DollWelch Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I have known "Ben" (as I shall call him) for quite some time. I'd say approximately 1+ years (as I recall; not the greatest memory). That's a long time, now that I think about it. He's been an acquaintance, or friend if you will, the entire time. I always enjoy talking to him. I see him from time to time, mainly because he is within the circle of friends and family I associate myself with. Over the course of time, I have developed romantic feelings towards him. However, I can't say he has as well. I don't know. This is significantly due to the fact that: (1) He's much more successful than I. This distorts my image of him. Why would he ever be interested in a woman such as myself? (2) He's wealthier than I am. His lack of money, leads me to believe that he can buy whatever and whomever he likes. (3) He's an intelligent man. This, I believe, is great. The fact that he's smart, remarkably complements my own intellect, makes me feel that I'm not so bad. However, he is still pretty darn smart. The issue is, I can't tell -or rather, read the signs. I don't know if he's interested in me, in a romantic sense. The only gesture I have noticed over the last while, is he constantly tries to shake hands with me, even when it is not necessary -and he makes good eye contact (stares). I don't know if these gestures constitute anything romantic, but, I am curious as to know what he is thinking. He also, shares the same morals and values as I do, as well as is a huge part of a member of my family's life. I would like to go out on a date with him, but I am very intimidated by his overall aura. Will he ever ask me out on a date? Thoughts/Feedback!
make me believe Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Have you done anything to convey your interest to him? Maybe feel out your family member that he is close to - find out if this guy is single, express that you're interested in him, and see what this person has to say about it. Then next time you see him, be a little more personable/flirty. Make sure he sees you as something other than just a friend of the family! Don't worry too much about his success/money. I am pretty broke and only recently got my associates degree (and I'm several years past college age lol) but I dated a doctor (only 4 yrs older than me) for a few months and the difference in our monetary situation was never an issue. I had insecurities about why he'd even be interested in me, but lets face it, most men aren't interested in women for their job/money! Plus he always doted on me and made me realize he liked me for ME! So don't let these things intimidate you. Good luck!
mem11363 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 My wife only had to ask me out once. I took it from there. But if she hadn't asked that first time - I was kind of shy back then. Ask him to go to a book club/book reading with you. Something harmless like that. You should be able to gauge his interest by how he responds. I have known "Ben" (as I shall call him) for quite some time. I'd say approximately 1+ years (as I recall; not the greatest memory). That's a long time, now that I think about it. He's been an acquaintance, or friend if you will, the entire time. I always enjoy talking to him. I see him from time to time, mainly because he is within the circle of friends and family I associate myself with. Over the course of time, I have developed romantic feelings towards him. However, I can't say he has as well. I don't know. This is significantly due to the fact that: (1) He's much more successful than I. This distorts my image of him. Why would he ever be interested in a woman such as myself? (2) He's wealthier than I am. His lack of money, leads me to believe that he can buy whatever and whomever he likes. (3) He's an intelligent man. This, I believe, is great. The fact that he's smart, remarkably complements my own intellect, makes me feel that I'm not so bad. However, he is still pretty darn smart. The issue is, I can't tell -or rather, read the signs. I don't know if he's interested in me, in a romantic sense. The only gesture I have noticed over the last while, is he constantly tries to shake hands with me, even when it is not necessary -and he makes good eye contact (stares). I don't know if these gestures constitute anything romantic, but, I am curious as to know what he is thinking. He also, shares the same morals and values as I do, as well as is a huge part of a member of my family's life. I would like to go out on a date with him, but I am very intimidated by his overall aura. Will he ever ask me out on a date? Thoughts/Feedback!
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