HLP234 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Good idea joining clubs at school and getting involved in areas where you have a chance to meet more people. You will feel a lot better when it comes to about 3 weeks or more of no contact. In a way you will think of her less, you will still miss her but your shield of NC will be stronger and you will less likely to even think about speaking to her.
Silver_star Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Thanks for the replies guys =) Thanks for the compliment Silver_Star- my friends have all been so supportive of me =) I still get sad, and I fear that sometimes I idolize her and think that I'll never be with someone like her again. And there are times where I stare at the phone wondering if I should call her, but I always manage to refrain from doing so. And I know it's going to take time for me to move on, but I have to- and this will be best in the long run. No matter how sweet she was, she did too many things to me that I can't forget. Going on to day six of no contact and proud of myself. =) She wasnt sweet. She was manipulative. you will be blessed to not have a someone like her in your life. Remember that. You idolize what you wanted her to be, and not who she actually was.
Author HurtStudent Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 You will feel a lot better when it comes to about 3 weeks or more of no contact. In a way you will think of her less, you will still miss her but your shield of NC will be stronger and you will less likely to even think about speaking to her. Well, it's been one week and I had my celebration beer! She hasn't tried contacting me, but I think I'm slowly moving on mentally. I deleted her off msn (I readded her, but had her block) and I have no desire to ever add her again now. I have almost no urge to check up on her at all. I've started going out to clubs, and am actually just so preoccupied with my life right now. I decided I wanted to leave the country and do a Masters in Australia and then teach English in Japan. So that's given me tons to think about. Next week I'm going to Scotland, then I'm going to do Karaokee in London, and then visit Paris after that. (Haha, so hectic.) She wasnt sweet. She was manipulative. you will be blessed to not have a someone like her in your life. Remember that. You idolize what you wanted her to be, and not who she actually was. You are right. She was selfish, self-centered, she would always put me down and would blackmail me emotionally whenever I had a common viewpoint. There was no common ground, no compromise, it was always "my way or the highway." I am actually considering that she may have a Narcissist disorder because she fits the description. Either way, I am moving on with my life and happily keeping up No Contact!
HLP234 Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 That is awesome, good thing you are traveling. You will definitely feel much better. Going out helps a lot too and being with friends and meeting their friends as well. Just be strong when you feel like you are getting down about it and think of something else. Its not that you want them its that you miss the times you used to have with them. But that will change later.
Zeegagge Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 (edited) Dude, please run from this girl screaming as fast as you can!! That's just some evil right there. Er, it seems form the replies that you're getting the idea here. You got off easy here, mate (heh, I don't usually say 'mate' being from the states but I like it.) What was I saying, oh yah, stay as far from her as possible and seriously you will find something so much better. I mean, I scraped something better off the bottom of my shoe this morning so it shouldn't even be that hard for you. Edited January 24, 2010 by Zeegagge
squirly1522 Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 well, i have no evidence! I called her today and she was willing to talk, she explained how she was upset that i said i would pursue a masters here instead of coming to the states. I said i would come to the states if she gave me some form of commitment and she hasn't really replied and just doges my questions. She also dodged the question about me accusing her of cheating. I mean, i don't know any girl who takes that type of thing lightly.... Sigh. Should i just give up? Should i move on? It all seems so much more trouble than its worth, but i do love her at the moment. yes, give up
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