ifebuche Posted December 28, 2003 Posted December 28, 2003 I am 22 and there is this girl that I knew as far back as when I was 16 or 17. Then, she was my only female acquaintance. There was a time I had to update my notes in the secondary school and she usually came around to help me copy to the extent that sje comes with her own ball point. It used to be by chance that she came around but I later realised she started it as a routine. We continued well and I was very fond of her. Before I took my last exams, she gave me a succes card, a very big one and cherished the card and kept it intact. then I took the exams and was very successful. there were five alphas and two credits, two were seized, but later released as alpha. I gladly showed her my result and she was proud of me. then the next year was her year to take the same exams but she did not show me her result after the exam. I was not happy. Then after a year or so, I came back from school (boarding) and there were silly stories about her. this time I saw her a very strange girl from what I used to know. Just instinctively I started to ignore her. I would even go up through a different street when I notice that she is there infront of her house as return home. (We live in the same street). It is quite obvious that I am avoiding her and it has lasted for more than a year now bu tshe insists on talkin gwith me and stopping me on the way. Why can't she just let me go? I have many things on my mind now. Isn't it guys that usually go for the keys but here it is the other way round. Should I continue running away? But the type of people she goes with, boys and men I mean are not people I like, still it is obvous she has boyfreinds but she still haunts me . Hmm. I wonder.
Kat Posted December 28, 2003 Posted December 28, 2003 I have no idea why you are trying to ignore this lady, but anyways. Why can't she leave you alone??? Is she is a mind reader? No. Grow a pair and tell her why you are ignoring her, so she knows why you are being petty and giving into peer pressure. Why do people ignore people and not talk and then wonder why they can't mind read.
Author ifebuche Posted December 28, 2003 Author Posted December 28, 2003 If she is not a mind reader why can't she read the handwriting on the wall? She knows she has her own men and she is still pretending she is for me, why can't she be real. I gave all my attention to her and she always tries to play the I-don't-know I-need- to-be-reminded- lady. I believed she is aware of the reason why I have decided to walk away. If someone refuses to be talked to for close to a year what message does it send? Well, I was thinking that I did not want to hurt her and to avoid her begging or stuffs, yes, ah, because I am prone to falling for tears. She can't be serious. I know her men, one of them even my close pal and we discuss about her, so
Kat Posted December 28, 2003 Posted December 28, 2003 If you are not man enough to make your feelings known, then don't expect her to 'figure it out' just because you are a coward. Ever heard of friends??? Maybe she just wants to be your friend...
Author ifebuche Posted December 28, 2003 Author Posted December 28, 2003 May be I am a coward but must she cheat on me? OK, not trying to sound misericordiam. I think I will have to tell her and then damn the consequences. Must girls always pretend? Ome year no talk and welive inthe same street. OK. Yeah, may be I am a coward, and that's one of he costliest diseases to cure.
Kat Posted December 28, 2003 Posted December 28, 2003 How do you get that she is 'cheating on you'. Are you in a relationship? Did she say she would be faithful to you? Did you two enter into an agreement to be together. or is this something you came to think? I feel sorry for your situation, but all I am reading is you read too much into some flirting and you are now blaming her for your assumptions Good luck, no matter what you do
Author ifebuche Posted December 28, 2003 Author Posted December 28, 2003 Are you into it with this girl. I meanonher side? Well. Here it is not so common to brag about that somebody is one's girl because that would be extra-flirtatious, well, here. I don't want to believe that she is not aware of the development as it is as into needing some more clarification. She used to come over always and we stay and chat. We did practically everyhting together, does she need a jupiter for that announcement? We were once out on each other and she came around to apologize, is that a definition o fnot beinga aware of hte situation? I just think she preends. She has told me friend that each day he greets me her day is better, I mean brighter. What sort of thing is that? I feel like going back to her sometimes and falling on my knees, bu the next minute she smacks me with her companies.
mandarincool Posted January 2, 2004 Posted January 2, 2004 ifeb'uche, you're not making a lot of sense to me. were you or were you not with this girl? did you mistake her flirtation for committment? did you ever take her out, hold hands, kiss, sleep together or discuss committment? if not, you were just talking together, and perhaps doing a little flirting. maybe you missed out on the opportunity to have her be your girlfriend, by not asking her to be when she was signaling her receptivity by visiting you and giving you a lot of attention... what do you think?
Author ifebuche Posted October 29, 2005 Author Posted October 29, 2005 I think it is kinda weird but the world around here seems to be so different and still has a high sense of morality in terms of boy/girl relationship. Mostly, this committment is non-verbal and voicing or at least making too much show of it gets one a very bad reputation around the neighnbourhood. Worse still, there seems to going to be a commitment that follows it that you may never imagine. The extent we reached was the extent that would be called real and serious committment. Or may be I was jsut drooling. But the good news now is that I hardly think about her any more. Though she still makes some eye, I have decided to 'close' my heart to her and never bother about it any longer. I have Ifebuche now.
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