bluenite Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Hello everyone! It has been a while since I have dated but last night I went out on my first date with this girl I met through a friend at work. I thought it went well at first, but now I am not so sure when reflecting back on the end. Initially, I thought the date went well. I showed up on time, dressed nice, and took her to a nice restaurant. Conversation was really natural- we shared a lot in common, had similar interests, and I had no problems getting her to smile/laugh all night. I was also a gentleman, opening most doors and paid for the whole thing (I didn't give her the option of paying as I believe a guy should do that on the first few dates). We both talked about what we like in a potential partner and what we were looking for as far as relationships. We both said we like to take things SLOW (especially since she is recently out of a LTR, though she did say it lasted much longer than it should have). At the end of the night, I went to drop her off at her apartment. I walked her from her car to her door (all the while keeping the conversation going). When we reached the door, I said I had a great time, she said the same then she gave me a hug. I accepted the hug, turned, looked at her, and gave her a peck on the lips (she didn't resist, but I honestly don't remember if she smiled or not). After that, I said we should both see each other again. She suggested next week and I told her I would call her. Now I am thinking about the kiss and whether or not I should have done it. The kiss itself was a peck- it was by no means romantic/magical/something you see on TV, but the kiss wasn't out of left field either. I'm just worried that kissing her on the first date may not have come across as "take things slow", like we talked about. And I'm not totally sure if she wanted to kiss me. I mean, if she didn't want to, she would have backed off or turned a cheek, no? And thinking about this has now given me an inkling that she might turn down a second date when I call her (even though the rational part of my mind tells me this date went great, in comparison to others anyways). Please tell me I am being paranoid about the whole kiss situation and that I did not ruin my chances by doing something too soon. Its a good thing when you get an end of the date kiss, no?
sunshinegirl Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I think you are being paranoid - there, does that help? It sounds like it went well and she seemed receptive to a 2nd date. On your second date, I would say to pay attention to her body language and let that guide you as to whether she's ready for a 2nd kiss... good luck!
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Personally, if you discussed taking things slow and this was the first time meeting her, I wouldn't of kissed. But that's just me. People have said I'm wrong a lot, so take it with a grain of salt. The second or third date is the one to go for the kiss in my opinion!
DustySaltus Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I think you did fine. If she doesn't want to go out again after that, she's not for you anyway.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 If she likes you, this won't be a deal-breaker. If she doesn't, she'll find any excuse not to go out with you again. You did nothing wrong.
Malenfant Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 a peck on the lips isnt exactly a tongue thruster so i think it just indicates your interest in her romantically, without being too forward. dont worry about it
D-Lish Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I think you played things just right- don't stress about it! Make sure you give her that follow up call to set something up for next week. If she accepts, it's all good, if she doesn't, you'll have your answer. The peck isn't going to be a deal breaker at all.
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I think you played things just right- don't stress about it! Make sure you give her that follow up call to set something up for next week. If she accepts, it's all good, if she doesn't, you'll have your answer. The peck isn't going to be a deal breaker at all. I agree dont sweat it
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