MySweetie'sGone Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 ...this is a forum called second chances...but no one seems to have had one. Anyone? Bueller? lol if you've EVER had reconciliation or been the dumper and wanted to come back how long did it take? & how did it happen? just curious.
USMCHokie Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I know at this stage of your coping process you want to hear success stories that give you hope that your ex will come back...but it is only going to hinder your healing...just be careful you don't linger at this stage for too long...
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 ur right....I would def like to heal because I hate feeling this way. At the same time I know there is hope. But even if it does happen for me..I would have wasted so much time in the process being miserable. I need to snap out of it. i'm working on it..believe me. But i also want to hear the stories just because I'm glad that some people find happiness and I want to prove the naysayers wrong. Sometimes things ARE meant to be...sometimes they aren't/ that doesnt mean we become cynical and deter other people from optimistically holding out hope.
aerogurl87 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Umm well I got dumped by my ex about half a year ago and about two days I texted him and we're finally talking again without yelling at each other...
USMCHokie Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Sometimes things ARE meant to be...sometimes they aren't/ that doesnt mean we become cynical and deter other people from optimistically holding out hope. You're right...sometimes things work out when you least expect it...don't get me wrong, the romantic in me will always have that hope that she'll come back, just like they do in the movies (Definitely, Maybe comes to mind...), but the key is not to let that hope affect the way you live your life...life is way too short and full of potential excitement for you to not live it to its fullest because you're holding out on a mere hope...
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 I'm so discouraged right now. Maybe I'm living in a fantasy land...like, who would come back to me anyway...
Oh Moe Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 (edited) I'm so discouraged right now. Maybe I'm living in a fantasy land...like' date=' who would come back to me anyway...[/quote'] It's not you if you loved them that's all we ever ask right it's them. I never asked my ex for one thing in three years just her love. Anything else is their choice good or bad. I don't want to rain on your parade so to speak. But you will read so many post here that even when they do come back you won't want them. Depending on what went wrong after the break more then the reason for the break in my case anyway. My ex treated me like an a**, lied to me every chance she got and when we met up and I looked at her and she's telling me she's not happy, she loves me and can't live without me. I thought that if I ever heard those words My life would be wonderful again, But. Not only don't I want her but I despise her because what she has done to me and my kids and what she has become. She now has her crackhead friends trying to intimidate me into fights in parking lots, her CH BF telling lies every place they go. This shows it was all about her and not me. I've specifically told her once to stop talking about me but. Edited January 14, 2010 by Oh Moe
Author MySweetie'sGone Posted January 14, 2010 Author Posted January 14, 2010 It's not you if you loved them that's all we ever ask right it's them. I never asked my ex for one thing in three years just her love. Anything else is their choice good or bad. I don't want to rain on your parade so to speak. But you will read so many post here that even when they do come back you won't want them. Depending on what went wrong after the break more then the reason for the break in my case anyway. My ex treated me like an a**, lied to me every chance she got and when we met up and I looked at her and she's telling me she's not happy, she loves me and can't live without me. I thought that if I ever heard those words My life would be wonderful again, But. Not only don't I want her but I despise her because what she has done to me and my kids and what she has become. She now has her crackhead friends trying to intimidate me into fights in parking lots, her CH BF telling lies every place they go. This shows it was all about her and not me. I've specifically told her once to stop talking about me but. Wow...that's horrible. Actually, i know that's true just hare that it's so. I have an old boyfriend now who thinks we're destined to be married and wants me to move back to my home state. but I have no interest. NONE. I know that once i'm over a relationship...i'm REALLY over it, esp if you broke my heart. Guess that's y i'm kinda holding on to the pain...b/c i really wanna be able to give my ex a second chance and know that if I move on...that chance will be caput.
sunrae Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 One loveshack posted made a really good point one time, about people and thier second chances and thier stories.... We might get to read thier second chance stories because they no longer need loveshack and us to help them heal.. When they got thier exes back they left the forum...
CaliGuy Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 ...this is a forum called second chances...but no one seems to have had one. That is because they are VERY, VERY rare and when they do happen, they often end up the same way -- in a breakup. Once someone decides they aren't IN love with you anymore, I can't see those feelings suddenly coming back again. That's just something that happens and, as time and experience have proven, it almost never does. Relationships are pretty much a one-shot deal, IMHO.
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