bigapplejen Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I dont want to be a doormat, and i dont want to seem high-maintenance or too demanding either. I went out with this guy last Saturday, and last Friday. Was supposed to see him Sunday, but it didnt work out too well for that day. So, I am supposed to see him tommorow or Monday or both. This weekend he is going away with his buddies. I just want to know if this is fair. I know he had this planned a couple weeks ago. I was burned before. The guy never made time for me, lied to me, etc. I mean it was far worse because sometimes I wouldnt see him for like 3 or 4 weeks and i was stupid. I dont want to be stupid now either, but I dont want to be too pushy or demanding at the same time..... What to do?
BobSacamento Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 If you confronted me with something like this I would laugh.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 If you confronted me with something like this I would laugh. and slap you
Author bigapplejen Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 i meant Saturday before last
Author bigapplejen Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 and slap you ummmm ok that doesnt really answer my question though!
skydiveaddict Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 oh hell just see if he calls again and wants to go out. dont make a big deal out of it, cause it's not
OnlyJake Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I dont want to be a doormat, and i dont want to seem high-maintenance or too demanding either. I went out with this guy last Saturday, and last Friday. Was supposed to see him Sunday, but it didnt work out too well for that day. So, I am supposed to see him tommorow or Monday or both. This weekend he is going away with his buddies. I just want to know if this is fair. I know he had this planned a couple weeks ago. I was burned before. The guy never made time for me, lied to me, etc. I mean it was far worse because sometimes I wouldnt see him for like 3 or 4 weeks and i was stupid. I dont want to be stupid now either, but I dont want to be too pushy or demanding at the same time..... What to do? Um don't do anything. You are the one being unfair and unreasonable.
Author bigapplejen Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 Well he does, but I just thought it should be on the weekends.
Author bigapplejen Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 Um don't do anything. You are the one being unfair and unreasonable. And that is why i am here asking this question, not to be flamed.
skydiveaddict Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Well he does, but I just thought it should be on the weekends. That's ok TELL him that
OnlyJake Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Well he does, but I just thought it should be on the weekends. You said you just started dating him...weekends are friend time. If you reeeaaaallllly want to chat for 5 minutes on the weekend maybe you should give him a call and say hey what's up.
skydiveaddict Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 And that is why i am here asking this question, not to be flamed. I'm tellin ya, there's nothing wrong with your thinking. that's what weekends are for DATES!
BobSacamento Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I'm tellin ya, there's nothing wrong with your thinking. that's what weekends are for DATES! False. Weekends are for finding other women. Weekdays are for dates with current women.
OnlyJake Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 And that is why i am here asking this question, not to be flamed. I dont want to be a doormat, and i dont want to seem high-maintenance or too demanding either. OK, so is it better if I use your words and say that it sounds like you're being high-maintenance and too demanding? I went out with this guy last Saturday, and last Friday. Was supposed to see him Sunday, but it didnt work out too well for that day. So, I am supposed to see him tommorow or Monday or both. That's a lot of contact; it seems obvious that he is into you. And oh hey, he even saw you on the weekend... This weekend he is going away with his buddies. I just want to know if this is fair. I know he had this planned a couple weeks ago. This is where you lost me, and probably everyone else also. I read this and thought "wtf? Is she serious?" I was burned before. The guy never made time for me, lied to me, etc. I mean it was far worse because sometimes I wouldnt see him for like 3 or 4 weeks and i was stupid. Sucks man. But that was then, this is now. That was a completely different guy. Your past mistakes and/or mistreatments are no reason to be melodramatic with this new guy. I dont want to be stupid now either, but I dont want to be too pushy or demanding at the same time..... Again using your words, and answering the question you asked, you're being pushy and demanding. What to do? Don't do anything. It sounds like things are going fine and you're creating problems where there are none.
skydiveaddict Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 hey my first date is usually skydiving here's what usually happens
skydiveaddict Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 False. Weekends are for finding other women. Weekdays are for dates with current women. Yea but she's NOT his current woman
Pleco Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 In case you haven't picked up on it yet, everyone is saying that you can't ask him to cancel plans he made with friends before he even started dating you. That's just a little bit crazy.
BobSacamento Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Yea but she's NOT his current woman Sounds like it to me.
D-Lish Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 In case you haven't picked up on it yet, everyone is saying that you can't ask him to cancel plans he made with friends before he even started dating you. That's just a little bit crazy. Indeed. If a guy pulled that on me this early on I'd run for the hills.
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