xtreme Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Quick Summary: -Alright I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 3 years. I'm in the US while shes from Canada, usually within each year I go visit her or she comes and visits me and we talked everyday using the phone at night and messenger. The first 2 1/e years were great but I guess on my part for the last couple of months I wasn't acting the same, not paying much attention as much as I use to. For example, everyday and throughout the day I would give her attention but the last couple of months I was more into my hobbies and etc. But i did give her attention but not as much as I thought. In a LDR you need attention and love, I still love her the same but through a couple of months she lost the love she once felt for me and looked at me as more of a friend. Though there is noone else in her life, she wants to keep me as a friend/good friend but I still have a bit of hope but its dieing inside me, but she made her decision final that she doesn't wanna be with me in a long distance relationship, should i keep talking to her? Its not hurting me as much as I thought Im going through the last 2 days fine but I still have a bit of hope but dieing. Any advice? Thanks!
Author xtreme Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 So Today I saw her write in her name, "Fear of nothing but losing you then an hour later took it off" I feel she is still attach to me and a bit of love for me still resides but I think im going to stop talking to her bit by bit and see if she realizes anything with her decision.
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 (edited) I would stop ALL contact with her. and to quote alphamale : "never accept the consolation prize of "friendship" Edited January 15, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author xtreme Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 I'm thinking about ignoring her little by little each day until there is no more contact between us and see where it takes me..is that fine?
gaudi Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 If you have a vested emotional interest in this girl then the quicker you begin NC the better. Never agree to "FRIENDS" when you have just broken up, it doesn't work. Friends only works when you's are months down the line and are so not bothered about what kind of relationship the other is in that it doesn't actually matter. I say start the NC, you will heal a lot quicker.
TheLoneSock Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Why does love hurt? Because it's worth it.
dazzle22 Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 If I ever wanted to put a curse on someone, I would wish on them a LDR...pure TORTURE. Promise yourself you will only get involved with a girl who lives near you the next time...
LovelyDaze Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 If I ever wanted to put a curse on someone, I would wish on them a LDR...pure TORTURE. Promise yourself you will only get involved with a girl who lives near you the next time... Yes, it is extremely difficult(been there, done that) and the face-to-face relationship is NEVER the same as the LDR...never. OP, to your question Why does love hurt? Well, love is not SUPPOSED to hurt. It is the pitfalls, broken promises, jealousy, insecurities, arguing, disagreements, confusion, and lack of trust that hurts love itself. Break the LDR and go NC. If she is wanting to put you in the friend zone then it is telling you that its time to move on.
adamt Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 Being friends with an ex from a LDR just never works. There is no point to it. it just never works out. staying friends is due to the dumeprs guilt and the dumpers hopes of getting back together
Author xtreme Posted January 17, 2010 Author Posted January 17, 2010 Alright so far I have been keeping low contact, like a quick chit chat once a day but im doing other things to keep myself busy and waste time. She told me a few days that she still looks at our pictures everyday and the ring I gave her, she wears it still but for now it has a different meaning to her..But since she was the one that wanted a break, i stopped chasing her as much as it hurts, she is the one that makes the decision and changes on her own.
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