1.5 years and gone :(

[Steve_french]

Hi, me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and a half now, wich is probably the longest relationship ive ever been in and she broke up with me 5 days ago. I miss her very much and i really thaught she was the one for me because of the way she understood and treated me, were both really young (both 16) andwe basicly spent everyday that weve been dating together except for a phew that involved her and her family members, and basicly i lived at her house because wed have sleepovers all the time there and work on homework then go to school together the next morning, i miss her very much and she let me off with so little emotion that it felt like she was killing me, she told me a bunch of diffrent reasons for not being able to be with me a phew of wich were that i was a drag because i didnt like going to party's and getting drunk, she didnt love me the way she used to and that she wanted to be more independent. but then the day after she broke up with me she started hanging out with some 22 year old guy for 2 days in a row and im really scared and confused, i dont no what to think because i love her and miss her so much and i dont no how she feels about me. on new years she almost broke up with me to but everything was fine after that, and throughout our entire relationship she talke'd to her ex's behind my back and lied to me ALOT and she always cared about her friends over me but regardless of all these things i miss her and love her so much somone please give me some advice im lost

[GrayClouds]

Sorry for your pain, it does hurt like hell. But you will get through it. The easiest way, not easy, but easiest way is to read the following and do everything suggested:

 

The No Contact Guide

So you want a second chance?

 

She does not respect you and what you two have so it is time to let it go and make yourself stronger. Let your self hurt and go through all of the stages but do give into them. Keep active, exercise like hell and you will heal.

 

Good luck.

[Catseye8]

I'm sorry to hear this, Steve. Don't feel bad about yourself for still loving her and wanting her back; you can't just turn off your feelings for someone because they've treated you badly or let you down (as soooooooooo many people on this board can tell you from bitter experience!). But don't kid yourself that she's not treated you quite badly here, either. This isn't your fault. Don't blame yourself; don't go chasing after her for more answers. Sounds like she doesn't know what on earth she wants right now and you got hit with the fallout, and while lots of people will tell you that that's normal from a 16-year-old, you're living proof yourself that plenty of people your age won't act the same way.

 

No contact. Follow the links in GrayClouds' post. (Are you two at the same school? That's going to limit the amount you can just disappear from her life, but there's ways to cut down on contact with her there, too.) Let yourself hurt and start to heal - and you will, you really will. Let her miss you. She might come back and ask you for another chance in the future, and she might not, but either way the best thing to do for yourself is give yourself that time and space to heal.