Oh Moe Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 OK I am finally over the last ex of three years and I've never been a player so I need answers.. I have always asked out women that I've know, always had my own service business so ran across hundreds of people per week. I could talk and flirt with anyone never had a problem there, sort of had no choice if want a successful business. Also most of the dates/relationships I had after my divorce I was approached. I no longer see people, (semi retired) if I have an adult conversation once a month I'm lucky. Since the kids are older there's no sports, school activities etc. no family around so I'm lost here. Here's an example I've going into a local bank for a while now and there's a women there that I always talk to with no rings so I'm assuming she not married and has never mentioned a significant other in our conversations. Do I just blurt out are you interested in a coffee or lunch ? It's been a long long time since I played the dating game and the last one kicked my butt so I'm a little slow here. Plus a little reluctant since the last disaster. Do I offer a number or let them offer if they are interested ? It's just been so long and I always had tons of people around to ask !!! Thanks.
MyNameIsJonas Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Here's an example I've going into a local bank for a while now and there's a women there that I always talk to with no rings so I'm assuming she not married and has never mentioned a significant other in our conversations. Do I just blurt out are you interested in a coffee or lunch ? It's been a long long time since I played the dating game and the last one kicked my butt so I'm a little slow here. Plus a little reluctant since the last disaster. Do I offer a number or let them offer if they are interested ? After the normal playful banter... You: "Hey so I was wondering if you wanted to grab a cup of coffee/drink so we can get to know each other outside of 'normal business hours?'" Her: "That sounds great! what did you have in mind?" You: "Well, there's a cosi/starbucks/caribou/whatever right around the corner from here. How does (day) around (time) sound?" Her: "That sounds great!" You: "Fantastic. See you then!" Show up early, have a good time, get her number, etc. Of course, I'm the type of person who gets/calls a woman's number just to set up dates. Some may get her number first then set up the date. Whatever works for you.
OceanTropic Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Well since you guys are friendly, I dont see the harm in asking her if she would like to go for coffee. But you have to know if she is just being friendly (because she has to) or if she is interested. I guess the best way to know would be to flirt with her, and see how she reacts.
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Well since you guys are friendly, I dont see the harm in asking her if she would like to go for coffee. But you have to know if she is just being friendly (because she has to) or if she is interested. I guess the best way to know would be to flirt with her, and see how she reacts. NO NO NO! Go right to the point! dont waste time in this life my friend! There are subtle ways that you can do that w/out coming off like a desperate wimp. read alphamales guide on keeping women around. good stuff. if you like a girl, ALWAYS go down gambling!
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