staggydev Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 My ex broke up with me 3 months ago. She wanted to be friends but I just said I didn't want to be in the friendzone and asked for no contact as it's never a good idea. She texted for Christmas. I replied civilly. Then she texted a few days later small talk which I ignored. She texted again asking if I am always going to ignore her and I reitterated my no contact policy. The friendship was important to her she said and asked me to see her last Friday night. I ignored that. She texted yesterday smalltalk again but big long messages and I replied twice and ignored the third message. Why is she texting? I was fine when there was no contact and I didn't have to think of her. Now feelings are just coming back.
TaraMaiden Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 The more you respond, the more she will text. you're breaking your own policy. Delete her before even reading the message. Change her name to "Do NOT acknowledge!" on your phone. And follow your own advice. Block her if you can. Don't reply, don't respond, don't give her any indication that texting you will evince a response. This is up to you, not her. Block her at every turn: texts, phone, IM, e-mail, letters, parcels, everything. Do not check MySpace, Facebook or twitter (not saying you do...but if she's on there, block everything.) OK?
Oh Moe Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Listen to some on here they are right. My ex did the same thing, Dumped me after 3 years with no explanation just up and gone. I went total no contact for a week then she called everyday for a month or so. I even asked her not to call, but. The whole time it was just BS she was out whoring around and needed me to be sure if things didn't work out I would be there. She even tried to reconcile while still having a crack head sleeping in our bed. She still 5 months later still sends the occasional useless text. I had to be super mean to her to get her to stop contacting me. After looking back she just wanted security nothing else, I never wanted to dislike her but now I despise her. Ignore her.
gaudi Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Yeah I agree with OP. Neverbe in the "FRIENDZONE" because it's the biggest load of BS ever !! It's a means for EX to show you how big a person they can be by asking about your feelings, what you've been upto, telling you you will find someone special soon, and making them feel even more like they done the right thing. But as has been said many times before it is for the benefit of EX's ego. I honestly believe that they don't even realise this themselves sometimes, I think some of them honestly believe they are helping you by keeping in touch. If they read a few posts on here they would soon wise up though !!!
Oh Moe Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Yeah I agree with OP. Neverbe in the "FRIENDZONE" because it's the biggest load of BS ever !! It's a means for EX to show you how big a person they can be by asking about your feelings, what you've been upto, telling you you will find someone special soon, and making them feel even more like they done the right thing. But as has been said many times before it is for the benefit of EX's ego. I honestly believe that they don't even realise this themselves sometimes, I think some of them honestly believe they are helping you by keeping in touch. If they read a few posts on here they would soon wise up though !!! I thought that but I found out my ex knew exactly what she was doing. She is the neediest person I know and was afraid to be alone because she never was alone. She even once called and in a conversation asked what I thought of her, I told her no opinion since we weren't together anymore and she hounded me for days only because it was a joke and her friends were listening.
gaudi Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 I thought that but I found out my ex knew exactly what she was doing. She is the neediest person I know and was afraid to be alone because she never was alone. She even once called and in a conversation asked what I thought of her, I told her no opinion since we weren't together anymore and she hounded me for days only because it was a joke and her friends were listening. WHAT !!! She seriously did that ?? Well it just goes to show what soem people think of your feelings. That is twisted in the extreme. You're better off out of that one my friend !!
CaliGuy Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Block her number. Move on with your life. It's that simple, really. She just wants a self-esteem boost which she does indeed get whenever you respond. If she really loved you and wanted to be with you, she would be. Since she's not -- well -- actions speak louder than words.
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