deux ex machina Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t205641/ ...Making a note of things as they happened is important when it comes to dealing with the crazy. To know it really happened. It’s easy to forget otherwise…I’ve written mine down in a notebook, and I find myself doing it rarely now. The entries became less and less as I have detached – the also focus of them also flipped, from what he did, to what I can to do care for myself. I journal a line or two for the rest of my life in another book (he’s not in in the rest of my life, I feel…). When the year is over, I will likely gather everything up ex-related, stick it in a box, tape it up, and put it away. In a few years I may take it out, may not. Things happen. Yet there is a clear demarcation... So I totally get that feeling of unreality - one starts to think these nutjobs are the sane ones and you're the one with a problem that can only be solved by doing things their way - which is wrong on every level... The manipulations are quite subtle at times, the turning of the tables. It’s crazymaking, thank god for time and distance. Limited contemplation... I did it. Put everything in a box, taped it up, put it all away. Done.
gaudi Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Do you feel this has empowered you ?? I would hope it has. I need to do the same thing. Did you have a lot of stuff ??
missmay Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Screw the box. I had a little outdoor fire last night. Good riddance to bad rubbish!
gaudi Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Screw the box. I had a little outdoor fire last night. Good riddance to bad rubbish! hahaha !! Maybe I should do that too.
twinklecat Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Screw the box. I had a little outdoor fire last night. Good riddance to bad rubbish! Haha! How I wish I could have done that! Was still living under the same roof as my ex for 6 weeks after the split, I ended up having to box all his sh*t up and get it out of my room - I felt extremely empowered, was good to sort through everything and get rid!
Author deux ex machina Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 Do you feel this has empowered you ?? I would hope it has. I need to do the same thing. Did you have a lot of stuff ?? Thanks. I think it has...it feels much like a segmenting off that part of my life. Thankfully, not much was left. I really had to gather it up over the past month of so, I left the open box there in an unobtrusive corner and would put things in it bit by bit. My printer had more of a workout than I thought it would - we IM'd more than I realized. Glancing through some of the earlier stuff, it was really quite striking how I was being "set up" in a sense for what would later play itself out. I hope you do that whenever, and whatever way feels right for you.
Author deux ex machina Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 Screw the box. I had a little outdoor fire last night. Good riddance to bad rubbish! "Burn baby, burn!" - ahaha! I almost did. I gave it a thought. Ah, well. You know, what I think will end up happening is in a year or two I'll stumble upon it, and one of two things is likely: 1. I'll look in it, and feel like I'm looking at such a different time, then put it back away. 2. Look through it, feel nothing in particular, and toss it. I'll probably always keep the journals, though. ---------- hahaha !! Maybe I should do that too. A burning...sounds like a purification ritual, definite.
Author deux ex machina Posted January 15, 2010 Author Posted January 15, 2010 Haha! How I wish I could have done that! Was still living under the same roof as my ex for 6 weeks after the split, I ended up having to box all his sh*t up and get it out of my room - I felt extremely empowered, was good to sort through everything and get rid! Because there will be less there to remind me...de-da-dee-daaaaa-da! Always be less there to remind meeeee - de-da-dee-daaaa-da!
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