errlack Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 So recently my boyfriend has shared one of his sexual fantasys with me, and the idea really isnt sitting well with me. He is in no way pressuring me to do anything, and I know he is fully entitled to whatever fantasy he wants... But cuming on a girls face just doesnt sit well with me from the standpoint of its gross and degrading (in my personal opinion) AND He told me sometimes when he masturbates he thinks about coming on my face. I know he has not done anything wierd or wrong, but it for some reason disturbs me to the point where it comes into my mind against my permission. I want to know how to get past this, as our relationship is important to me, but this is really grossing me out and in some ways I feel I look at him differently sexually. Any suggestions? has anything like this happened to anyone else?
Malenfant Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 (edited) So recently my boyfriend has shared one of his sexual fantasys with me, and the idea really isnt sitting well with me. He is in no way pressuring me to do anything, and I know he is fully entitled to whatever fantasy he wants... But cuming on a girls face just doesnt sit well with me from the standpoint of its gross and degrading (in my personal opinion) AND He told me sometimes when he masturbates he thinks about coming on my face. I know he has not done anything wierd or wrong, but it for some reason disturbs me to the point where it comes into my mind against my permission. I want to know how to get past this, as our relationship is important to me, but this is really grossing me out and in some ways I feel I look at him differently sexually. Any suggestions? has anything like this happened to anyone else? cumming on a person's face is IMO a very common fantasy for a man. I've never met a man who didnt want to. I'd go as far as to say its not even a fetish, but actually so common that it is quite 'normal'. However, if you find it unacceptable, then by all means dont feel the need to conform to what he likes, but you should accept that it is very normal for him to feel that way. be glad that he thinks about you whilst masturbating. there are a lot worse things he could be thinking about!! Edited January 13, 2010 by Malenfant
TaraMaiden Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Sex with a person you love is the most intimate, close, sensual and personal means of communication you could ever indulge in. But if something is holding you back here, you need to discuss it. This is why revealing/discussing fantasies is a tricky area, and can be a touchy subject.... It's always best to approach certain things in an impersonal manner.... "I read a thread in which a guy *does this* and it turns him on... what do you think of that?" might have been a more roundabout, less confrontational approach. (I was going to say he was "in your face", but maybe, that wouldn't be the right way to put it.....!) Does he know how you feel about it? has he any idea what an aversion it's causing in your mind? Don't you think it would be fair on him to advise him, if it's affecting your relationship with him?
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