daxx Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 my gf of two and a half years recently dumped me about 2.5 months ago and we've been in contact on and off since then. and i tried everyway i could to win her back and failed. after reading many of the posts and guides on this site i realize all the mistakes ive made and that it's probably over for good. a little over a week ago after we went out for dinner and i gave her a belated xmas gift and we started talking more over the weekend, idunno if it was out of pity on her part. but she was telling me personal things about her family that you would have to trust someone to tell them. and she was interested in hanging out w/ me again and doing things i have been begging her to do since we broke up. We didnt end up hanging out the next day like we had planned b/c she wasn't "feeling well". but we did still talk the next evening for a while. but it seems like every time i make an effort to call her or get emotional she just shuts down, and the tone of her voice changes and she tries to get off the phone as quick as she can. after that happened the next day she txt'd me asking if i wanted to meet up after work to talk. which is all i had wanted since we broke up. b/c we hadn't talked in person about any of our issues since the break up. so we went out for a long drive and dinner and talked about things finally. but i have a hard time still believing her reasons for the breakup b/c they seem to be changing from the original reasons and she started bringing up old arguments we had or times that i hurt her that i thought we were over. so neway by the end of a mostly good dinner and on the way home she said she was willing to try but couldnt make any guarantee that things would go back to the way they were. later that nite she called me in high spirits to tell me about one of my buddies brothers who was on tv and we stayed on the phone for a lil while watching the show and laughing about it. so i thought things seemed like they might be getting better or might work out. the next evening i probably made my biggest error by calling her. i wanted to see if she was feeling alright from whatever was bothering her over the weekend but i also asked her two things that probably came too soon. at dinner she had told me about how she was heading home the following weekend to go w/ her bro to get a new puppy. so i asked her, prefacing that it might be too soon, if she wanted company i'd go w/ her. she kinda dodged it saying it depended on whether they would be seeing other family members. i understood. the second question was about valentines day. at dinner she had told me how she's going w/ her family on a trip and the time of the trip includes valentines day. so i asked her if i planned something for the weekend b4 she left if she'd do something w/ me. and she also kinda dodged that one as well saying another family member who recently moved away was going to be in town. i understood. she asked me if i was mad, i said no but from there i cant remember exactly what happened but it all went down hill and by the end of the conversation she was telling me that if i love her ill let her go. and that she loves me but isnt in love w/ me. and at that point i told her i think i understand and said i had to go. we havent talked since, which was 8 days ago, and i dont plan on making an effort to contact her nemore. the only problem besides dealing w/ the breakup and all of the emotions and moving on is that about a year and a half ago she moved in w/ one of my best girl friends that ive had for the past ten years. and i havent really talked to her roommate since this all happened 2.5 months ago. and i feel like ive lost my gf, and im losing one of my best friends that ive had for such a long time and im partially being pushed out of the circle of friends i introduced her to. so even though i dont plan on contacting my gf, should i at some point try and contact my friend? i want to but i dont know if its a bad move or how long i should wait.
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