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Right, I know this is a bit long but I am in dire straits...To give you a brief background, I fell in love with this lovely, charming, gorgeous guy (my first love etc) and we were together for about 2 years. A week after we split (we split largely because he had cheated on me about six months previously and I just couldn't get over it, despite him being the 'perfect boyfriend' after that incident...also, he was leaving the country for a year with his company and I simply couldn't trust him long-distance after what happened) I found out that he and my "best friend" (literally, we were like sisters) had kissed about a week before we broke up. They were good friends themselves.

 

Well, I was left totally heartbroken. I tried to forgive my friend as she seemed so apologetic at first, but in the end she seemed to be making next to no effort to repair our friendship (she said she was scared and didn't know how to deal with me--whereas I guess I wanted her to grovel) Coincedently she has also gone to the same city as my ex for this year, and they seem like the best of friends (evidence on Facebook pictures and the like), though when I've spoken to him he tells me that he doesn't really like her very much as a person and thinks she's a bit of a b***** for what she did to me. I guess my reasoning for maintaining a friendship with him is he's made much more of an effort with me since the split than she has.

 

I went over to the city in November and found out they'd kissed again (they always tell me its just bloody kissing) and I was so upset with them both. again. I've ended up not talking to the "best friend" because I can't believe that in the end I obviously meant so little to her. I've met up with my ex about three times since the split which was back in July, and every time we end up sleeping together as I simply have not met anyone in the past 7 months I have come as close to getting on as well with. Despite everything, I positively glow when I'm with him, he makes me so happy.

 

I realize this probably is a large contributing factor to why I can't seem to move on. I torture myself with what they may be getting up to over there, and I can't get him off my mind as I'm still in love with him, he's the last thing I think of when I go to bed and the first when I wake up. I even asked him if he wanted to get back together about two weeks, but he didn't want to do the long-distance relationship (I don't even know if I want to be with him--I think its just a bit of wanting what I can't have!) They're both coming back to the city I live in...I really need to move on from all this crap!!

 

Please, somebody give me some advice! Its so ridiculous because the person who I would normally turn to help me out in this situation is the one who's involved in the betrayal! Its strange because I broke up with my ex a number of times after I found out he cheated and all those times was not even that upset...am I struggling so much now because he was technically the dumper this time, or is it because my friend was involved, or just simply because I'm a bit pathetic!? (actually on last thoughts maybe don't answer that last question...):o

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No you are not pathetic, don't even begin to think like that. You have been treated like s**t by 2 people who should have been there for you. 2 people who you are supposed to be able to rely on.

 

They are the pathetic ones, you don't need them. I know it's difficult but I would seriously encourage you to leave these 2 to each other. You are much better than either of them. the EX thinks your ex-friend's a bit of a b**ch beacuse of what she done to you ??? But she done it with him !!!

 

Make a life for yourself that doesn't include your EX or your ex-friend. It will be a long hard road, but will ultimately be worth it.....x

Edited by gaudi
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I think you should look for someone else who will treat you right. Let these two so called 'friends' go. They won't be happy because of their betrayal of you. One day, it will happen to them.

 

However, just as a last resort, you may want to try this method to achieve a reconciliation with your ex boyfriend.

 

All the best,

Gloria Deo

 

Discover how I got my ex back and never have to worry about relationship

problems ever again: http://www.payzeno.com/a/gloriadeo4/19

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