. after i check it i feel like crap. I am addicted and i can't stop. Does anyone else have this problem? Pathetic right? Block her. Problem solved. All it takes is a little discipline and a LOT of self-respect.
Malenfant Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Man up and delete her or delete yours altogether. Just do it! You will fell a lot better. if he deleted her, he'd still be able to view certain bits of her page. i vote for him deleting himself! i've been meaning to for ages, i hate FB!!
Angel1111 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 You'll stop when you get sick of the pain. Right now, you're just too curious and it's gets the better of you. One day, it'll get old.
Silver_star Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 its tempting to see what the ex is up too..even if we try and convince ourselves we are getting better we sabatoge our success and want to see if we are strong enough now by viewing their progress. We make excuses not to delete them, but really..just do it. It doesnt matter what shes up too..it doesnt matter what she looks like now, or what her status says..and even if ur hoping to see a status that reads: "im missing my ex like crazy he/she wasthe best thing to ever happen to me"...know that it wont say that, and it will only set you back furthur seeing her acting perfectly normal in your absence, stop playing mind games with yourself, and do yourself a favor, delete them, avoid them.
mistakesweremade Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 You can try this. It might be fun. http://www.suicidemachine.org Please no one jump to conclusions until you look at it.
HLP234 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 That is why my ex, who left me without saying anything to me, deleted me as a friend from facebook. She also made all her stuff private too. This way, I have no reason to even look at her page. I have made my page stuff on there private to only friends, that way if she is ever on and searches me, she can only see my profile picture and that is about it. Just remove her from friends, or deactivate your profile for a while until you get better.
Zeegagge Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Haha, my ex's new relationship is so messed up that her family forced her to delete her Facebook account. They don't approve and the stuff that was on there was embarassing to them. She has no Facebook now! Easier for me.
Eisenhower Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Be aware, there's a new application on Facebook that allows you to see who has looked at your page and how many times. If your ex has this application, she can see how obsessed you are and it's probably a huge stroke to her ego. Next time you get ready to look, just think that she might know it and you're just boosting her ego in the process. Eisenhower
LovelyDaze Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Be aware, there's a new application on Facebook that allows you to see who has looked at your page and how many times. If your ex has this application, she can see how obsessed you are and it's probably a huge stroke to her ego. Next time you get ready to look, just think that she might know it and you're just boosting her ego in the process. Eisenhower THAT'S exactly why Im glad I hid then deleted my ex's FB statuses for good. At some point you have to dare yourself to let go and not torture yourself anymore. OP, Does it make you a spoonful happier anytime you see your ex's quotes, pics and comments? The answer has got to be NO. Do what will make you feel better in the long run. Delete the ex of FB period. Then work on making yourself happier with your own life. Hanging on by a thread is not going to get you back with her.
bananaboat11 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Be aware, there's a new application on Facebook that allows you to see who has looked at your page and how many times. If your ex has this application, she can see how obsessed you are and it's probably a huge stroke to her ego. Next time you get ready to look, just think that she might know it and you're just boosting her ego in the process. Eisenhower To date there is nothing...
Gypsy_Soul Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Be aware, there's a new application on Facebook that allows you to see who has looked at your page and how many times. If your ex has this application, she can see how obsessed you are and it's probably a huge stroke to her ego. Next time you get ready to look, just think that she might know it and you're just boosting her ego in the process. Eisenhower Actually that app can't detect who the stalkers are that go just to check out pictures and what you have on your page. It only shows the top people whom you have had communication with and how many times they liked something of yours.
USMCHokie Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Be aware, there's a new application on Facebook that allows you to see who has looked at your page and how many times. If your ex has this application, she can see how obsessed you are and it's probably a huge stroke to her ego. Next time you get ready to look, just think that she might know it and you're just boosting her ego in the process. Eisenhower Are you sure about this...? I believe it violates Facebook privacy rights...
HLP234 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 No there is no App that lets you see who looked at your page. There is group on there that if you add yourself to the group, and then add a number of friends, then you can see who it is that is viewing your profile. But it is all BS and a hoax. There is no app that to this date you can see who was on your profile. The news feed pretty much does a good job of that anyway.
streetlamp Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Unfriend, unfriend, unfriend. Block, block, block. Facebook is the worst for getting over someone.
Gypsy_Soul Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 No there is no App that lets you see who looked at your page. There is group on there that if you add yourself to the group, and then add a number of friends, then you can see who it is that is viewing your profile. But it is all BS and a hoax. There is no app that to this date you can see who was on your profile. The news feed pretty much does a good job of that anyway. I already told them there isn't one that can.
CaliGuy Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 FaceBook has gone to extreme measures to ensure that no one can be tracked (as was possible with MySpace). If someone says there is a FaceBook tracker out there and you use it, I'm willing to bet it's a Trojan Horse virus and it'll probably send all your sensitive information to thugs. But hey, it's your PC, do wha'choo want
HLP234 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Facebook was alright when it first started out. Now its gone way too personal such as relationship status even having people being tagged if its "complicated." But that is why they have a whole new set of privacy features at your disposal. I know someone who has two accounts so they could stay away from trouble regarding their ex. That is just absurd. I use it because I'm still in school for a bit but after I am done I doubt I will use it for posting pics and communicating with alumni.
adamt Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 facebook problems always come up on here. the same and correct answer is unfriend and block, it is hard but until you do you are only fooling yourself thinking you are moving on. it is just like self harm. dont keep hitting yourself on the head with a hammer. been there with facebook and forced myself to block here. i think next time i wil bre reluctant to add a girlfriend on my facebook. it is evil.
Silver_star Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Even if you have their status "hid" they can still contact you through Fb chat. Which is what happened to me today. In order to prevent that from happening you need to delete them. I think im trying to convince myself we can be friends down the road, or something, but im not gonna get "down the road" if he keeps on trying to get me back and keep me under his spell. So we all have to do whats best for us at the time. delete. delete. delete.
northstar1 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Just delete your account. I did and can't say I miss it. It's a collosal waste of time and no one is honest on their anyways.
adamt Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 facebook is treated too seriously. i mean how can people have 500+friends?. I wil never forget the day after my ex broke up with me when she changed her profile to single and it came up on my profile and probably another 200+. it felt like she was announcing to the world she was free of me. But she did remove it 2 hours later. then i got a few people asking me about it on facebook. I just wanted to hide! then 6 months later i bumbed into her, i said i had no hard feelings(not true!) and she said even though you removed me from facebook! people take it too seriously. the weird and hard part now is seeing that my friends are on her facebook even though some of them have spoke to her only once. they know more about her now than me. i can never add her to my facebook again. I dont know how people deal with a new relationship and having photos of thier ex stil on facebook. Do you want your new person delving into your past? Lesson is, be careful of how facebook gets into your relationship. even when you are getting along brilliantly. Facebook contributed to my relationship failing. conversation killer.
HLP234 Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Its so true, they even assume stuff based on your statuses and then it all goes downhill. Facebook and myspace was how my ex was able to talk all the time with her "friend" while we were on our "break." I knew it all along too but I didn't get pissed because there was no point to it. Its best to just get rid of it if you don't use it. It is useful for searching for companies and such. Most employers have facebook profiles and I was able to communicate with people who graduated in order to secure interviews. Besides that, it just opens another privacy hole.
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