LadyS Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Hi everyone, I'm a new member, my name is Sarah. Well, I have been looking around for a while, and now I decided to share my story and get some perspective. I started dating X 2 years back, we got along great, we share things together, soon we got close, fell in love, and everything was great. He said he wanted to marry me, both parts of families knew about it and it was totally amazing. I never felt happier with him but a part of me was always scared to trust him. He coped with this for almost a year until the past 6 months, where I guess he got fed up with my insecurities and untrust. Anyway he started acting distant, fighting and arguing alot with each other. Until one day I found out he got a fb behind my back, and he is talking to Y(who is a far relative, and a friend). We fought about it constantly why would you hide, and all I would get is your actions made me do it. Later, he travelled abroad, didnt contact me for 20 days, when he came I contacted him, he said he wants to carry on and we did. Never like before. He never told me that he loves me or treated me special, untill I got fed up, I saw him out with a girl once in the movies(he saw my car, he sent me a text saying I'm coming with this girl, she's just a friend). things got worse by day, he would never initiate contact, it was always me, until 3 weeks back I asked what do you want from me? He said i can be your friend and that's all. I decided to move on and go NC. I have been doing really well, didnt break it nor have the urge to, but he wouldn't leave me alone. He never contacts me but he shows up everyother day to my work place, sometimes with a girl, and others with his friends. I would be luying if I said there's 1% hope inside me, but I'm very tired. I accepted the break up. He is trying now to get into the circle of friends, he goes out with people who know my colleuges at work, and I feel he is creeping in and all I want is him to stay away and let me move on. I dont know I just need perspective from you guys. Sorry for the long post. Love,
lmauk Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Your doing great (better than me lol) I would say he probably is trying to creep in. But that doesnt change anything - dont fall for it. He's probably just lonely or didnt work out with someone else. My ex did the same - slowly worked his way back we had a great time together push came to shove he still didnt want to be with me. Keep your head held high! looks like you walked with a lot of dignity. keep a hold of that!! How long ago did you split? got any tips for getting over people lol
Nikki Sahagin Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Worming his way in? God some exes have no shame. Keep strong. You can't control his actions but you can control your own. If you have any close friends in this circle that you trust (and wont gossip) you could express your unease about him being there and do things without him. Otherwise, let him be there, just don't react to him. Be friendly but brief. If he is only getting in with your friends to get to you, eventually he will realise you aren't responding and go AWOL again
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