I know what I want for my family

[I_love_my_family]

Hi, I'm new for all of this. and sorry for my English is not very good. after 15 years of marry and 2 kids my wife file divorce me. I'm 36 and my wife is 42. I love her and kids very much. But not very good how to show her my love. I'm not a sweet mouth. But have a big hard. I come to USA with my wife about 15 years ago. we are go Thur all the trouble with visa for me and trouble with her family. after we have fist kids I stay home dad we both agree on that. First my wife happy with it. but now she say that I do not thing. but lazy ass.

I do all baby sit. all my kids live. but she see that I have done not thing. I do every thing that my family want and need. but it just not good for her. YES, I'm mad that she just want to end our marry. BUT I still love her. How can I stop this Divorce? she have layer but I don't have one. Just don't have money.$0 . and I still don't have citizen ship yet. I don't know what to do from now. Just only me here in USA. Please help me.

[Tymme]

My heart goes out to you. There are a lot of things that you need to take into consideration. Is she divorcing because she is unhappy with you as a husband? Is she divorcing because there is someone else? Is she divorcing because she is unhappy with her life? The first thing I would do is find out the main issue(s) that she has with your marriage and why she feels that ending it is the best possible solution. I am also no Romeo, but I do force out a few things to make her feel pretty or loved every now and then.

 

I have a lot of respect for stay-at-home-parents. That's a hard and important job. I used to think badly of my wife and see her as being somewhat lazy as well until I stepped back and looked at what all she really did while I was working. I had a real eye-opener when she took a short trip with her family and left me with 2 of our children. It is no easy task. Your wife may not understand that.

 

But speculation aside, the first thing I would suggest you do, as I have already said, is to find out the root of the problem. You two are going to have a lot to talk about either way it turns out, you might as well start talking before whatever opportunity you have is lost. Once you find the problem, see if it is your problem or hers. Chances are, it will be a little of both. Nobody wants to hear that they are lazy, but when it comes to things like this, you may have to step it up a bit more if you truly want to save your marriage. This is only my advice, and only you and your wife know what will and won't work. Good luck in whatever you do.

[I_love_my_family]

Hi, Tymme

 

Thanks you very much for your advice.

She say she divorcing because she is unhappy with me.

and I ask her what can I do to make her happy?

She say not thing that change her mine.

We are still stay the same house yet. and she are going out a lot more then before she file divorce me. she come back home very late like 3:30am or 4:00am. I thing is some one that she see. she say that she feel Guthry when she with me but when she file divorce she feel free to go out. I still love her even she have some one out. but for the sick of my kids. I willing to do what ever. but she say what ever it tack to get me out off her live. I thing my live is over. I feel hope less now. NO FAMILY, NO JOB,NO MONEY, NO HOPE.

 

I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO NO MORE.

 

Thank you for your be nice to me at less I know some one out there still thinking of some one out.

[I_love_my_family]

I just find out that she have going out with some one. After all this years of marry I don't know how long that she dose this to me. I love my family love my kids and my wife (soon will be ex) but how can she do this to us. I just do not know how she can live with it? Will tomorow will be a first hearing for the friend of court. wich me luck.

 

sign off for now

Edited February 8, 2010 by I_love_my_family
mist spelling

[Gunny376]

What is your nationality / language?

 

I speak very little Japanese, a little Spanish, some Tago