yankeefan4255 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Im 16 and have been going out with a girl that lives about 13 hours away from me (i live in boston she lives in lansing, michigan). We met in cancun mexico about 6 months...and decided to make it into a relationship. We skype and talk on the phone every day, and text each other 24/7. this past saturday, i was at a party, and she was too. i got...drunk i guess and well i hooked up with a friend who ive liked for years. She didnt want to cuz of my gf but she reaalllyy wanted to...so yea. I held her and we did the little thing of playing hands or whatever....but i refused to kiss. she basically let me do watever i wanted. Anyways, later that night, my gf posted pictures of her party. now her profile picture is of her and some guy. I got jealous, and immediatley started thinking 'What if she cheated on me'. i became...angry and mad. I noticed that I always had to say i love you first, and when she would say it back, it would be very quick. we were supposed to see each other in chicago over break (cuz i was in with a thing w/my youthgroup) and she was only an hour away (she came to wisconsin and hour up north) we were soo ready to see each other...but bad luck prevailed. her dad wouldnt let her go thursday cuz of an ice storm, friday cuz it was christmas day, saturday i couldnt, and sunday i couldnt...so it kinda was bad from there. her mom is a flight attendant so she gets free flights...so we were Supposed to see each other this weekend...but flights are booked. I feel like shes making up all these excuses not to see me. 3 days ago i told her best friend (im good friends w/her) about how i felt...but ended up sending the texts to my gf (good job eh?) i told her that i felt jealous of her and stuff...and she said shed "NEVR EVER would i cheat on you. your perfect you know that?". what should i think? pleassee help
Rollercoasterr Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Well considering that you pretty much cheated on HER, I just want to say that if she did cheat on you, you deserved it. Being 16 is no excuse for acting the way you did. Seriously.
Rylle Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I think you're feeling insecure because you cheated on her - you're projecting your bad behavior onto her.
Sparkling Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 Im 16 and have been going out with a girl that lives about 13 hours away from me (i live in boston she lives in lansing, michigan). We met in cancun mexico about 6 months...and decided to make it into a relationship. We skype and talk on the phone every day, and text each other 24/7. this past saturday, i was at a party, and she was too. i got...drunk i guess and well i hooked up with a friend who ive liked for years. She didnt want to cuz of my gf but she reaalllyy wanted to...so yea. I held her and we did the little thing of playing hands or whatever....but i refused to kiss. she basically let me do watever i wanted. Anyways, later that night, my gf posted pictures of her party. now her profile picture is of her and some guy. I got jealous, and immediatley started thinking 'What if she cheated on me'. i became...angry and mad. I noticed that I always had to say i love you first, and when she would say it back, it would be very quick. we were supposed to see each other in chicago over break (cuz i was in with a thing w/my youthgroup) and she was only an hour away (she came to wisconsin and hour up north) we were soo ready to see each other...but bad luck prevailed. her dad wouldnt let her go thursday cuz of an ice storm, friday cuz it was christmas day, saturday i couldnt, and sunday i couldnt...so it kinda was bad from there. her mom is a flight attendant so she gets free flights...so we were Supposed to see each other this weekend...but flights are booked. I feel like shes making up all these excuses not to see me. 3 days ago i told her best friend (im good friends w/her) about how i felt...but ended up sending the texts to my gf (good job eh?) i told her that i felt jealous of her and stuff...and she said shed "NEVR EVER would i cheat on you. your perfect you know that?". what should i think? pleassee help I agree with Rylle and Rollercoasterr. IMHO, Your behavior was despicable, and drink is NEVER an excuse. You knew what you were doing, so cut the pretense of acting as if it was done only because you were drunk. You still write as if you are bragging about what you did, and you show NO remorse for the betrayal to your gf. You only cared about yourself. Your actions were NOT impressive, so I wouldn't be bragging about it if I were you. It really doesn't matter WHAT that girl LET you do...you CHOSE to do it knowing you had another gf already. YOU USED HER! She let you. If you want to cheat...have the integrity to break it off first. At least you are left with some semblance of trust or honor left inside you. How would your girlfriend feel if she found pictures of you and that girl posted on your profile? You think a girl will keep that a secret and your gf won't find out when she comes to visit? Or what if your gf comes to visit and hangs out with your friends and there she is standing with the girl who let you USE her as her PLAYTHING?........ and the only one who doesn't know is your gf? It sounds as if you had to talk that girl into letting you play with her because she made a fake token attempt to say she didn't want to because of your gf, BUT.....she REALLY WANTED TO. She didn't care one bit about your gf.., it was a lie all for show. So, it sure sounds as if you were doing the initiating and chasing after her, not the other way around. You might think you were a BIG guy playing around with some girl...but, you are an immature little man playing games with other people's lives, and you didn't care who you hurt. Grow up!
Miad's Princess Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 I agree with everyone else, You are worried because you DID cheat on her so now you think she has too. Have you ever heard the saying what goes around comes around.... I would end your relationship with her because she deserves better than you, or if you stay I would man up and tell her what you done. In the mean time stop telling her you love her because clearly from your actions you don't...Words are cheap in your case.
Sparkling Posted January 16, 2010 Posted January 16, 2010 In the mean time stop telling her you love her because clearly from your actions you don't...Words are cheap in your case. WELL SAID!! I agree!
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