chenazah Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Hello, from looking through some of the threads it seems that many men believe that if a women says "i need a break" its because they have another fella lined up? I was just wondering what a womens point of view is on this subject?
DiscoChick Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Well, I can't speak for the rest of the chicks, but I would tell him that I simply need time to myself or time to be with my friends. I would never date a guy that was overbearing, anyway, so this probably isn't even a valid opinion. If I have to tell him that, something is waaaay wrong, and I don't beat around the bush about things. I'd just tell him to take a walk.
Catseye8 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 If I said "I need a break," I'd mean "I need a break" - there wouldn't be another man lined up. There are plenty of dishonest evil people out there, but not everyone's that way!
sunrae Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 If I said "I need a break," I'd mean "I need a break" - there wouldn't be another man lined up. There are plenty of dishonest evil people out there, but not everyone's that way! I agree with Catseye.... I'm in that "I need a break stage" right now with a guy I was seeing, initiated by him, and I asked bascially the same question.. I was told if a guy says the "i need time, space or break" They are breaking up with me and trying to let me down easy. But for me, If I say I need a break, thats what I need, a little space, not necessarly a break up.... But people say one thing and mean another.
Ilovecake Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I don't think there is a generalization for this. Some people say it and mean it some don't. Personally I think it's a very immature and selfish way of breaking up with someone. Not only because it's a cowardly way of avoiding confrontation but also because the person who says that is leaving things open so they can come back if things don't work out. If someone told me I need a break, I would definitely consider it done and finished and start moving on.
jms76 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I gotta go with what I love Cake said. Great user name btw. If a guy/girl says those dreaded four words, pack your bags and start heading for the door. Here's my logic: If someone feels like they need to take a break from the relationship, that means something is most likely wrong. That person is not happy about something, has doubts about where the relationship is going, is interested in someone else..etc..etc. It doesn't really matter what the reason is. Assuming this person did not try to salvage the relationship, that should be the first thing he/she should be trying to do. Taking a break will not magically solve the problem. Talking about whatever is bothering the other person is the only solution. So instead of trying to figure out why someone wants to take a break, instead ask him/her if the issues can be worked out by communicating with each other. If not, don't waste your time waiting for the other person to figure out their issue(s). This may sound harsh but sitting on the sidelines waiting is actually worse. I'm speaking from experience....unfortunately:o
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