Ro2Pi Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I always get a bad tone or impression when I shake someone's hand and it feels like a dolphin's flipper or something. I know it's not fully rational but it just gives a sense of not caring. Just recently I met a person who was extremely buff but had a handshake of a 5 year old. Anyone else feel this way or should I just take it down a notch?
Hot Carl Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 While I also expect a strong handshake from a man, I wouldn't make much out of it. There's more to a guy than that. I will, however, lose all respect for a guy who lets his woman drive the car. A guy sitting passively in the passenger's seat, out of control, is just wrong.
Malenfant Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I always get a bad tone or impression when I shake someone's hand and it feels like a dolphin's flipper or something. I know it's not fully rational but it just gives a sense of not caring. Just recently I met a person who was extremely buff but had a handshake of a 5 year old. Anyone else feel this way or should I just take it down a notch? PMSL!! i know just what you mean. I copied this from a site to do with communication in business: Owning a weak handshake: A weak handshake signals uncertainty, hesitation, a lack of integrity, a lack of confidence, assertiveness, and a lack of courage. It quite possibly also triggers subconscious responses in the recipient that cause them to focus more and for longer on your handshake than on your message. i dont agree with the integrity part, but i think generally it indicates a lack of confidence, or if not that, then a sign that the person isnt bothered about greeting you warmly. a weak handshake can come across as a bit cold. either way, its not generally welcomed by the receipient! I dont think a person should be judged solely on their handshake (obviously) but it does affect that 'first impression'
Nikki Sahagin Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 My dad says he judges a man by his handshake. A strong handshake represents confidence, authority and good intentions whereas a weak one, my dad says, indicates the person is not of strong character or is untrustworthy. Its weird the cues you get from such little things.
Simon Attwood Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 One of my hobbies is bladesmithing; forge, anvil, hammer and hot steel, that kind of thing. And there is quite a big community of them around the world and we often have get togethers called "Hammerins". As you can imagine, most of the guys that show up are not 8 stone weaklings. There was one guy, though, that had the most knuckle breaking hand shake!! When he left the room everyone turned to each other and said ... "Small penis"
Ross PK Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Take it down a notch. I don't think it means they don't care. If it means anything, it could just be low confidence or nervousness or whatever.
PandorasBox Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 My dad says he judges a man by his handshake. A strong handshake represents confidence, authority and good intentions whereas a weak one, my dad says, indicates the person is not of strong character or is untrustworthy. Its weird the cues you get from such little things. I understand this and it seems it would make sense. But I guess it depends on who it is. For example, I knew a man once years ago, who had a very strong handshake....he even believed himself about handshakes and what it said about a person, he must have not known hoimself to well then, ha!...however the funny thing is, even though he had a strong firm handshake...he was a lair, a cheat, a control freak, and very manipulative! Very untrustworthy. Another man I knew who was a family friend, had a very limp weak handshake..whenever he would touch someone on the back or hug them it was weak as well or whatever he did was done softly I guess you could say.......Most that knew him found him to be a caring gentle soul, a trustworthy man with good morals, character and intergrity. So I guess it just depends.
JackJack Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 Actually I don't define people by their handshake. A weak one, or firm one doesn't tell a persons true character. Actions do though.
2sure Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I cannot stand a mamby pamby hand shake from either a man nor a woman. I like a firm grasp & eye contact - even if there is a line of hands to shake. When someone gives me a floppy hand shake, I get the impression that they are not interested in meeting me/greeting me or that they are socially inept. On the other hand, when a man shakes my hand too firmly, painfully ...I get the impression that he is trying to be more than he is. I've been right on this one a number of times. A person's handshake may have no bearing on their real personality but it is important because it is a key factor when delivering that first impression.
blair08 Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I understand this and it seems it would make sense. But I guess it depends on who it is. For example, I knew a man once years ago, who had a very strong handshake....he even believed himself about handshakes and what it said about a person, he must have not known hoimself to well then, ha!...however the funny thing is, even though he had a strong firm handshake...he was a lair, a cheat, a control freak, and very manipulative! Very untrustworthy. Another man I knew who was a family friend, had a very limp weak handshake..whenever he would touch someone on the back or hug them it was weak as well or whatever he did was done softly I guess you could say.......Most that knew him found him to be a caring gentle soul, a trustworthy man with good morals, character and intergrity. So I guess it just depends. I agree. I have come in contact with the opposite of what they say a handshake means as well. I knew a guy that my father worked with for years, he had a nice firm handshake, and was complete opposite, of what his firm handshake was supposed to possibly indicate. Perhaps his firm handshake was a cover and to make people think he was strong, likeable, confident etc, because that he was not. So yes, I agree it depends on the the person. And even though I don't particularly care to feel a weak handshakes, I don't sit and ponder over whether it may or may not break a person as far as their character goes, based on a handshake.
gopher Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 I agree about weak handshakes, they are a bit distracting as well. I used to see a guy at church who would shake your hand at least 10 times before letting go of it, kind of odd.
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