EM47 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Hi, 1st post! I have never really dated multiple people at once before (I am only talking about early one in the dating stage...each girl I am seeing, I have been on less than 5 dates with) but I question how honest to be when a girl asks a simple question like what did you do last night or what are you up to this weekend...and it turns out the answer was that I had a girl over, we watched a movie and made out or something like that. So in this situation, how honest would you be? I usually just say, I had friends over or I just chilled out at home. Those are both the truth (kind of) but not the 100% truth. Is this ok? As a guy I certainly wouldn't want to hear that a girl I am dating was hanging out with another guy last night, so I assume my answers are standard and the right play for most people?
Crazy Magnet Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 That's basically what I would say when one of the multiple guys I was dating asked me what I was doing. Sometimes I would mention where I went or what I did, but I left out the names of who I was with.
JohnP82 Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Why wouldn't you just be honest and say you were with another person? It's as if you're afraid of what would happen if one girl found out about the other, like you would lose one. If you are afraid of the potential repercussions why do it?
alphamale Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Why wouldn't you just be honest and say you were with another person? It's as if you're afraid of what would happen if one girl found out about the other, like you would lose one. If you are afraid of the potential repercussions why do it? well being honest could work on some chicks and make them even more interested cause there is competition. on other chicks it won't work and they will split if they know there are other hens in the chicken coup. so really you don't know what will happen. also, if you're not exclusive with any one chick you don't have to tell her about the other chicks, its none of her business.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 First rule of multidating- never announce how many people you're seeing. Tell a white lie, just never the full truth. Unless you're going to be exclusive with someone you're entitled to go about your business seeing other people. And you don't tell unless asked and you felt like responding the truth.
threebyfate Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 There's no need to lie. You can just say "I watched a movie last night". The rest is no one's business but your own. But... I firmly believe in fairplay, when it comes to multi-dating and have always disclosed. It gives the other person the opportunity to walk, if it bothers them. If they stay, it's entirely their responsibility. It backfired on me once. While he had no problem with the concept of multi-dating and agreed to it in theory, when he came face to face with the other man, his pride got the best of him. But imagine the drama if he hadn't known I was multi-dating and the meeting took place? Not a pretty sight.
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